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It's all about the initial negotiation. You probably aren't getting the responses you want here because you didn't properly decontextualize your question from the voting thread, and everyone is still talking about voting.

But lets talk about some other things that a Dom might control:

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ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

It's all about the initial negotiation. You probably aren't getting the responses you want here because you didn't properly decontextualize your question from the voting thread, and everyone is still talking about voting.

But lets talk about some other things that a Dom might control:

- What type of vehicle you purchase when you purchase a new vehicle
- Where you work, what kind of job you have, or whether you must quit your current job
- What you wear, and/or what hygiene/beauty products you use
- What kind of music you listen to
- Who your friends are, and how often you may hang out with them, and in what contexts
- Your diet
- Your finances
- Your right to personal privacy, or lack thereof ("Tomorrow, when they come visit, you will tell your entire family that you are my slave.")
- Your hobbies ("Guess what, you're a painter now. Here are your brushes! Now put down that soldering iron and throw all that electronics crap away.")
- Your politics. . .already mentioned at length
- Your community/volunteer involvement ("While I am at work during they day, you will volunteer at the Senior center down the street.")
- Your daily habits (how much computer/internet time you get, how long you are allowed to be in the shower, when you eat meals, what you can watch on TV, how much time on the X-box, etc)
- What your college major is, or whether you do or do not go to school at all
- What your skillset is ("I'm sending you to get certified as a massage therapist" or even "Your grammar is atrocious. I'm getting you a writing tutor and I expect you to improve.")

I'm sure I could think of more if I tried, but this is a good starting list of non BDSM things that a Dom could ask to assume control of in your life, especially if you identify as a slave. How do people feel about most of these things?

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ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey
- What type of vehicle you purchase when you purchase a new vehicle
- Where you work, what kind of job you have, or whether you must quit your current job
- What you wear, and/or what hygiene/beauty products you use
- What kind of music you listen to
- Who your friends are, and how often you may hang out with them, and in what contexts
- Your diet
- Your finances
- Your right to personal privacy, or lack thereof ("Tomorrow, when they come visit, you will tell your entire family that you are my slave.")
- Your hobbies ("Guess what, you're a painter now. Here are your brushes! Now put down that soldering iron and throw all that electronics crap away.")
- Your politics. . .already mentioned at length
- Your community/volunteer involvement ("While I am at work during they day, you will volunteer at the Senior center down the street.")
- Your daily habits (how much computer/internet time you get, how long you are allowed to be in the shower, when you eat meals, what you can watch on TV, how much time on the X-box, etc)
- What your college major is, or whether you do or do not go to school at all
- What your skillset is ("I'm sending you to get certified as a massage therapist" or even "Your grammar is atrocious. I'm getting you a writing tutor and I expect you to improve.")

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ORIGINAL: xBullx

I am not a participative dominant; it is in fact my way or the highway in many instances...