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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 1:36:29 PM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		I only have a small bit to add - everyone gave great opinions that pretty much covers the topic.

Submission to me is an accomplishment. I have to be in a trusting and loving relationship with a Dom that can tolerate and redirect my difficulties with submission. Although I have a submissive personality, I have been taught (by society) to fight the urge to be submissive, to succeed and dominate ... but I am not dominant. Still, though, my natural urge is to push back if a Dom pushes me too hard too soon, especially if that push is in the initial set of contacts.

Also, even though this site is a meeting site, if you would not introduce yourself to a stranger at a coffeeshop by saying "On your knees, bitch" then it stands to reason that contacting a stranger, even on a meeting site, would be met with the same probable reaction. Crass and rude behavior is usually met with derisiveness, regardless of orientation.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 1:50:45 PM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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ORIGINAL: batshalom
Also, even though this site is a meeting site, if you would not introduce yourself to a stranger at a coffeeshop by saying "On your knees, bitch" then it stands to reason that contacting a stranger, even on a meeting site, would be met with the same probable reaction.


The truth is, this is much more likely to lead to success at a coffee shop than it is on here.  At least at the coffee shop it would be novel.

Taggard


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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 1:55:55 PM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


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Status: offline 		What a novel approach in the vanilla world esp a coffee shop,one of two thing's maybe three,1 you would get the hell slapped out of you..2 at the very least law enforcement or wow the bitch just might fall to her knees...Its just not my style...bounty

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 2:03:57 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Be grateful that they are clear about what they want so that you know you aren't compatible. But if you think having a slave means you don't have an ordinary relationship as well, you do have a lot to learn. Mainly about why you will get turned down all the time.

I'm submissive to one and he's my best friend also. That means that if I go to synagogue for a wedding, a b'nai mitzvah, or a funeral that I would expect him to accompany me. Because I'm a person and not just a cocksucking machine.

And lovers need support and friendship. If he wasn't interested in being my lover and my friend, then I wouldn't be interested in being his sub.

Oh, and about speaking to you meanly? That's me following his rules, which state that I may only submit to him and not to anybody else even clueless types who claim they are twue masters. Actually, especially not to them.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 2:07:50 PM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		While I would be pretty amused if that happened to a friend of mine, (though I would hide it. ;)) if it happened to me I would prolly say f*** off or something like it.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 2:30:19 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: batshalom

Also, even though this site is a meeting site, if you would not introduce yourself to a stranger at a coffeeshop by saying "On your knees, bitch" then it stands to reason that contacting a stranger, even on a meeting site, would be met with the same probable reaction. Crass and rude behavior is usually met with derisiveness, regardless of orientation.


Unless it was Jeffff or Ron or Les or Mutt or Merc or Firm or Leather or CD or Lam or Stephann or Gris ... well hells bells, any of the forum Studs.. uhhh... Hotties... uhh... Men, yeah, any of the forum MEN.  Then we might just giggle instead.

Cali
(is it getting hot in here? taking forum inventory is such labor intensive work)

edited cuz I forgot one... and is gonna be in trubbble when she loses the edit function

< Message edited by CalifChick -- 1/8/2008 3:04:34 PM >

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 2:53:42 PM   
Kalista07


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Unless it was Jeffff or Ron or Les or Mutt or Merc or Firm or Leather or CD or Lam or ... well hells bells, any of the forum Studs.. uhhh... Hotties... uhh... Men, yeah, any of the forum MEN.  Then we might just giggle instead.

Cali
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what the heck!!!???? Damn it Jefff!!!! i thought i was the only one You approached that way....
feeling soo cheap and used (and so not in a good, hot, sexy, slutty kind of way)
Kali

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 2:54:39 PM   
Rushemery


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ORIGINAL: Stephann


"I am UbarLordMasterofAll and I have written to inform you that you should drop to your belly and crawl to Me, worm."


Good luck,

Stephan




lol, can I use this? 

I like to comment on peoples profiles or lack of, some write back most dont either way I try and be nice about it, sometimes all they talk about is sex so it really makes it hard to say anything, one I read was "I want to be spanked whored out and bred", ok great well lets discuss breeding, sometimes I write to them but mostly not because they dont write back I would look for profiles that are well thought out and actually talk about themselves a little, a lot of people say no one liners but if they dont give any thing to discuss in their profile why spend time on more than a few words but thats just my opinion

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 3:07:19 PM   
Jeffff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Unless it was Jeffff or Ron or Les or Mutt or Merc or Firm or Leather or CD or Lam or ... well hells bells, any of the forum Studs.. uhhh... Hotties... uhh... Men, yeah, any of the forum MEN.  Then we might just giggle instead.

Cali
(is it getting hot in here? taking forum inventory is such labor intensive work)


what the heck!!!???? Damn it Jefff!!!! i thought i was the only one You approached that way....
feeling soo cheap and used (and so not in a good, hot, sexy, slutty kind of way)
Kali


I approach everyone that way........it doesn't work often but when it does?..........
you can scratch another coffee shop of my list

Jeff

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 4:26:31 PM   
kinkypuppy2


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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:04:18 PM   
batshalom


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Because I'm a person and not just a cocksucking machine.




My whole image of you is just blown. Now if only we were in a coffee shop ...

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:06:35 PM   
batshalom


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

yeah, any of the forum MEN.  Then we might just giggle instead.



Well, when it's any beloved (or at least tolerated) one, it's a lot easier to open wide and suck it like ya mean it.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:08:37 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: batshalom

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

yeah, any of the forum MEN.  Then we might just giggle instead.



Well, when it's any beloved (or at least tolerated) one, it's a lot easier to open wide and suck it like ya mean it.


Bat, I heart ya right now. 

Cali


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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:15:50 PM   
celticlord2112


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ORIGINAL: signusnova

I know you are not supposed to treat your slave like piece of furniture.  However sometimes certain "slaves" get really bitchy and act like Doms. Makes you think who is really in control does it?  I think is the slave that controls everything. Without thier yes there would be no Masters or Mistresses I think. 
I know there is certain etiquette in Master slave relationships. 
Thanks
Signus




The flaw in your thinking begins with the first sentence.  Relationships thrive when the parties' needs are met; they wither and die when those needs are not.  Beyond that, there is no "supposed to".

Some slaves will be furniture.  Some slaves will not.  Some slaves will have realms where they are assertive and even dominant.  Some slaves will shy away from all assertiveness.  In their own way and in their own time, all are slaves.

You know what manner of slave you desire.  You seek that slave.  Then you own that slave.  Take care of that slave as you would any other valuable possession.

As for the slaves you do not own--they are not your problem.


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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:16:26 PM   
Kalista07


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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Well, when it's any beloved (or at least tolerated) one, it's a lot easier to open wide and suck it like ya mean it.


What the heck!!!??? i was told TWUE submissives dont do oral???!!!


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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:18:13 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		I get offended by heavy slave speak because it means that the Dominant did not read my profile. If he did, he wouldnt have messaged me. Or if he read it and disregarded what I said, he thinks he will change me. I'm not a slave, I'm a sub. So thats why I get offended by the heavy D's approach. I get offended by the mass marketing approach where my profile isnt even read.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:19:50 PM   
xxblushesxx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rushemery

quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann


"I am UbarLordMasterofAll and I have written to inform you that you should drop to your belly and crawl to Me, worm."


Good luck,

Stephan




lol, can I use this? 

I like to comment on peoples profiles or lack of, some write back most dont either way I try and be nice about it, sometimes all they talk about is sex so it really makes it hard to say anything, one I read was "I want to be spanked whored out and bred", ok great well lets discuss breeding, sometimes I write to them but mostly not because they dont write back I would look for profiles that are well thought out and actually talk about themselves a little, a lot of people say no one liners but if they dont give any thing to discuss in their profile why spend time on more than a few words but thats just my opinion


Huh? What're you tryin' to say? Now we're s'posed to have personalities too?!!!
Sheesh, you guys don't want much, do ya?!!

~Christina

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:20:33 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Hi Signus,

Why are you approching this from such a heavily D/s influenced view? 

I think it's too often that people are 'in search of a sub' or 'I'm looking for my Master.'  As Taggard said, it's nearly futile (though I don't think for the reason and approach he suggested.)

Writing a potential slave/submissive as if they were a person you met on, say, Match.com might take a lot more effort and time, but it'll yield the kind of communication that allows intimacy to grow.  If you're writing a slave from a "I am UbarLordMasterofAll and I have written to inform you that you should drop to your belly and crawl to Me, worm." you're not likely to get any sort of meaningful, long term relationship out of it.  Instead, taking the "I'm a XX year old dominant, and I really liked what you said in your profile about hiking; I'm an avid hiker, and love being outdoors.  I'm a musician and love playing guitar, and I play regular gigs in my area.  I also love reading; mostly historical fiction, with the occasional Grisham novel tossed in."  Explaining who you are, and what about yourself you think a prospective submissive/slave would find interesting will land you a much higher quality of communication.

While you're at it, stop writing submissives/slaves who only have a couple of sentences of "I'm a real no-limits slave looking for a harsh cruel Master for immediate relocation."  Use some logic here; what sort of woman would actually write this?  A woman with no job, family, future, or money?  Someone who's greatest desire is to be kept in a box under your bed?  Trust me, these profiles are about as genuine as a Rolex sold on a street corner.  Don't even waste your time.

Good luck,

Stephan



Bravo Master Stephan.

I can see why you are so well loved and respected. You give it, you get it.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:21:15 PM   
batshalom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kalista07

quote:

ORIGINAL: batshalom

Well, when it's any beloved (or at least tolerated) one, it's a lot easier to open wide and suck it like ya mean it.


What the heck!!!??? i was told TWUE submissives dont do oral???!!!




Then stand back and lemme show ya how an untwue sub does it.

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RE: Whats wrong ? - 1/8/2008 5:26:27 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: batshalom

Then stand back and lemme show ya how an untwue sub does it.


So...

Do I need to buy a ticket to watch?

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