juliaoceania -> RE: I'm completely devoted, but... (1/14/2008 8:42:28 AM)
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When it comes to making friends, and accepting people as they are, I think you are right.... it is prejudiced to judge someone because they say they are "Republican". It is intolerant. I try not to do it myself. I am not perfect though, and like everyone else on planet Earth I am at times intolerant and prejudiced. Anyone who says they are not is a liar in my eyes. I have just studied the topic too often for them to convince me that they are Gandhi (and even he would have told you he could be intolerant and was always trying to be better than he was in that regard). Intolerance is just a part of the human condition. It is what we do about it that defines us. So, I will say, you are right... it is intolerant to have preconceived ideas about ANYONE for ANY reason. I will also say that when it comes to picking out mates being intolerant of those things one does not want is a GOOD THING. If people know what will make them happy, why shouldn't they seek it? Is someone who is turned off by fat women intolerant? Is someone who is turned off by short bald fat men intolerant? Is someone that prefers blondes to redheads intolerant? Am I intolerant because I prefer intelligent men in my age range that share my core values and political ideology? You see, when pursuing my personal happiness and fulfillment in a relationship when I was seeking I was not afraid to be intolerant, judgmental, prejudiced, or any other sort of qualifier. I like men my own ethnicity for example because that attracts me. If that makes me intolerant to some people, who the fuck cares? I am just being me, happy as a lark, doing what turns me on, trying not to hurt other people in the process. There have been many threads in which people bemoan others because they can't find people to share their kink, I suppose all of us that do not want to share that kink are intolerant because we will not serve as their toilet, or are not bisexual, or into poly. If we expand your "tolerance", everyone should mate with everyone else. It doesn't matter if we share kinks, political ideology, lifestyle desires, religion, socio-economic backgrounds... we should all be blind to any sort of criteria that might help us pick a mate, because if we don't do that we are "intolerant".... sorry, I don't buy that.
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