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winterlight -> What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 3:00:04 PM)

just wondering what does it for U/u to notice somebody...




azropedntied -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 3:14:10 PM)

Some outward apperance is nice but it is not what i seek in any partner for bdsm  either Top or bottom .Its what is in their heart and soul ,compatability ,the light and energy with in ,attitude ,willingness to learn and grow , their spirit .For me i do not say wow nice gam's pretty feet , hot ass .etc . That is all physical attractions  and though it can be nice its not what i personaly am seeking nor drawn too .More of a bonus  than the first thing i look at or for .




Pulpsmack -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 3:25:06 PM)

What attracts me to any female is her looks, personality, and intelligence (in chronological order although not in order of importance)

As for the subset of BBW... it is just as easy as a fitness model, provided she is the genuine article. How many women here and elsewhere list themselves as BBWs? How many have clue as to what it means? Being morbidly obese with a nasty defensive temperment to match might make you a "BBW" if "Boorish Bitchy Whale" suffices. A BBW has a beautiful face (NO EXCEPTIONS). She would be beautiful north of the neck whether fat or skinny, not beautiful because she is big. The second component is a proportioned body. Big means many things, but not all of them are beautiful. Big breasts, big hips, broader shoulders etc all make for a very attractive physique, whereas shapless and round does not so much. Finally, the personality comes in play. I have found BBWs to be very sweet or saucy and have a great sense of humor. That is a part of what exudes sexiness, not this shitty projection of hostility to cover this vast ocean of insecurity.

That would be the ideal BBW to me, and they are as attractive and desired as any other woman. I believe a BBW may have 2 out of 3 (all the physical and terrible personality, or beautiful body/face without the other) but too many assert themselves as BBWs and rarely have one of those three qualities, which really irritates me. I think it takes away from those who have earned the title and has cheapened it into an overbroad category of "overweight/larger-sized" people that has nothing to do with the original meaning of the term.





NorthernGent -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 3:44:03 PM)

A good cook.
Intelligence.
An interest in politics.
A sense of humour.
A warm heart.

P.S. I gather from these boards that a few of you American women are averse to receiving oral..............that can't happen.




CalifChick -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 3:51:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

P.S. I gather from these boards that a few of you American women are averse to receiving oral..............that can't happen.


Methinks someone has been smokin' sumthin'.

Cali




SweetieSub37 -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 4:43:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

P.S. I gather from these boards that a few of you American women are averse to receiving oral..............that can't happen.



I am amazed - most women i know love it! 

Also - pulpsmack, that was beautifully put and made me smile.  I am BBW and yes consider myself beautiful and sexy. It's been a tough road but i find there are wonderful men out there who see me that way also.  Kudos to you.




SirJohnMandevill -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 4:49:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pulpsmack

What attracts me to any female is her looks, personality, and intelligence (in chronological order although not in order of importance)

As for the subset of BBW... it is just as easy as a fitness model, provided she is the genuine article. How many women here and elsewhere list themselves as BBWs? How many have clue as to what it means? Being morbidly obese with a nasty defensive temperment to match might make you a "BBW" if "Boorish Bitchy Whale" suffices. A BBW has a beautiful face (NO EXCEPTIONS). She would be beautiful north of the neck whether fat or skinny, not beautiful because she is big. The second component is a proportioned body. Big means many things, but not all of them are beautiful. Big breasts, big hips, broader shoulders etc all make for a very attractive physique, whereas shapless and round does not so much. Finally, the personality comes in play. I have found BBWs to be very sweet or saucy and have a great sense of humor. That is a part of what exudes sexiness, not this shitty projection of hostility to cover this vast ocean of insecurity.

That would be the ideal BBW to me, and they are as attractive and desired as any other woman. I believe a BBW may have 2 out of 3 (all the physical and terrible personality, or beautiful body/face without the other) but too many assert themselves as BBWs and rarely have one of those three qualities, which really irritates me. I think it takes away from those who have earned the title and has cheapened it into an overbroad category of "overweight/larger-sized" people that has nothing to do with the original meaning of the term.



Couldn't have said it better, Pulpsmack! It just has happened that most of the subs in whom I've had some level of interest have been larger women. That's not what attracted me; it was the qualities you mentioned in your opening sentence.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)




CalifChick -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:03:13 PM)

FR

Are we really gonna debate BBW?  Or are we gonna call it a label that was invented to make fat chicks feel better about themselves?  You couldn't have just asked "what attracts you to a person?"

How about we start debating other labels and whether people that identify with that label really live up to the words???

Cali






Kalista07 -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:07:19 PM)

Well.....Cali, i hate to argue with You here....However....i personally have assigned a label to some people around here and they've lived up to it pretty well....But, hey...Jackasses don't have to work very hard to earn their name, now do they?
:P




camille65 -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:09:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pulpsmack

What attracts me to any female is her looks, personality, and intelligence (in chronological order although not in order of importance)

As for the subset of BBW... it is just as easy as a fitness model, provided she is the genuine article. How many women here and elsewhere list themselves as BBWs? How many have clue as to what it means? Being morbidly obese with a nasty defensive temperment to match might make you a "BBW" if "Boorish Bitchy Whale" suffices. A BBW has a beautiful face (NO EXCEPTIONS). She would be beautiful north of the neck whether fat or skinny, not beautiful because she is big. The second component is a proportioned body. Big means many things, but not all of them are beautiful. Big breasts, big hips, broader shoulders etc all make for a very attractive physique, whereas shapless and round does not so much. Finally, the personality comes in play. I have found BBWs to be very sweet or saucy and have a great sense of humor. That is a part of what exudes sexiness, not this shitty projection of hostility to cover this vast ocean of insecurity.

That would be the ideal BBW to me, and they are as attractive and desired as any other woman. I believe a BBW may have 2 out of 3 (all the physical and terrible personality, or beautiful body/face without the other) but too many assert themselves as BBWs and rarely have one of those three qualities, which really irritates me. I think it takes away from those who have earned the title and has cheapened it into an overbroad category of "overweight/larger-sized" people that has nothing to do with the original meaning of the term.


 Very succint post, as well as an orange juice choking post on that line I bolded. I think what attracts someone to another person is so incredibly varied that there can not be just a one line definition.




DommeofFantasies -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:14:11 PM)

Being a BBW is more than having a large body with a beautiful face.  It is confidance.  It is looking the best you can.  Having your hair done.  Having your make-up on.  Smelling nice.  Wearing clothes that fit.  Smiling.  Having a great personality.  Not complain that people do not find you attractive because you are over-weight.  It is being the best person that you can be.

Who won't be attracted to a witty, intelligent, fun, and nice person?  Size is not the issue.  But, if you are slob, negative, bitchy, and toxic--it does not matter it you are slender, athletic, or fat--no one will want your company for long.

We all have preferances in regards to physical appearances.  Why dissect it?  Why a needs to figure out why?  Just accept and enjoy.




azropedntied -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:22:34 PM)

D-O-F > kinda the same point i was attempting to make .. guess i need more practice with the putting the words together thing LOL . 




SweetCaleigh -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:22:37 PM)

quote:

What attracts me to any female is her looks, personality, and intelligence (in chronological order although not in order of importance)

As for the subset of BBW... it is just as easy as a fitness model, provided she is the genuine article. How many women here and elsewhere list themselves as BBWs? How many have clue as to what it means? Being morbidly obese with a nasty defensive temperment to match might make you a "BBW" if "Boorish Bitchy Whale" suffices. A BBW has a beautiful face (NO EXCEPTIONS). She would be beautiful north of the neck whether fat or skinny, not beautiful because she is big. The second component is a proportioned body. Big means many things, but not all of them are beautiful. Big breasts, big hips, broader shoulders etc all make for a very attractive physique, whereas shapless and round does not so much. Finally, the personality comes in play. I have found BBWs to be very sweet or saucy and have a great sense of humor. That is a part of what exudes sexiness, not this shitty projection of hostility to cover this vast ocean of insecurity.

That would be the ideal BBW to me, and they are as attractive and desired as any other woman. I believe a BBW may have 2 out of 3 (all the physical and terrible personality, or beautiful body/face without the other) but too many assert themselves as BBWs and rarely have one of those three qualities, which really irritates me. I think it takes away from those who have earned the title and has cheapened it into an overbroad category of "overweight/larger-sized" people that has nothing to do with the original meaning of the term.


Wonderfully said Sir...  i wish more men thought like You. [:)]
*sweet caleigh*




CalifChick -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:24:24 PM)

Are you serious Caleigh?  You think fat chicks should only call themselves BBW if they have those three qualities??

Cali




lronitulstahp -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:27:15 PM)

Was the " any sub/slave " part too easy, so the bbw part had to be added to grab attention?  i mean, wouldn't the general thread be interesting enough?[sm=banghead.gif]




agoodgirl4Daddy -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:30:39 PM)

so happy to have a definition of BBW from a guy who must know what he's talking about.  [8|]

maybe he doesn't realize that the "beautiful face" he's seeing may be a "bulldog face" to another...and vice versa.  same thing with personality....very subjective. 

guess he thinks he has the one twue (oh god..now i'm saying it) definition of BBW.




dcnovice -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:31:39 PM)

quote:

Was the " any sub/slave " part too easy, so the bbw part had to be added to grab attention? 

What I'm wondering now is how a BBW sub is similar to and different from a BBW slave. Venn diagram, anyone?




CalifChick -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:31:55 PM)

agoodgirl4Daddy [sm=whip.gif]

Cali




lynn20063 -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:37:59 PM)

I detest the term BBW...I am large. I am fat,I am heavy , curvy ,overweight....whatever

but being fat ,plump ,whatever does not make me beautiful

though my attitude might  [;)]




Pulpsmack -> RE: What attracts U/u to a BBW or any sub/slave (1/17/2008 5:42:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Are you serious Caleigh?  You think fat chicks should only call themselves BBW if they have those three qualities??

Cali



Do you really think they should call themselves BBW if they have none of those qualities? I am not averse to the shedding labels movement (good luck implementing that), but if one is going to use the term to define herself, then she should know what it means and live up to its meaning before using it. Or shall we further perpetuate more misinformation, miscategorization, and dishonesty in D/s cyberspace? Maybe we should apologize for Dom/mes next who don't embody the qualities of dominance, but use the term for the sake of attracting punching bags, etc. No, I don't think so either. People should mean what they say and know/learn what they are talking about when making a representation of oneself in such places. Life is too short and time is too precious to waste sifting through negligent/dishonest representation.




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