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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 3:37:48 PM   
DesertRat


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Depends on the people, in my view. I'll range from early 20s to early 60s. My first real slave was 19 when I was 53. As for 'cultural touchstones', her fave musicians were Simon and Garfunkel. I just loved it when she called me a 'senile old coot'. I've had wonderful times with girls in their 40s, and  early and late 50s, too. It's the person, not the number.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 3:38:51 PM   
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Time to just smack my head.  We need a little guy icon with a bat, beating a dead horse on the ground.


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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 3:39:27 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

What is considered a reasonable age difference for a solid D/s relationship?
Indeed there will be the normal "whatever works" inputs, but at core we all operate with a range that we consider appropriate.

Myself being one of the more"elder" of the dominant group have a fairly rigid parameter that will work for a long term relationship, but since so many profiles tend to make age a criteriain their profiles, it a subject for a consensus review.

CP


For me, it it all depends on the person's life experience. How did they handle past relationships (not just D/s but all facets of human interaction), what sort were they in, and what are they actually looking for that I can and WANT to provide.  Are they mentally sound enough to handle the dynamic.  Do they want a partner in it all or just a crutch.  Examine YOUR needs and expectations first.   
 
Your juniors will ALWAYS feel they are old enough.. we elders wonder if it's really going to be worth it 

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 3:42:20 PM   
unforegvn


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Status: offline 		I have a formula that keeps me from playing in the same sandbox as my 'children'  we came up with it when my kids started dating and it works~

{age divided by two add seven}

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 3:56:23 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: Evility
You never seem to hear from the crowd with someone in their 80s and the other in their 50s. It seems like a viable concept until you extrapolate is down the road a piece.

Unless the older party has money. Then I can dig it.



My slave bruce has a relationship with a man who is 20 years or so older. slave bruce is 48. No money involved at all. I know of a few other gay couples who also fit this description. I'd probably know more, but people who are in their 70s still, very much, live by the social norms of their generation...which was pre-hippy social revolution. I think that affects how open they are about their sexuality and whatnot. Hell, my mom doesn't even date or have sex any more (yes, I've asked!). She's in her 60s.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 3:57:24 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The OP seems to be asking two questions "What is a reasonable age distance for A solid relationship" and "What is a reasonable age distance for YOUR solid relationship"

A) whatever works
B) whatever works, though I consider above 70 and under 15 at this point highly unlikely

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 4:01:40 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		greetings celticprince,

there is an age gap of about 35 years between my master and me (i am 20, he is 54). we've been together for two years now and are still going strong, so it works for us (at least so far, lol). in my previous d/s relationship, there was an age gap of 4 years between my dominant and me.

i don't know what constitutes a good age difference for a "solid" relationship - just what i know from my experiences, and that is that it is more about the person i am with and their personality and how we relate than their age specifically - and that because of my positive experiences, i wouldn't discount anyone on the basis of age unless it was illegal.

respectfully,
annabelle.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 4:44:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not know if there is a reasonable age difference for a solid D/s relationship.  I do know that for me, I prefer a man to be some years younger than myself, but again, that depends on the man.  

When I met my current husband, he was 24 and I was 36.  That was 10 years ago.  Sure, there has been the odd adjustment here and there for us (and mostly it has been in terms of how we define various things like 'wife' and 'husband': the definitions came from different places within us, but have now converged), but I believe that people who are destined to be together for whatever reason will find each other and the age factor will become null.

I get a kick out of the fact that he listens to Glenn Miller; he chuckles whenever I download a new Nickelback song onto my mp3 player. 

The fact that there is amusement and tolerance for the differences in the other is the real crux of any relationship. 



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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 4:49:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

What is considered a reasonable age difference for a solid D/s relationship?
CP

I cant answer for everyone, but I think the answer to this depends on the solid D/s realtionship. Is it a romantic, D/s relationship, a 24/7 constant partnership, primary playmates... depending on what the partnership entails changes my answer for this. Fox is 10 years younger than me, Angel is 7. I have had pets and patners as young as 18 and as old as 40, though my preference is for younger men. I have never gone into any of those relationships with anything but the expectation that they were goingto be long term, even if that didnt wrk out. They were all what I'd consider solid.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 5:21:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: unforegvn

I have a formula that keeps me from playing in the same sandbox as my 'children'  we came up with it when my kids started dating and it works~

{age divided by two add seven}


Good formula.   When I started here, I set my search engine's "minimum age" to 39, because of the same reasons you mentioned. 


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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 5:35:01 PM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		I learned a very tough lesson about age. I used to have very strict age limits on ladies I would be involved with. Most of those relationships tanked. Then a very astute young lady (1/2 my age) told me some "facts" after I realized that I lost a great love (yes it was her).

Age doesn't matter. What matters is if the two of you can sit down and talk about passions and interests you share in life. I'm not talking about BDSM or D/s or that aspect. I'm talking about passion for politics, views on what is going on in the world or dreams about the kind of society you would like to see us evolve into. Ideas that are shared or discussed are important as is our views on religions and how we view the spiritual aspects of the world.

I am a liberal, but not in the traditional sense. I enjoy discussions of politics (both American and global). I enjoy different cultures, with friends from all over the world. I have no time for people who think race, sexual preference, sex, or religion make one person better than another. I see strength in the diversity of society. I don't have to be around people who are just like me to be comfortable.

I am more interested in finding someone who understands these ideas and wants to be a part of it.

So, age is just an interesting facet of a lady. Much more important is what music she enjoys, what books she reads, how she feels about alternative energy or her views on what is the best economic model for the world. Does she understand global warming? Is she racist? Can she think? Do we share enough to have conversations, yet are we different enough to have some spark in our conversations? Do we find each other physically attractive? Do we share a vision of the future? Do we share ideas of how a relationship should grow over time?

Now, if I contact you and you feel I'm too old, don't worry. I no longer feel slighted by that. If you feel I am too strange, that is probably true. If you feel that maturity means I have to give up my wonderment of the world and stifle my quest for knowledge and wisdom, then I am too young for you. That is important.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 5:42:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Consensus review? You're seriously planning on taking a poll and allow the results to determine what works for you? Hopefully I misread that.

I need someone of my age, same life experiences. Borne ums, buried parents, remember Vietnam, Challenger, the landing on the moon and JFK's assasination. The life I have lived, and the sweeping changes on the nation have helped shaped me into whom I am today. Someone without those same influences would not be able to understand me.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 6:50:42 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Indeed there will be the normal "whatever works" inputs, but at core we all operate with a range that we consider appropriate.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 6:54:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Age has no baring, it is the maturity and mentality that matters.
 
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I wish it didnt matter.  being 37...in the middle of everyone else...the youngins dont want me cause im to old...and im not old enough for the good old oldies.... stuck in the middle all alone!!!



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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 7:01:50 PM   
moonvine


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Status: offline 		My last dom was 24 and I was um...38 I think?  39?  I can't remember exactly...

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 7:05:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Reasonable age is subjective. Reasonable can be anything for different people. I am 34 and Master is 56, seems reasonable to me. I don't choose based on age. I look at the whole picture not just the chronological age of someone. I know what has worked for me and when something feels right I go with it.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 9:30:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Age is generally NOT an issue for me ... i am 51 and Master is 36. i was looking for a person not a number ... as others have said, it is way more important that W/we have similar worldviews, ethics, values, interests, styles etc. For a while there was a bit of a musical gulf between U/us as i am a longtime folkie in terms of performance, He is a rock guitarist. However, i have always enjoyed listening to a wide range of music and there is plenty of classic rock in my collection. But of late W/we have been putting together a musical duo to play classic rock for gigs ... once i submitted my expertise to Him, W/we have got along just fine! Otherwise, there is a LOT W/we have in common ... when W/we travel W/we are both interested in the same things, so O/our "big trip around Oz" turned out to be a cemetery tour and historical discovery of the extent of Australia's involvement in WWII that they didn't teach U/us at school! It's more of a standing joke between U/us when i mention something or hum a song and He looks blank ... oh that's before You were born! It only gets scary when He reminds me that W/we started school at the time ... He started primary school as i began teaching high school LOL!

In terms of subs, I am equally not concerned with age ... it is definitely a lesser factor. I liked Lordandmaster's answer LOL! And diapers at any age isn't one of My kinks LOL!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/3/2008 10:02:30 PM   
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Unlike most of the replies...age is an absolute influence on my choice of considering someone.

I will never consider anyone who is technically old enough to be my parent or my child. I also find that men over the age of around 42 are too far away from me goal-wise. Mainly b/c most of them have already been married, had kids, and divorced...I'm not in that place. Men that are under 27, I don't find have enough life experience to relate well to where I am now.

I am flexible with those parameters, but the parent/child possibility would never leave my head if I did enter into a relationship with someone around 13yrs older/younger, so I won't compromise on that.


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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/4/2008 3:59:46 AM   
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Worry not about it as they who ask have yet to know the value of age.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/4/2008 4:02:44 AM   
CelticPrince


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Thanks for the input, I will put it in the model answer column.

CP

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