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littlesarbonn -> RE: A spark of interest (12/28/2007 6:40:42 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Have you ever noticed that so many are out there with hopes of meeting, but they cant keep up a simple email convo? If it's really what they want, do it or gett off of the pot already.
Going back to the original post (the rest of this thread has gone off the usual route of "I can't stand it when men keep writing me when I've already turned them down):
There could be something else going on as well, because I know that I often find myself as one of those "hopefuls" that discontinues an email conversation. For me, after a certain amount of conversation, I start to believe that the person isn't really interested in me, but is being polite by continuing the conversation. I realize that she probably has multiple conversations going on with many other guys (due to the ratios of who attracts more conversations), so I cut my losses and hope to find someone else that's interested in continuing a conversation that will actually lead to something.
And by something, I don't mean instant play, sex, or anything of that nature. I mean actually meeting someone in person to see if we're socially compatible with each other. But that so rarely happens because people are trying so hard to ward off any potential partner through email first, that I honestly believe there are some really cool people who have made the hoops to reach them so difficult that they've in reality given up on actually connecting with anyone but some ideal that doesn't exist or decided with a simple game theoretic rational choice perspective to just find someone who doesn't make it so difficult to connect.
Email conversations a lot of times end up being small talk bantering that I really despise with a passion. It's one reason I don't do well on instant messenger because I generally don't have a lot of inane things to say to someone but tend to be more forthright with important things and then move from there. But in this type of atmosphere, you end up having to be "conversational" over and over to the point of absurdity. I was in one "conversation"-relationship for some time that ended up with continuous miscommunications because she wouldn't just pick up the phone and call (or give a phone number so that someone could call her). Finally, as great a person as she may have been, I ended up just giving up because nonstop frustrating conversations really don't lead to fruitful relationships.
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