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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/8/2008 8:31:02 PM

TheMagicsInYou

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nice going...like too see how some of u like to bash on a 19 year old girl who is new at this...i was just beeing honest, and looking for support and from some of u i got the complete opposite, but i have talked to my dom and he is very supportive and understanding we now on the same page, he is very respectful and does not go overbord... thankyou for the ones who did not bash!!! i apreciate it alot.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/8/2008 9:52:51 PM

sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: TheMagicsInYou

nice going...like too see how some of u like to bash on a 19 year old girl who is new at this...i was just beeing honest, and looking for support and from some of u i got the complete opposite, but i have talked to my dom and he is very supportive and understanding we now on the same page, he is very respectful and does not go overbord... thankyou for the ones who did not bash!!! i apreciate it alot.

Remember, you are very young and you have EVERY right to ask for what you want, sub or not. There is no TRUE way to be a sub, despite many people telling you that their way is the one way. You can have balance and you are right that communication is key.

Keep sticking to your guns about what you want and compromise if you are with someone who compromises with you. Sub does not mean giving up your own needs. So many will tell you it is so, it is not.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/8/2008 10:08:42 PM

girlygurl

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

There is no TRUE way to be a sub, despite many people telling you that their way is the one way. You can have balance and you are right that communication is key.

OK, can I just say, "Oh heck yes!" There will always be someone telling us how we "should" act as individuals, be us D or s types. Too many people see the world as black or white when clearly I am sooooooooo in the gray area

Balance is such an issue for me. *shakes head* I mean really, will I ever have it? Good luck to you OP!

I saw Mod11 and thought I missed something... hmmmm going to bed.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/9/2008 12:47:43 AM

subantionette

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ORIGINAL: TheMagicsInYou

nice going...like too see how some of u like to bash on a 19 year old girl who is new at this...i was just beeing honest, and looking for support and from some of u i got the complete opposite, but i have talked to my dom and he is very supportive and understanding we now on the same page, he is very respectful and does not go overbord... thankyou for the ones who did not bash!!! i apreciate it alot.

I am glad that you were able to talk with your Dom and work everything out. But remember sometimes a peive of advice may look like its "bashing" you when really when you read it over again it good adivce with a scarcastic undertone.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/9/2008 12:06:41 PM

Dnomyar

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A guy slaps your face because is is a Dom. Then he truns around and says he wont slap you again. Did you not say that you didnt like switches.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/9/2008 5:14:31 PM

sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: KyttynTheMynx

It honestly sounds like you need some down time once in a while where theres no set roles. Talk to him. Ask him if once or twice a week can you two just let go of everything.

Agreed... Sometimes a little bit of relaxation can make a world of difference. I was playing on a long weekend with a Dom, and he told me to take a bath, take my time, and consider this my "girl" time. You could have knocked me over with a feather. I had never been with someone who really understood that - not even my 'nilla boyfriends. Well, that hour was such a great gift that I would have done (and did) anything he wanted. It took away any kind of frustration I was having, and served him well to leave me alone for a bit. He got a happier and relaxed sub desperate to come back and do his bidding rather than the one that was becoming tired and irritated. Smart man, eh?

However, lazy is not an excuse. ahem. Consider that slapping may not be something you can handle. Maybe it's a limit you have. Also, it sounds like you might be bored with "going down" on him. Perhaps you might have a lil chat with him about what else you might do to make him happy? He can't read your mind. And remember that this is s'posed to be fun.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/10/2008 9:17:37 AM

HalloweenWhite

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

I think there is a fine line that we all have to tread. You need someone to be in control, and that control means sometimes you will do things you don't want to do. However, if you could say "no" and avoid doing those things, it wouldn't be the relationship for which you are looking.

In this lifestyle, it is all about compatibility. You must find a dominant that, more or less, makes you do the stuff you want to do, and, more or less, doesn't make you do the stuff you don't want to do. No match is going to be perfect, but it is amazing how close two people can come...

Taggard

I think that hits the nail on the head as far as I'm concerened. Makes sense-you need to find someone you're compatable with.

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RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck m... - 1/10/2008 10:11:35 AM

onlyfreelycaged

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

A guy slaps your face because is is a Dom. Then he truns around and says he wont slap you again. Did you not say that you didnt like switches.

There is a diffrence between makeing changes in a relationship for a submissive, and being a switch. There is a lot more to being a Dom then getting You're way all the time. It also takes giving the sub what he/she needs inorder that he/she may serve.

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