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Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 4:03:43 PM

juliaoceania

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I hesitated to start this thread because I was unsure how to present the ideas I am thinking on the topic. Recently Daddy took me clothes shopping. I tried things on, he picked them out and bought them for me. It was a lot of fun. He bought me a couple of pair of high heeled boots. One pair he said he would be happy if they never had any wear on the bottom

(knee high black suede slouch boots with spiked heels)

He bought me this stuff because he said he wanted me to look the way he wanted me to look. I have been wearing these new clothes on job hunts. The heels have a way of making me feel empowered on the one hand, because I cut quite an impressive figure at 6 foot 1, and employers tend to look at me differently in the clothes he bought me. On the other hand, wearing the stuff he picked out for me makes me feel distinctly submissive, especially the heels.

I haven't worn heels but a handful of times in almost 20 years. They are not hard to walk in, but they feminize my stride, and I guess just the act of wearing them because he wants me to makes me feel submissive in them.

I was wondering, if any of you have ever had this experience with garments, and did it make you feel like it made me feel?

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 4:58:46 PM

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Master is rarely concerned with what I wear. He will pick something out once in awhile. One was a pair of Steve Maddens that I looked at and said, " I can't walk in those." His response, "Who cares."

They don't make me feel submissive, but they do bring out the vamp in me.

I'm a shoe whore and I happily admit it. My shoes effect and reflect my moods. I have a magnet that says, "Change your shoes. Change your world."

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:04:42 PM

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quote:

"Change your shoes. Change your world."

I am beginning to understand that

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:04:44 PM

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Master chooses my clothes daily. This, like a million other things, are examples of micromanagment that I always thought was silly and thought I had no desire for. The desire, actually, is not so much for micromanagment, as it is simply to please him.
Master has a heel fetish. I am slowly learning to wear heels. In comfortable heels, the ones I can handle, I feel both empowered and submissive, as you said. In the more challanging ones, I simply feel challanged and in pain, but I know I will improve.
Master buys me clothes I would NEVER choose. I told him what my 'limits' were in terms of clothes - no florals, no pastels, no blue, no white. I like neutrals and I like bright, crisp colours. I am a fall. I also like bling.
I wear a lot of pink, now. Master looks at me with a softness to his eyes, and says, 'You look beautiful in that', and I believe him, because Master said so.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:06:02 PM

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When M and I have gone shopping and he picked out clothes for me, it made me feel very feminine and very erotic to wear the clothes he selected and purchased. Even if I end up being the one to pay for the clothes, having him select the cut, color, style ends up making me feel very submissive when I put the clothes on, whether he sees me in the items or not.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:10:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I hesitated to start this thread because I was unsure how to present the ideas I am thinking on the topic. Recently Daddy took me clothes shopping. I tried things on, he picked them out and bought them for me. It was a lot of fun. He bought me a couple of pair of high heeled boots. One pair he said he would be happy if they never had any wear on the bottom (knee high black suede slouch boots with spiked heels)

He bought me this stuff because he said he wanted me to look the way he wanted me to look. I have been wearing these new clothes on job hunts. The heels have a way of making me feel empowered on the one hand, because I cut quite an impressive figure at 6 foot 1, and employers tend to look at me differently in the clothes he bought me. On the other hand, wearing the stuff he picked out for me makes me feel distinctly submissive, especially the heels.

I haven't worn heels but a handful of times in almost 20 years. They are not hard to walk in, but they feminize my stride, and I guess just the act of wearing them because he wants me to makes me feel submissive in them.

I was wondering, if any of you have ever had this experience with garments, and did it make you feel like it made me feel?

ABSOLUTELY. I lost alot of weight a few years ago and remade myself over. When I realized my submissive desires, I started wearing mostly skirts and heels and low cut blouses when not working. These feminine clothes make me feel submissive and yet powerful too. So I completely understand feeling both. I feel quite powerful in my submissiveness. It is not a weak submissiveness. I feel the power to get what I want without doing anything.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:23:38 PM

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lucky for me, he is very fond of purchasing lingerie (wearable for every day as well as other times, and shockingly expensive) and shoes. while I wouldn't say they make me feel more submissive, when I wear them I'm reminded of our bond, of who (whom?) I belong to. I am empowered by that feeling, and it's the first thing that comes to mind when I put them on.

as he spends a lot of time travelling, it's become a welcome touchstone for me, knowing he cared enough to buy these items, and because he thought I looked beautiful in them.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:27:22 PM

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interesting...Daddy has not bought me clothes to wear but when i come to see Him, i always ask what He would like me to wear. usually he says something comfortable...by which he means jeans and a t-shirt and tennis shoes. these are not comfortable to me. besides the fact that i lost quite a bit of weight in the last year and dont have many jeans that fit me, i feel slouchy and disrespectful in them. the closest i came before this past weekend was white jeans, a nice red blouse and red high heels.

He always tells me to bring my tennis shoes. i always "forget". the last time i "forgot" which was the only time i really did forget, He took me walking around the mall in my heels, so that i would remember to bring the tennis shoes from now on. the heels didnt hurt my feet, which i think may have been the lesson, but the fact that He was trying to teach me the lesson was what i remembered.

this weekend i wore my tennis shoes and jeans and a nice shirt. it was wonderful to feel that i had obeyed Him and pleased Him in doing so. that being said, i still prefer to look very feminine. it does help me to feel submissive when i see Him.

of course...looking a lil...slutty...um...er...i mean seductive, doesnt hurt either. hehehe

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 5:52:11 PM

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knowing he cared enough to buy these items, and because he thought I looked beautiful in them.

I think that is a major part of the happiness I feel when I wear what he picked out for me. He went to the trouble of coming all the way up here, taking me to breakfast, going to the mall, having me try on stuff, (including holding different stuff up to my face to see what colors were nice on me), and then he bought it. I have never had anyone do that for me before. I have went shopping with men, but they always were impassive with their opinions. Too guarded with their approval or the lack thereof. It was never their idea to go either. I suppose that is what made it the most special thing of all, he thought it worth his time to do all of this

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 6:26:26 PM

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because i don't leave the house much, and also because i HATE being in malls and other places where people shop for clothing, Daddy buys 95% of my clothes on his own, with me not being a part of the process whatsoever. so of course he buys the sorts of things he likes, and i dress the vast majority of the time according to his personal tastes and desires, which greatly differ from my own. He loves tight, revealing things...skintight jeans, belly tops, ultra short skirts, see-through things, and of course heels. i'm very self-conscious and uncomfortable with my body and don't like attracting attention so my own personal style is more the grungy/hippie casual keep-it-covered look. He is nice and allows me to dress that way every once in a while. but the rest of the time i just grin and bear it and take comfort in the fact that it's all for him.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 6:27:21 PM

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also, the fact that he's willing to go to a mall or go shopping and put forth more than just the minimal amount of effort. I always feel like I'm imposing, even if he says he doesn't mind.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 6:43:23 PM

juliaoceania

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lighthearted

also, the fact that he's willing to go to a mall or go shopping and put forth more than just the minimal amount of effort. I always feel like I'm imposing, even if he says he doesn't mind.

I would have felt I was imposing, but he lectured me the night before we went that this is what we would be doing. I do not like spending money on me, his or anyone else's. He knows this, so therefore I got a preemptive lecture that I would accept it gracefully. I was shocked I felt no guilt when we went, and just gladly accepted what he wanted to buy me.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 6:47:37 PM

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Master does buy me clothes and also tells me what He wants to see me in
thankfully He has great taste and i love everything He chooses, i do feel submissive in the things He chooses
i also love the way He looks at me when He sees on me what He has chosen, its wonderful and very erotic

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 6:55:40 PM

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I do not have anyone in my life right now who picks out what I wear, but if I did, I would love it because I would know that I was always pleasing in my dress to them.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 7:09:00 PM

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Generally it's more a service I provide to them in helping pick out their wardrobe, more than a control they have over me. I have far more clothes and much better sense of style and fashion than most so it's just a lot more practical for me to do it myself and help others. Unless they want to get into humiliation or objectification.

I do give choices or ask if they have preferences of style of dress for an occasion, but with so many limited to the "fuck me heels, black skirt, thigh highs, white sheer blouse and lacy bra" boring cut out, it's much more fun for me to play within those themes and come up with something modern, tasteful and sexy.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1300897/mpage_1/key_clothing/tm.htm#1301759
clothing selection

http://www.collarchat.com/m_87660/mpage_1/key_wear/tm.htm#87660
Clothing Chosen

http://www.collarchat.com/m_132182/mpage_1/key_wear/tm.htm#132182
Attire

http://www.collarchat.com/m_509500/mpage_1/key_clothing/tm.htm#509610
clothing choices for your sub

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 7:19:38 PM

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Before I became a mother, with the expenses of having someone other than myself to dress, I wore heels most places. I spent most of my disposable income on clothing. I also have rather good taste in clothing. But the years of rearing a UM on a student's income have taken their toll on my wardrobe. Not to mention losing and gaining weight a few times over the last few years. My weight has been stable since last summer though.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 7:22:21 PM

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I think it's a cool way to submit. I don't know about the heels, only because I'm 5'9" in bare feet and heels tend to make me tower over most of the male population, but I get that it's the same way for you as well. I do not own a pair of heels, which is dumb because my legs are probably my best feature. Have fun with it, especially if he has good taste (and it sounds like he does).

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 7:39:13 PM

juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I think it's a cool way to submit. I don't know about the heels, only because I'm 5'9" in bare feet and heels tend to make me tower over most of the male population, but I get that it's the same way for you as well. I do not own a pair of heels, which is dumb because my legs are probably my best feature. Have fun with it, especially if he has good taste (and it sounds like he does).

I'm 5 foot 10, and I have to admit I have avoided heels partially because I stopped liking the way they made me tower over everyone.

He does have good taste

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 7:59:27 PM

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Absolutely Julia.

I was a tomboy. I had a Master who wanted me to be feminine. I fought it but it started being fun because of his reaction to the clothes and shoes and accessories he picked out, and then it started being fun because of everyone else's reactions, and then it was also fun because every sway of my hips, every touch of my foot on the pavement was a physical reminder to me that I was owned. It was luscious and positive.

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RE: Being Dressed By Your Dom - 1/14/2008 10:13:57 PM

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Daddy has requested me to wear certain things a few times. other than that, he lets me dress as i wish. normal attire for me is "something that doesnt hurt".

nerve sensitivity leads me to tshirts and pajama pants a lot of days. Daddy isnt here to see it, but he knows what i'm wearing.. and agrees that comfort has to come first on those days. clean tshirts and pants, but still, comfy clothes.

kitten, wearing what else? a tshirt and fleece pajama pants.

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