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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 2:38:14 AM

rosanegra

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I prefer that they not be in diapers.... on either end of the spectrum.

John

I am guessing this means you aren't a fan of diaper play.....

Personally, Daddy and I are actually very very close in age. As in... 1 year and 9 mos apart. But I've had a serious relationship with someone as much as a decade older than me, and flings with people old enough to actually be my father.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 3:28:23 AM

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There is an almost nineteen year age gap between my submissive and I (he is 25, I am soon to be 44). Initially I thought I would hit a lot of obstacles family/friend-wise, and I'm thankful that we've encountered none at all. My family accept and love him, his have welcomed me with open arms. Sure, I have to accept that I am not as agile as he, but we have a marriage of minds, his level of emotional/intellectual maturity is greater than most persons I encounter and I have generally found that age has little bearing on attitude/outlook.

But lets talk honestly, all the romance in the world won't alter the fact that relationships aren't just about two persons being in love. Issues such as having children have to be taken into consideration. Had Reality wanted to have children in the future, I could not have worked at cementing a relationship with him. I'm to be 44 in March, have a grown up son of 23 who is just two years younger than Reality and while I do know of many women in their forties having children, I also know it isn't for me and my child-bearing days have been at an end for some time. My boy and I discussed this at length, and sure he could change his mind later on in life, that is a chapter I will work through should we ever encounter it, although I am confident he won't alter his mind.

Am I fearful he will leave me for a younger Domme - No. I am secure in who I am and what we can continue achieving together.

But we are governed, to some extent, by social conforms and the persons we encounter prejudice from are those that see us walking hand-in-hand and look stunned/and or full of admiration. That's fine though, they don't personally know us and therefore cannot see how much we complement one another and I would much rather have the life I do, which is of personal growth, than one filled with fear and prejudice.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 6:34:29 AM

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Ok here is my biggest problem with lifestyle peeps or people in this lifestyle. They think because it works for one person it should work for the masses.. How stupid is that lets be real folks. Just cuase it works for one or two dose not mean it will work for a majority
Social trends come and go. It is a path that each of us must decide for our own selves. just cause you want to get kinky freaky with a younger person who maybe stimulates the cortex of your thought process dose not mean it is going to work for a long time meaning 15 years or more . most reg relationships or lifestyle types never make it past 5. For crying out loud do not just settle because someone makes you laugh there is a whole group of responsiblites to a relationship that people forget. Its not just a sex thing its a we can make something wonderful to last a life time. Watch soceity see the freight train a comming cause its on the tracks of social change yeah buddy lol

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 6:37:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: Rover

I prefer that they not be in diapers.... on either end of the spectrum.

John

LOL I'm going to have to go with this astute answer and not read 5 pages of yet one more discussion on age. OP it is whatever the person you are talking to says it is for them.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 6:54:35 AM

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LTXBaby, I think the misconception regarding relationships is that people have this notion that they're meant to 'last forever'. Relationships last as long as the two persons wish them to, whether that be 'forever', the two, five, ten years or more. The duration of a relationship isn't the most important aspect to it, some people aren't capable of longevity but that doesn't mean their relationship is diminished in any way.

And just as there are no guarantees that my own relationship will see longevity, we get out of relationships what we put into them, with each contributing 100% and we personally take our responsibilities very seriously. Regardless of the dynamics of a couple's relationship they can only speak for themselves, as I do with mine.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 6:54:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

chia,

I guess that depends on what "going into" refers to and who is the 80 or 20!

CP

By jove, I think you've got it!

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 7:02:27 AM

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Touchy touchy.

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I guess there's a fundamental crossing point in life when a woman's age becomes greater than her bra size.

And what exactly would that have to do with anything?

Was it meant to be funny?

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 8:11:31 AM

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hi it depends on the chemistry f the people trying to get together,i am 51 i haver had slaves from 32 ,to 19 years old,,i prefer 20 somethings in slaves but here are some thoughts ,,it is true older Masters die first leavig the slave to seek another,i find on this site many slaves will not consider someone my age,now some will and i have spoken with them!i think it is whatever works for the people trying to form a Master Slave thing to decide,i dont think there is a pat answer to that question

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 8:19:12 AM

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I think I crossed over some invisible line. I started this lifestyle in my mid-20s with others who were in their late 30s and 40s. It was a good fit. Now I am pushing the hell out of 40 and the thought of a young, inexperienced 20-something just doesn't do it for me. I have already raised kids, don't want to do it again.

50 is looking damn good these days- gray haired temples, laugh lines, a few eye wrinkles when they get that devious grin...

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 8:20:45 AM

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Why find a patch to something that could be magical with the right person
right meaning all levels not just a flag of convenice . most people on here do what is easy not what is right. yeah you can get into the well what is right for you is not for me and yadda yadda in the end it is the fact in the mirror after years of trail and error what did i do to get where i am if it was worth it or not and how never do it again. If you are following the beat to your own drum cool if your doing it because someone said it was cool then life is gonnna suck for you. rofl just a fact . some people well what can you say are beyond that common sense thing. shock theropy does wonders rofl

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 8:27:56 AM

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I truly don't think age is anything but a number. I seek a younger Dom and hope that one day I will find Him. I feel that I can serve just as well if not better than a 20 something girl. I hope to one day get my chance to prove it.

Still seeking,
Lulu :)

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 8:30:31 AM

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All of My pups have been in their 20's and 30's, and are intelligent, grateful and sexually eager to explore: older men seem to be switchier which is not a flavour I enjoy let alone tolerate, and wrapped up in their own vanilla pursuits or fetishes; much prefer boys and sex toys to trying to tear older men away from their hobbies.

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 8:39:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan

LTXBaby, I think the misconception regarding relationships is that people have this notion that they're meant to 'last forever'. Relationships last as long as the two persons wish them to, whether that be 'forever', the two, five, ten years or more. The duration of a relationship isn't the most important aspect to it, some people aren't capable of longevity but that doesn't mean their relationship is diminished in any way.

And just as there are no guarantees that my own relationship will see longevity, we get out of relationships what we put into them, with each contributing 100% and we personally take our responsibilities very seriously. Regardless of the dynamics of a couple's relationship they can only speak for themselves, as I do with mine.

Well said Miss Morrigan!
This is my take on it as well. i think the pressure people impose on themselves that something must last forever, dooms many relationships from the start~

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 10:17:33 AM

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In the past, I have set myself to fail without realising it. I demanded x, y and z and it's all very well to have a checklist for a relationship, but when we do that we take something very important out of the equation - the other person. Once I climbed out of my own arse (no mean feat!) and down from the ivory tower I had put myself in, I found it was actually quite enjoyable to relate with other individuals regardless of however long the relationships lasted and I learned so much from each of them. The idea is that they also learned something from me too ;-)

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ORIGINAL: dawntreader
Well said Miss Morrigan!
This is my take on it as well. i think the pressure people impose on themselves that something must last forever, dooms many relationships from the start~

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 10:38:07 AM

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SeeksOnlyOne, Love the way you put it: 'the one rule i know i will always have is "if it is young enough to have come out of me, there is no way it is going in me". '

I am the same way - it just mess's with my head to much to think of kneeling or calling a Dom who could be one of my son's Master.

I can respect a man of any age if he shows he deserves it, but do not expect me to treat any Dom differently than I would one of my own children (if you are of their age).

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 10:42:29 AM

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MissM,

Your thoughts are very instiefull, I wish it continues to be great for you both. thanks for sharing.

CP

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 10:45:23 AM

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LatexB

A very well said commentary. thanks for the summation.

CP

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 10:52:52 AM

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MasterS,

Agreed there is no pat answer, but there has been some excellent input to this thread.

CP

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 11:04:08 AM

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Mam,

chuckles, I do feel your pain!

Thanks for your input.

CP

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RE: Age Difference on the Path - 1/5/2008 1:10:08 PM

LATEXBABY64

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ah I see its a numbers game I like numbers game kinda of sudako something like that
but really come back and say that when your 55 if your just after transparent relationships go for but you will out on the one you really suppose to hitch with sad sad oh well lol

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