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SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:36:08 AM)
On a related note, I'm surprised by how many profile views I get from subs who, when I check out theirs, say they're collared or otherwise taken. Maybe they're just being friendly? Any other ideas why attached subs would check me out? It ain't looks; I don't scare babies, but no one will mistake me fror Brad Pitt (or Denzel Washington, for that matter.) Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

julietsierra -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:36:35 AM)
shrug So far, I haven't found that anything is worth more than a "no thank you." And if someone wants to call my Master names...well... I know how to use the block feature. I mean, it's not like what they're saying is actually impacting his life, my life or our relationship. juliet

DesFIP -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:38:23 AM)
The ones who say "I'm sorry you're taken, because I think we might have possibilites. Contact me if things change" aren't being nasty, just honest if tactless. As far as the others, I do think that it is because anyone who is taken has proven themselves to be competent to handle a relationship and that's rare. Of course they aren't recognizing that Fox has only proven himself to be capable of handling a relationship with you, and there is no guarantee of a relationship with anyone else ever working out. Which is why I really object to people who 'will' their slaves to another, not recognizing that the human heart won't transfer title nearly as well as a car. If we want to talk about how to handle rude emails, I think I've hit upon something. The vulgar ones I now write back demanding they tell their mother what they said to me, and ask her for a crash course on manners since of course she won't approve of them. The one yesterday who wrote wondering if he might ask where in NY I was, I answered by saying of course he might ask but I wasn't planning to answer. I then lambasted him on not seeing the obvious words indicating I wasn't interested. And then I directed him to the Ask a Sub forum where there are two threads on how to get responses, since he obviously was clueless and needed help. I find that if I send a polite no thanks, I get bitchy responses back. If I lecture them on their lack of social skills, they slink away, tails between their legs. Try it folks and see how well it works, I really am interested. But in the past I sent him one email from some creep who wouldn't give up to handle and another one, a weirdo who sent several strange emails without ever getting a response, he happened upon in my inbox and he sent an answer to that stopped the writer.

sweetstorm -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:39:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill On a related note, I'm surprised by how many profile views I get from subs who, when I check out theirs, say they're collared or otherwise taken. Maybe they're just being friendly? Any other ideas why attached subs would check me out? It ain't looks; I don't scare babies, but no one will mistake me fror Brad Pitt (or Denzel Washington, for that matter.) Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink) Maybe they've seen you in the forums and just wanted to read your profile? It isn't necessarily sexual interest someone is showing just by reading your profile! [;)]

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:39:53 AM)
even being collared doesn't stop poachers from sending "i'm better than your Daddy" letters. they look beyond that as a test of your loyalty to your other. when i posted in my journal in Jan the joy i had of Daddy collaring me, i had a dom message me saying it wouldn't last and that i could do much better than Him. i simply asked what could he offer that Daddy hasn't given me. his response back - it was a test to see how loyal and committed i was to Daddy.

lronitulstahp -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:40:54 AM)
quote: Maybe they've seen you in the forums and just wanted to read your profile? It isn't necessarily sexual interest someone is showing just by reading your profile! [;)] Guilty, as charged....[8\|]

sweetstorm -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:45:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl even being collared doesn't stop poachers from sending "i'm better than your Daddy" letters. they look beyond that as a test of your loyalty to your other. when i posted in my journal in Jan the joy i had of Daddy collaring me, i had a dom message me saying it wouldn't last and that i could do much better than Him. i simply asked what could he offer that Daddy hasn't given me. his response back - it was a test to see how loyal and committed i was to Daddy. That's really... incredibly.... LAME. [:@]

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:45:35 AM)
on the flipside: sometimes i wonder why dominants view the profile of this collared/engaged submissive. it's not the looks since i'm not as beautiful as Halle Barry or Angela Bassett it's definitely not the journal entries nor do i have sexually suggesive photos on there yet Daddy and SO find it rather amusing and entertaining that unattached dominants continue to view me. edited to add - i know it has nothing to with sexual interest ...merely curious about the workings and motives of the male mind.

julietsierra -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:46:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill On a related note, I'm surprised by how many profile views I get from subs who, when I check out theirs, say they're collared or otherwise taken. Maybe they're just being friendly? Any other ideas why attached subs would check me out? It ain't looks; I don't scare babies, but no one will mistake me fror Brad Pitt (or Denzel Washington, for that matter.) Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink) I am very much "otherwise taken" but I LOVE to read other people's profiles. I love seeing how they word things, reading about the things they enjoy and/or dislike and if they have pictures, I like looking at those too. Just because I do these things does not mean I am interested in any way, shape or form in leaving what I have, finding someone in addition to what I have or even, god forbid, finding someone on the side without my Master's knowledge. Look at it this way, if there weren't the "who's viewing you" feature on this site, you'd never even know I'd perused your profile. Besides, unless someone has such self-confidence issues as to believe that just because I click on his or her name I'm laughing at them, then they might as well just consider it a compliment and be done with it. juliet

KatyLied -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:46:54 AM)
quote: He does not want me snarking on doms in email. I have to ask, why respond at all? Why not ignore them? That's what I do and I rarely have issues with people repeatedly begging me for responses.

julietsierra -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:51:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied quote: He does not want me snarking on doms in email. I have to ask, why respond at all? Why not ignore them? That's what I do and I rarely have issues with people repeatedly begging me for responses. I respond because, for me, it's the polite thing to do. Not to mention, in my e-mail list, it shows if I've responded or not and I can keep track of things better. If I haven't responded and I can't recall the e-mail, I'll pull it back up to re-read it. I keep them so that I can recall if someone's contacted me more than once or not. Everyone has their own ways and ideas of how to manage things that works for them. juliet

velvetears -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 8:57:32 AM)
spam email and snail mail annoy me but it's a reality of life i cannot alter... the less energy i give to it the better off i am. So little time, why waste it on such trivialities as rude pixels that have absolutely zero impact on my existence?

OsideGirl -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 9:16:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied It never bothered me to get those sort of emails. Some people will try anything. I also would not respond to those emails. Why be bothered by silly internet behavior? Ditto. I just delete. Why bother Master with such idiocy.

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 9:31:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra they might as well just consider it a compliment and be done with it. So taken! I know that when I click on a sub's profile link on the forums, and she says she's taken, I punch out. I was really just curious. Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

Emperor1956 -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 11:06:20 AM)
Why do I view profiles? It has absolutely nothing with a desire for the poster, or my status, or any other "motive" ascribed. Sometimes, someone posts something touching, thoughtful or amusing, and I want to see a bit more about the writer. Sometimes, someone posts something so incredibly stupid, selfish or self-absorbed that I want to see what sort of genetic mistake could have the wherewithal to type that message. You decide which category you fall into. E.

sweetstorm -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 11:20:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 Sometimes, someone posts something so incredibly stupid, selfish or self-absorbed that I want to see what sort of genetic mistake could have the wherewithal to type that message. You decide which category you fall into. ROFLMAO!!! [sm=biggrin.gif] [edited for misplacement of smiley]

jakeskajira -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 11:25:34 AM)
I read other people's profiles all the time and occasionally send them a message, just to say hi. I am very clearly taken and in a monogamous relationship and I've made that CLEAR in my profile.... I am here to find platonic friendships with others in the lifestyle.. people who can understand why we are us... trying to mesh in with vanilla people is very hard for me... I am not vanilla.. I won't pretend to be, because I am not... I do like making new friends, I do like talking to people.. I also try and give people the benefit of the doubt... Master and I get tons and tons of "please let us serve both of you." I kindly direct them to my Master and ask them not to contact me again as I am a slave, not a Domme. :) I get alot of "omg your so hawt" ... I kindly thank them and send them my Masters contact info. They usually don't contact me back.

littlelostbunny -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 11:37:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: catize My response to poachers…… “I am only an egg.” cracks up [:D] I'll admit to being someone who sees people in the forums and then checks out their profiles. I also agree with Emperor's catagories. [:)]

came4U -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 11:54:49 AM)
quote: Did you get nasty, stay polite, block and ignore without a reply? All of the above. No song and dance drama, just answer or don't answer the mails.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Poachers... (12/29/2007 12:04:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 Why do I view profiles? It has absolutely nothing with a desire for the poster E. [sm=river.gif]

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