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Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Are Masters Responsible for the Welfare of Their Property? (1/13/2008 5:08:39 AM)
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Well, regardless of what anybody else thinks or does, here's my thing about this.
1. I will give or provide moral support and sounding board.
2. I will give out advice or actually will tell her how to deal with it.
3. If Problem still contines, tell the person to basically leave it alone or knock it off.
4. Get the Law involved.
5. If the law is aware of the problem, dude still is not leaving it alone. Let's just say, the last thing he wants to do is show up in the doorstep, or physically engage her.
Basically, if anything physical happens. This is after the law is become involved. Police have warned the dude, restraining orders issued and whatnot. Dude shows up, I believe in doing what is required to protect ones self and property. I'm fully prepared to face whatever legal drama that comes of it, with the paper work trail that has already been established. Stalker type Assholes tend to have some more of bad legal history for this crap anyways. I myself don't have any criminal record. So, contacting the police and going through the legal channels is a good thing to do.
Now from my past dealings, I have found that local police, county law enforcement are not as effective as "state police" are. At least anywhere I've lived. Basically, ask other people around the community which one is more effective and better at their job. Plus State Police have a wider juristriction to go GET 'em or deal with the problem.
Generally, simply not feeding into the stalkers attempt work well. Assholes like this try eveything in the book to get attention. Basically suck somebody back into talking to them. Even if it's for an argument. When they can get you to engage in a converation of some form, it's only giving them positive reinforcement to thier bad behavior. Basically, just tell them it's over to not have anymore contact, else the authorities will become involved. Then if they keep it up, do the follow through with your words. If you make threats against a stalker and don't take action, they will call your bluff. They have to get it in their head, it's a bad idea to keep things up. Most sane stalkers will back off. Those insane ones, have to ask themselves how far are they willing to go at personal risk and exspense.
I generally will get calm and confront people like this, then keep it very short with them. Short one or two word replies. Not engaging a conversation. A simple "I don't want to talk with you" or "I don't want to talk about it". Works good, hang up the phone or walk away from them.
It's important to keep of log of events and what's going on too. Do it so you have the exact dates and times and what happened. It's a little difficult to reconstruct and present this history a month or weeks later. Plus, let other people know that you are being stalked.
In one of my last relationships, where she was being stalked, actually kept a bag of stuff. Evidence. i.e. recorded phone messages, letters, cards and crazy shit. Including a Bible that had been stabbed with blood on it. Oh yeah, I've been involved in the middle of crazy shit like this before. The Dude went so far to actually cut himself to get attention. This was when all else was failing. Should have heard some of his lovely phone call messages too.. ranging from threats, to declarations of love, to threats to doing himself in. Guilt trip city, a mind fuck within a mind fuck is what he was.
The law managed to straighten him out, along with the phone number being changed, email accounts being dumped, IM accounts being dropped. Basically, cut off the communication lines. Press charges, if they push too hard. If you are a DOM, think about how far you are willing to go in protecting your sub/slave from this shit. This will not be easy for either sub/slave and Dom/Master a like...
It's important that the sub/slave does not feed into the assholes bullshit, and communication attempts nor threats. Giving into being sucked into a conversation or argument or guilt trip is the last thing to do. No matter what.
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