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What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 1:59:41 PM   
DMdogboy


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Status: offline 		I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.  I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him.  I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him.  Help!
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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:04:45 PM   
Justme696


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ORIGINAL: DMdogboy

I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.  I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him.  I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him.  Help!


What can you offer more in a new relation then yourself?  IF it is so freah and they demand so much, perhaps you shouldn't put more time in it.


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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:06:01 PM   
OmegaG


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ORIGINAL: DMdogboy

I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.  I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him.  I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him.  Help!


did I miss the news flash, is he the very last Master?

If he wants TPE and you can't provide it why wouldn't the both of you look for someone more suited to your desires?

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:06:22 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		Move on, no one in there right mind would ask you to give up anything like a house or job until well after they knew it was going to work long term.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:07:43 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		What is he offering you?  It always bothers me when the s-types think they have to be wonderfully awesome and prove themselves while the d-type sits back and waits.  You are in the relationship too, so the d-type has to prove him/herself as well.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:09:05 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		You want dog training, this that, maybe give him sexual service time to time, so you could very well be put in a flower pot, posed and you can decorate his life.......

Ja, I don't know about that.......

See, I would have to think that it would be the same all over the world, Dominants (good and real and true and whatever) Dominants can get their dick sucked (or pussy sucked as the case may be) about any fucking time they want.

What do you offer that will enhance his life????????  Cause if he trains you and invests his time in you, knowing that you are gonna be here and in it only when it is convenient for you......

That don't mean money, can you construct, repair cars, garden, teach him to play chess, clean his house, whatever----but something he needs or wants, afterall, what you are looking to find is the fulfillment of a want or need, and since you cannot fulfill his want or need to own you completely 24/7/365 and do as he pleases, what are you offering in compensation for that level (is this making any fucking sense???? I hope so)

Ron  

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:18:27 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Ron,

Made sense to Me.


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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 2:52:18 PM   
toservez


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMIkeSD

Move on, no one in there right mind would ask you to give up anything like a house or job until well after they knew it was going to work long term.

Mike




I agree with this. These are relationships if you and what you are is not good enough then he is not good enough for you.

Many people unfortunately try to make a submissive feel inferior or more importantly try to get them to become dependent on them in away that it is tough for them to leave. This is just not healthy thinking.

Forget terms and forget judgments. Either a person accepts you for you or the problem is on their end not yours.


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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 4:09:07 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Well, first off - what does he want?  That's the question, isn't it?  Can you offer what he wants and is it something you WANT to offer?  If you don't know the answer to what he wants, then what have you been talking about all this time?  If you know what he wants but you don't WANT to or CANT offer it, then why are you still talking to him and not just saying, "It would seem we are not compatible, but I wish you luck in your search."?

Seems pretty clear to me.  And um, don't give him access to your money. 

peace

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:32:47 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		You guys should be ashamed of herself- surely she's not even worthy of posting on this board if she can't even sell her house and go suck on his cock this very instant.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:37:47 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OmegaG

quote:

ORIGINAL: DMdogboy

I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.  I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him.  I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him.  Help!


did I miss the news flash, is he the very last Master?


I actually did a little research on this situation, and yes...indeed...he is, in fact, the very last Master.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:39:17 PM   
Griswold


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

You guys should be ashamed of herself- surely she's not even worthy of posting on this board if she can't even sell her house and go suck on his cock this very instant.


(You do make a rather excellent point).

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:46:04 PM   
takenbyjohnr07


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Status: offline 		You should offer him someone else's telephone number.
Good relationships are hard at best, but when you haven't even met yet and he is cting like this, i would run the other way. Good luck in whatever you do.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:48:10 PM   
MadRabbit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

You want dog training, this that, maybe give him sexual service time to time, so you could very well be put in a flower pot, posed and you can decorate his life.......

Ja, I don't know about that.......

See, I would have to think that it would be the same all over the world, Dominants (good and real and true and whatever) Dominants can get their dick sucked (or pussy sucked as the case may be) about any fucking time they want.

What do you offer that will enhance his life????????  Cause if he trains you and invests his time in you, knowing that you are gonna be here and in it only when it is convenient for you......

That don't mean money, can you construct, repair cars, garden, teach him to play chess, clean his house, whatever----but something he needs or wants, afterall, what you are looking to find is the fulfillment of a want or need, and since you cannot fulfill his want or need to own you completely 24/7/365 and do as he pleases, what are you offering in compensation for that level (is this making any fucking sense???? I hope so)

Ron  


You know, Ron...

The psychologist in me wonders exactly what happened to you to make you what you are.....



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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:53:46 PM   
PrincessDonna


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Status: offline 		I agree with SunshineMiss,what is it that he wants you to be able to give him in submission?There is so much more then $$$ in a BDSM relationship and that degree of dowry should not be required to into a relationship.

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 5:59:40 PM   
SayaNereida


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I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.


If you must prove you are worthy to him perhaps he is not worthy of you.

IF you begin by having to prove your worth, it is likely you will always wonder if you are truly worthy.

IMO
Saya


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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 7:50:07 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: DMdogboy

...I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.


If this is exactly what he said, I'd say that I I had plenty to offer, but it was obvious that it wasn't what he was looking for so we were not a match. you having your own home and your own job doesn't preclude you from having a meaningful relationship.

Master Fire


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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 8:34:33 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DMdogboy

I have been speaking with a Master online for several days now, and he has told me that because I am not able to be fully owned property (I have my own house and job and am unable to give all that up), that I need to come up with something to make it worth his while to bother with me.  I have offered myself in various ways, and he has told me that all I've offered all revolves around me, not what I can do for him.  I'm not sure if he is just wanting to be a Money Dom, or if I am not coming up with the right things to offer him.  Help!


Offer him a swift kick in the ass and slam the door.  Do you really need to ask this question?  Can you stop and think WHY you need to?

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 8:39:42 PM   
BoundDown


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Status: offline 		umm why exactly can you npt be "owned property" because you have a life and own property?
Since slavery is no longer a legally protected status, technically, no one can be owned in that sense...
BUT even if I had  more property than Trump I would still be "owned" it is in my heart and mind; I must say I am very confused.
Are pickins' so slim in the gay male Dom market?

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RE: What Can I Offer? - 1/16/2008 8:51:24 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		When someone I've never met asks me what I can offer, I answer that I am offering to buy her lunch.  People who were hinting at money go away after that, and people who are serious thank me for not trying to BS them.  Because I absolutely know 100% that genuine people act genuine, and are willing to meet people they respect.  You have never met the guy.

Grab your ass with both hands, sit down, take a deep breath, and get real.

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