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gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:20:43 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I have always enjoyed oral sex when it is taken from me.  On prior partners who were less than endowed, having a gag reflex seemed to work for us.  My former was larger than any of my previous partners and he could only get passed my gag reflex a couple of times.  Now that I am seeking again I want to know how to go about either learning to ignore my reflex, or is it ok to still have one.
So dominants out there, do you like to have your sub choke on your cock?  Or would you perfer to slide into your partners throat?
Submissives out there do you have tips on how to ignore the reflex?
Kyst

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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:25:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		In general it is good to have the reflex of course.
You can train to stop it by practicing (with a toy perhaps). I prefer myself the girl to be able to take it all in her throat/mouth.
Try breathing through your nose as practice also



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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:25:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		i don't have much of a gag reflex at all unless HE chooses to actually gag me by forceably shoving it down my throat hard...which is kinda of a neat way to go, IMO, because then if he doesn't want me to gag i don't at all and it gives him total control over that area....

Hmmmm i never thought of it like that til just that moment.....

i can give you some pointers if you decide you want to try to overcome it.




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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:28:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Justme Mmmmm how do you know about breathing thru your nose????

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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:29:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do have a gag reflex and that hasn't really been any different.  I just work with it, rather than totally ignore it.  If it doesn't make you uncomfortable, I would consider it a good thing.  I have always been taught and shown that it is a good thing.
 
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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:31:14 AM   
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I disliked oral sex, till I had this kajira that was really good at it. And I wondered how she managed that (deep and long inside her throat)
She made me enjoy oral sex and explained how too

(and I am a big Georg Micheal fan   not) 

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Justme Mmmmm how do you know about breathing thru your nose????


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 9:32:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Some do, some don't.  I have a prominent gag reflex.  The best thing I do for it is buy a product "Good Head".  It numbs the back of my throat and allows me to take more.

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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:21:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Umm.. if it numbs the back of your throat wouldnt it also numb their cock?
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Some do, some don't.  I have a prominent gag reflex.  The best thing I do for it is buy a product "Good Head".  It numbs the back of my throat and allows me to take more.


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:22:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, that discomfort has always been a good thing for me.  I enjoy the feeling of panic. 
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I do have a gag reflex and that hasn't really been any different.  I just work with it, rather than totally ignore it.  If it doesn't make you uncomfortable, I would consider it a good thing.  I have always been taught and shown that it is a good thing.
 
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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:25:14 AM   
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Actually, that discomfort has always been a good thing for me. I enjoy the feeling of panic.


is it still discomfort then ? :P


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:29:35 AM   
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Actually, that discomfort has always been a good thing for me. I enjoy the feeling of panic.


is it still discomfort then ? :P



Oh, yes.  It is.  Panic and fear release chemicals in the brain one has to truly feel that emotion to get the chemicals.

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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:39:09 AM   
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thank you


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:39:18 AM   
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Some do, some don't.  I have a prominent gag reflex.  The best thing I do for it is buy a product "Good Head".  It numbs the back of my throat and allows me to take more.


The only problem with a product like "Good Head" is that it might not always be available to you when you need it (if something is done spontaneously)....it could be a good "training wheels" type of thing but eventually, IMO, learning to work without it is better.


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:47:52 AM   
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Actually, that discomfort has always been a good thing for me. I enjoy the feeling of panic.


is it still discomfort then ? :P



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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:50:22 AM   
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Only if you count squirting in my panties uncomfy.
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Actually, that discomfort has always been a good thing for me. I enjoy the feeling of panic.


is it still discomfort then ? :P



lol, no but i will call it if you squirt in mine ....*grin**


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:57:15 AM   
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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 10:58:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I have always enjoyed oral sex when it is taken from me.  On prior partners who were less than endowed, having a gag reflex seemed to work for us.  My former was larger than any of my previous partners and he could only get passed my gag reflex a couple of times.  Now that I am seeking again I want to know how to go about either learning to ignore my reflex, or is it ok to still have one.
So dominants out there, do you like to have your sub choke on your cock?  Or would you perfer to slide into your partners throat?
Submissives out there do you have tips on how to ignore the reflex?
Kyst


I love oral sex, I love everything about it. I think that this attitude is more important to most men that I have talked to than how deep one can take it, or whether you gag or do not.

In some positions I can take him down my throat deeply, in others I gag. Still other positions my teeth are an issue, but through it all, I love every moment of it, get lost in doing it, and I believe this is why my Daddy has told me I give the best BJs he has ever had. We actually do breath play while I give him oral, in fact it is the only time we do breath play. He will hold himself deeply in my throat to where I cannot breath until I squirm... makes me sink into subspace.

Oral is a spiritual tantric thing for us, and like I said, it is my attitude of loving doing it and how I respond to it that turns him on most of all.

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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 11:21:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have been researching this.  I have found two things that work well.  Just as the reflex begins, flare your nostrils and breathe in slowly.  Then flatten your tongue and breathe out your mouth.  It seems to work.

The other thing is just as the cock gets to your throat and you feel the gag reflex, swallow several times.  Not only does it alleviate the gag reflex, but muy Dom likes it too.  Also, hum while you are down there.  It is a different feeling for him.

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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 11:32:27 AM   
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Also, hum while you are down there. It is a different feeling for him.


but not to loud please......then it sounds like a mantra ;)


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RE: gag reflex, good or bad? - 1/17/2008 1:55:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		worse case scenario if you choose to ignore your automatic gag reflex(as long as you're still breathing through your nose, that is):  crying, red faced and barfing on them, which believe it or not, is the actual goal of some tops; makes them feel all manly-man don't you know, so i don't worry about it or the outcome.  if they're controlling me, and i lose control, then they get what they asked for regardless of how it turns out in the end.

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