Rover
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This is certain not to go in the direction you intended, but once the genie is out of the bottle.... quote:
ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa He wants to tell her that he is submissive and even hopes that she will accept him and possibly want to begin a D/s relationship with him, but he knows that it may endanger his job, so he keeps it to himself as he continues to act confident and sure of himself, making hard core decisions and really hiding his other half, even in the privacy of their friendship, while off work. Why would anyone presume he is pretneding at work? Why would anyone assume submissive in a relationship means submissive to everyone? Why would anyone equate submissive with unconfident, unsure of themself, unable to make decisions, etc? Honestly, this depiction is prejudiced and stereotyped on so many levels that it probably deserves a thread of its own. quote:
So he starts to manipulate the friendship by using inside knowledge of WIITWD on this woman. In the strictest sense, we all manipulate (influence) each other. On the one hand, I don't think it's so cool to bring WIITWD to someone's workplace (it's not just his job in danger, it's hers as well). And on the other hand I don't see any issue with relating to people about a common interest (though in a venue other than work). quote:
She questions every now and then as to his submissiveness but thinks better of it, since he seems so strong and takes the initiative when it comes to business dealings. Evidently she has bought into the stereotype and prejudice as well. Doesn't she have any experience meeting folks at munches, etc. in order to know that submissives aren't all weepy wall flowers? quote:
Yet, she finds herself becoming attracted to this rather domly man. She in fact starts to question her own predilection because of her ever growing feelings for a dominant male. There is just something about him that attracts her and it makes her uncomfortable, because she had never been attracted to a dominant male. *If* she (or he for that matter, it's not a gender thing) were switch on some level and found Dominance attractive in some way, sure it *could* be possible on an emotional level to fall for someone's public personality. Happens to vanilla folks all the time, only to find out that the book isn't much like the cover. quote:
So much time has passed and he has used his knowledge of what she is to manipulate his way into her heart. Should he tell her now? Judging by the narrative, although he may not have (to his credit if true) overtly discussed BDSM and their roles while at work, he has dropped more than a few hints. Seems she even "questioned now and then as to his submissiveness". My point is, what's to tell? This doesn't seem like a big secret. quote:
What would your reaction be if something like this had happened to you? I would long ago have pulled him aside and said that I do not appreciate him bringing his, or my, private life to work. quote:
Would you feel relieved to learn that the person you are/were so attracted to is indeed a submissive? I dunno, maybe I'm more perceptive but judging by the narrative this wouldn't come as much as a surprise. But setting that aside, I suppose I might feel pleased/excited more so than relief. quote:
Or would you be so angry that you would end the friendship right then and there? I would not be angry that he showed some discretion and respect for my employment and did not discuss my (or his) personal lifestyle at work. John
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