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Tantriqu -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/7/2008 7:37:06 PM)
Ask a Lifestyle Domme: Do you think he's attracting pros because of his fetish? yes. Don't know a straight Domme who is sexually aroused by tv/infantilism. Would a non-pro Domme think of monetary tribute? never. I ask for poetry, which is much more demanding. And I'm getting a whiff of smart-ass masochist who says he's submissive but just wants to be top from the bottom for his own pleasure.

PinkFeatherdPeg -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/7/2008 10:57:16 PM)
I certainly Don't...Jeez! <3 peG

rubberpet -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 7:18:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong quote: ORIGINAL: rubberpet There are dommes out there who don't ask or require tribute, but they are far and few between. .. and usually already committed to their submissive(s) (I know.. because I am one of those) Amen, Ms. LotusSong. The ones that don't require tribute are usually committed to they subby. You are one and so is my goddess. [:)] See??? Look how few there are! [:D]

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 12:09:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tantriqu Ask a Lifestyle Domme: Do you think he's attracting pros because of his fetish? yes. Don't know a straight Domme who is sexually aroused by tv/infantilism. Would a non-pro Domme think of monetary tribute? never. I ask for poetry, which is much more demanding. And I'm getting a whiff of smart-ass masochist who says he's submissive but just wants to be top from the bottom for his own pleasure. Perhaps your right. Hope not!

slavekal -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 12:42:53 PM)
That is hot, Jen. Who did that? Princess Sierra? I know she sometimes literally takes guys to the bank.

MsSaskia -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 12:52:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 Actually no not one claimed to be a pro domme. I do read peoples profiles and take time in sending meesages. Also I haven't always been the first to contact. Lets not jump to assumptions. I can only go by what you originally posted, which was that all the responses you got were asking for money. A response is not a first contact.

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 1:23:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSaskia quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 Actually no not one claimed to be a pro domme. I do read peoples profiles and take time in sending meesages. Also I haven't always been the first to contact. Lets not jump to assumptions. I can only go by what you originally posted, which was that all the responses you got were asking for money. A response is not a first contact. To clear up confusion when I said "response" I meant a response to an add or a response to a message sent. In future I shall endeavour to use the terms "first contact" and "response" where appropriate. Apologies.

BoiJen -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 1:58:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavekal That is hot, Jen. Who did that? Princess Sierra? I know she sometimes literally takes guys to the bank. I know it is I about wet myself when I heard it. It's actually one of MsK's stories from a number of years ago. She then got him for a tip...finanical control was the guy's thing and for MsK it's THE big difference between personal and business...and so of course She's the one in control of that aspect because She doesn't just sell the fantasy...She sells the domination as well. That was my bed time story and lesson for New Year's. :)

slavekal -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 2:05:06 PM)
Ms. K has a lot of imagination and energy. She is never in short supply of those. Ms. M envies her inexhaustible supply of new ideas.

BoiJen -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 2:45:17 PM)
ahhh...speaking of new ideas...I SO need to get MsK's calendar straightened out so that we call all have coffee and maybe share some of them ;) Much love Kal to you and Ms M PS I hate when I forget to log out of Her account

slavekal -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 3:25:06 PM)
Just call her or email her. Here or on her regular email account. She may have some time this weekend.

GoddessTeaze -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 4:00:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 I have noticed all the reponses i get seem to ask for a tribute upfront. Is this normal for dommes to do or are they trying to scam me? Yeah I always ask if they can start with paying My rent, and buy Me a car, and I've seen great boots, and when they turn Me down, then they aren't worth of My time ! [sm=banana.gif] I hope ya learned by now, that not Everyone is like this.. They can try.. and remember above the email you can send out is written : DO NOT SEND MONEY OUT TO ANYONE so maybe.. that says enough? [:D] enjoy ya stay girl. GoddezzT`

MistresssAria -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/8/2008 6:44:59 PM)
I am a Pro Domme, but there is no way I'm going to ask for money upfront/without or not having meeting someone. THAT is a scam. If someone would like to have a session with me, I simply ask to make sure that my tribute requirement is okay with them/make sure they know exactly what I require when we actually session. Then I make sure to talk to them on the phone to set up a fun session/get to know the sub a bit! I won't take the tribute until after the session unless it is handed to me up front, and I have never had a sub try to leave without tributing. Not everyone asks for tributes though, not every plays as a Pro! Just be wary of people who only talk about money and are not interested in your interests as a sub, and never ever send things online!!! And don't think all Pros are just into it for the money please!!!

RedMagic1 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 7:06:16 AM)
SissyChrissy, I just looked at your profile, and I'd like to take this in a different direction. You say nothing about yourself, only your kink. Therefore, you attract people interested in what they can get from your kink, not people interested in you. Even professional fetish models are going back to school to get a degree in photography, volunteer at the dog shelter, etc. The only one I know personally works part-time as a biologist for the US Forest Service. Sexuality is part of being human, but someone looking for a relationship is going to be interested in the human being as a whole, not just one part that much of society considers weird. Take a photo of yourself in a tux or suit, showing your smiling face, and attach that nice vanilla pic to emails you send to ladies you are interested in. What do you do for a living? Do you like your job? What would you like to do with your life? Anyone looking for a relationship, male or female, will want to know the answer to: Who the hell are you?

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 10:51:24 AM)
At last some constructive and useful replies. I think some of you are right. I shall look closer to home in determining why I get the messages/replies I do. Thanks!

MistressDelilah1 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 11:35:29 AM)
I'm a pro domme and require a portion of the payment up front to reserve a session. This is to avoid no shows. However, if someone is asking you for money without even setting up a session or knowing anything about you, I would question it.

MsSaskia -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 12:57:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 At last some constructive and useful replies. I think some of you are right. I shall look closer to home in determining why I get the messages/replies I do. Thanks! And now you're suggesting that the responses you've gotten here so far, minus one, have NOT been constructive and useful. You weren't asking in your original post for advice on what you could do differently, but again, your presentation has gotten you results you don't want so you put the blame on others for not being constructive or useful.

SissyChrissy2 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 1:31:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSaskia quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 At last some constructive and useful replies. I think some of you are right. I shall look closer to home in determining why I get the messages/replies I do. Thanks! And now you're suggesting that the responses you've gotten here so far, minus one, have NOT been constructive and useful. You weren't asking in your original post for advice on what you could do differently, but again, your presentation has gotten you results you don't want so you put the blame on others for not being constructive or useful. It does say "replies" not "reply" to be fair. Maybe it does sound harsh on previous posts so I apologise for that however, this excludes you MsSaskia.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 2:56:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2 It does say "replies" not "reply" to be fair. Maybe it does sound harsh on previous posts so I apologise for that however, this excludes you MsSaskia. Maybe I am just reading this wrong, but it sounds as though you are apologizing to almost everyone except Ms. Saskia. Please allow me then to say: #1: Saskia is a friend of mine. She has always been straight up, and has provided me advice on several occasions. We both have a history of work in the low-income community, which is part of why I like her. Taking a swipe at her isn't a way to endear yourself to me. #2: Do you really think it makes it easier for you to find a Mistress if you complain on an open forum about the few Dommes who cared enough about your post to take time out of their days to reply? Talk about whiny subs. You've got some bigger things to fix than your profile, dude.

BoiJen -> RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? (1/10/2008 3:12:02 PM)
Dommes talk...hell I've gotten word that someone MsK knows is talking to someone I've had a negative experience with and they find out. It generally takes that person out of the running to even get told go to hell. They stick together in ways that you wouldn't imagine...they don't even have to like eachother to say "hey...this one's no good" and to take the advice at face value. Wise up dude and behave better.

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