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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

i don't have much of a gag reflex at all unless HE chooses to actually gag me by forceably shoving it down my throat hard...which is kinda of a neat way to go, IMO, because then if he doesn't want me to gag i don't at all and it gives him total control over that area....

Hmmmm i never thought of it like that til just that moment.....

i can give you some pointers if you decide you want to try to overcome it.

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ORIGINAL: parttimehotty

Please DO share, cherry!  i'm a gagger, even though i love to be forecefully face f**ked, but i also want to feel it go past that damn barrier in the back of my throat ;(

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

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ORIGINAL: parttimehotty

Please DO share, cherry!  i'm a gagger, even though i love to be forecefully face f**ked, but i also want to feel it go past that damn barrier in the back of my throat ;(

Okay i will post what i responded to someone who asked me on the other side...and if you can learn not to gag then He will have the control over when you gag or not...the fact that my Daddy is THE only one i have gagged on since i learned to deepthroat is something that i love too.

So here is what i told her...

If of course He wants you to gag, it's great for him to be able to do that....but if you are doing it more at your own pace then i have found that a few things make it easier for me......Of course practicing breathing through your nose is first thing.....then opening up your throat, like you do when you yawn, so that it gets bigger....i have practiced to the point of near stupidity with a dildo-which makes it great because there is not stress involved while you practice.:)....The one i use is a smooth (very important) double headed dildo...it is soft enough to be able to feed it right down my throat with no concerns over it breaking (like if one were to use a food product)...try to figure out where your man's length is and make that a goal.....The only things that can get in the way, are your mindset (and if you go at it like YOU WILL DO IT, positive thinking) and the other complication is if he is too wide to fit through your throat....If he is, then nothing can really make it happen except force, and even then....there are limitations.

One other thing, make sure you try to go with the curve of him...if he is curved one way....then position yourself so that his curve will be going down your throat at the proper angle.

and always remember....I KNOW I CAN I KNOW I CAN I KNOW I CAN :)

In addition...it is NEVER a good idea to use any food product to do it...god forbid something breaks off in your throat and you are all alone practicing.

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ORIGINAL: agoodgirl4Daddy

some guys really LIKE to see and hear a woman choke on their big fat cock... 

also, the sight of a woman drooling all over their tool is a turn on for many too! 

and some women... are only too happy to oblige... 

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I love oral sex, I love everything about it. I think that this attitude is more important to most men

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I have always enjoyed oral sex when it is taken from me.  On prior partners who were less than endowed, having a gag reflex seemed to work for us.  My former was larger than any of my previous partners and he could only get passed my gag reflex a couple of times.  Now that I am seeking again I want to know how to go about either learning to ignore my reflex, or is it ok to still have one.
So dominants out there, do you like to have your sub choke on your cock?  Or would you perfer to slide into your partners throat?
Submissives out there do you have tips on how to ignore the reflex?
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

I'm not at all sure how best to offer advice to assist you in your course...however...I'm here to help.

I'm slightly more than average sized....not large at all....certainly not at all small....but I'm here for you.

I will certainly allow you to suck my dick...and I will give you additional...even extra time.

Why?

(Because I'm a giver...that's why).

I'm here for you.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Such generosity!  Thank you thank you for letting me know that there are still givers in the land. <g>
Kyst

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(That's what I was thinking too). 

< Message edited by Griswold -- 1/17/2008 6:39:20 PM >

(in reply to Missokyst)

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Umm.. if it numbs the back of your throat wouldnt it also numb their cock?
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum

Some do, some don't.  I have a prominent gag reflex.  The best thing I do for it is buy a product "Good Head".  It numbs the back of my throat and allows me to take more.

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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

worse case scenario if you choose to ignore your automatic gag reflex(as long as you're still breathing through your nose, that is):  crying, red faced and barfing on them, which believe it or not, is the actual goal of some tops; makes them feel all manly-man don't you know, so i don't worry about it or the outcome.  if they're controlling me, and i lose control, then they get what they asked for regardless of how it turns out in the end.

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In addition...it is NEVER a good idea to use any food product to do it...god forbid something breaks off in your throat and you are all alone practicing.

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ORIGINAL: JoydeVivre

Personally, I'd stay away from products that numb the back of your throat...  it would make it easier to deepthroat but would also make it easier to get more hurt than you really wanted to as well..

I think there are a few key things to deepthroating:

1.  Swallow, swallow, swallow as much as you need until the gag reflex settles.. as his cock slides in as starts to push down the back of your throat, swallow through that push in.   When he's got you held fast so you can't get off his cock, swallow around him as much as possible..  it helps :)

2.  Position...   different positions make it easier.. someone else mentioned on your back, head hanging down over the side of the bed.. this is a really good one..  I found with me kneeling between his legs, him lying on his back on the bed was harder to deepthroat..  Kneeling when he's standing was just downright delicious...  ahem...

3.  Patience - when given the time to do it at your pace, just go as slow as you need to and try different angles out..

4.  Practice practice practice..  I've been pretty good at this in the past, but I'm out of practice now and gag easily again... 

Lastly, for me deepthroating is a conscious action - I need to remember to swallow and to open up and all that stuff.  If I'm not deepthroating I tend to just sink into bliss and worship with my tongue.. love it :)  but if I start gagging then I have to wake up a bit and think about what I am doing..

All good stuff :) yum yum..

Joy

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I had heard that leaning your head over the side of the bed works and that may be my best option I think.  Next time I have an opportunity I will try to remember swallowing, although it is really hard to remember how to swallow sometimes.
Patience.. and practice..
LOL umm.. I guess it would help to have a partner.
Kyst