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RE: Equipment - 1/8/2008 6:04:54 AM

TMaster2

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wouldn't matter to me who originally purchased them -- I probably would never thing to ask. If she had them, liked them, I'd be more than happy to use them.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 8:18:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

I would really question the security level of a Dom's ego who required a submissive to purchase all new toys and outfits (easily racking up high in the $100s) simply because another Dom bought them for her as a gift.

As long as it isn't a collar then I'm game. Though I can understand the Master in question needing some time to feel the intrument(s) before they use it

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 8:25:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I really don't want to use anything that will make her think of someone else. Who else used them with her? What were they doing?

Fuck that. I want her to focus on ME.

If I got rid of everything that would remind me of an ex when a relationship ended... well that means I have to buy a new car, all new clothes, buy a new bed, stop listening to any music they introduced me to, get rid of a lot of my DVDs (I'm big on watching movies together) and never go the same vacation spots that I went to with them. I'd also have to avoid particular stretches of highway since I traveled them to go see my ex.

Exactly. How silly to be so insecure to worry about what toys would remind someone of another. I have been doing this long enough to have acquired my own toys and equipment that I like used on me. I do not use things used on others. If someone wants to buy new things for me, fine, but if someone ever objected to a toy I had simply because I might think of someone else who used it with me...well that person would be too insecure for me to deal with.

Hell, if you use my toys right, I am so out of it I forget my own name, let alone anyone else who may have used it before you did.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 8:44:20 PM

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Then by all means find someone who will be glad to use your toys. But someone who goes "Hi this is me and these are my toys that I like used on me" isn't really the kind of sub I'd want anyway.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 8:48:26 PM

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The absolute coolest statement about this I have heard is:

"When the girl goes, so do the toys"

That is Dominance.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 8:50:43 PM

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*Shrugs* Since I'm the one that brought that up...

It's useful. That doesn't mean that is the end of it, there are no other toys I'm willing try or other things I'm willing to explore. It was particularly useful for me when I wasn't interested in being owned. It was very useful for Valyraen and I in the begining of our relationship.

If a dominant wanted to buy all the new toys, I wouldn't have a problem with that. I would have a problem with him wanting me to all the new toys though since that would be a considerable expense at this point. Less so than for others but still more than I can afford. Now if I had something really nice, like a violet wand, and he refused to use it on me simply because another dominant had first... I'd probably get a touch cranky over that since it would have cost me a pretty penny and I'm very fond of them.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 8:55:02 PM

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Exactly...What I meant was his reference to starting fresh. No used equipment, unless I brought my own. I think that is thoughtful, kind, respectful and exactly what I need to hear to make me even want to participate with items I do not own myself.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 9:10:12 PM

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I'm like this too. I tend to associate objects with certain people, especially if something is used on me while I'm in a highly emotional state and with a person who moves me to submission. I will forever associate those moments and those particular items with them and the unique energy that I shared with them, while they were using it on me. Maybe it's all in my head, but the object seems to have a certain feeling or energy left in it. This applies to toys or anything else that carries a sentiment, ie a piece of jewelry etc.

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RE: Equipment - 1/9/2008 10:02:12 PM

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It would depend on how it was seen by the sub in question. If it were presented as "These are my old Master's things" I would be inclined not to use them. However, if they were just her things, I probably wouldn't have much of a problem with it. I might still be inclined to slowly replace them, just so the relationship had "our" things. I definetly wouldn't expect her to replace everything on her dime.
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