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homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 2:56:50 PM   
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Hi -- I'm looking for things (!) for my subs to do during the day/ week.. so that know that they are owned.

All ideas welcomed

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 3:59:21 PM   
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My master has me write a journal everyday. If I dont have a good reason for not writing it, this slave is disciplined. So far only one day that I've missed writing it. Not because I dont want the punishment, but because I dont want to disappoint my master. You could also have your subs write down their feelings on the lifestyle, where they would like to go in it, what they hope to learn from you, what they hope to learn about themselves. My journal is about my deepest feelings, things I might have a hard time talking about, my past, things like that. Master has also asked me to make a list of where I see myself in 5, 10, 15, etc... years down the road. you could have them alternate what they do in their journals every other day. One day their deepest feelings, fears, etc. The next day, about the lifestyle. Hope this gives you some ideas.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 4:34:46 PM   
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My gut reaction is to say if you have to give them "homework" so that they know they are owned (your words), then do you really own them??  Ownership is a state of mind, not a state of tasks.  Some people are just not natural writers, and giving grunt work for the sake of grunt work seems onerous at best. 

Do they live with you?  Are there not tasks that really NEED to be done to keep up the house, or just to make life easier?

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 4:39:14 PM   
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So they know they are owned?
Bad reason to give homework.
AS a reinforcement of their service, perhaps, but not just so they know they are owned.
My boys dont have homework, persay. Fox has chores when he is here, Angel has schol work the he reports back to me on. Fox will too, when he gets his registration and such taken care of and starts back. In the past I have had boys keep a journal for me (Fox has his own) or they have had to email me at certain set times during the week. Every day is too easy, theres no real brainwork involved in that, set days for things to be done is far better since they have to make an effort to remember what days things are to be done on.  If you want something more homework-like have them write lines, or make them follow something in the news you are actively following and give you a synopsis of what happens.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 6:21:32 PM   
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I have a few things that I do for my Master during the week...homework and tasks to keep me focused on Him when He is not here (we live away from each other)....unfortunately one of my orders is not to divulge details of my training to others..

I understand your meaning I think...because Master and I live away from each other over the week it's hard for me to keep focused as the other half of my life takes over. I am alot calmer when I'm focused on Him, but alot of it has to do with being ADHD I think....I don't know if your sub/slave has the same issue that I do.

However, my mentor used to give me homework assignments...mostly read an article then respond to him about what I leared or thought about in relation to the article subject. I had to do a few picture assignments, he would give me a word and I would have to collect a few pictures (on the web) of my interpretation of the word (for instance..."humble" or "pride"), this was alot of fun. It is a good way to learn as well....

I have known Doms to order their subs to do 5 minutes of kneeling/corner time each night, to blog/journal daily too.

I hope that helped.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 6:24:50 PM   
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Hi -- I'm looking for things (!) for my subs to do during the day/ week.. so that know that they are owned.

All ideas welcomed

Wes


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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 6:35:28 PM   
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It sounds like keeping a journal is a very popular daily task for subs/slaves.  my journal is a safe place (i'm never punished for what i write there) for my daily thoughts as well as any research Master has asked me to do.  This keeps me busy doing something useful that will benefit us both, rather than just busy work, but it isn't something i do every day.  i also have a list of tasks that are to be done daily, with stipulations on how each of them should be performed.  Concentrating on doing things His way is a constant reminder that i belong to Him, which, i believe, is what you are trying to accomplish.  

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 6:39:19 PM   
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Hi -- I'm looking for things (!) for my subs to do during the day/ week.. so that know that they are owned.

All ideas welcomed

Wes


How about giving your sub your platinum American Express card to go shopping with during the day/week; that would be a great way of showing ownership.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/19/2008 6:53:02 PM   
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Okay I have had photo and written assignments sometimes combinations of both which had to be emailed to him within a certain  time frame

A written assignment may be something like this  Write 3 paragraphs on yourviews of D/s dynamics use descriptors in your explanations,   he would review  either  praising or  give criticism  where due , if serious problems existed I could be asked to redo and do some research, I could be asked to create a  fictional  story  about a situation involving me  and him using lots of adjectives and narration, after reading  he may ask questions  on why I thought an event may unfold in a certain way. or critique for sentence structure grammar etc.   

A photo assignment could be of myself, a body part,   for example hand, a still life  I would be asked to use some creativity  in doing so , or  he may  ask me to include  cuffs  or other objects ,    or if  face shots may ask me to use make up in a certain way or wear my hair in a sertain manner.    he might also ask me to write a short essay on  my thoughts as I was taking the pictures.   Picture were critiqued as to whether instructions were followed,  quality of pictures or lightening  if problems existed I may be asked to research photography sites to improve  the quality and my findings would become part of my next assignment as I explain how I could have improved , the following assignment could be redoing pictures implementing things I learned.

Sometimes an assigment would be deemed unsatisfactory and my next assignment done be to try and determine and explain why he felt it was unsatisfactory.

I may have something I want to do one day , for example I decided to go to a trade show, that became part of assigment describing what I seen and did there.  or he may assign me a task to do  and then have me write about and describe my feelings at doing what ever task he assigned  it could be something mundane or sexual in nature.  There would be times he would push my buttons and get me a bit angry and frustrated with him on purpose before assigning me  a writing task, one of the things he wanted to see was honesty in expressing my feelings, if I wrote instead what I thought he wanted to hear I would get dragged over the coals a bit in our  next online discussion .   If I could not complete an assigment I had to send an email explaining why or why it would be late, he decided if my excuse was acceptable if not I would end up having  to do plus another ontop of. 

Some "doms"  make it strictly sexual and request cam videos of a sexual nature as a result  this creates the  very negative looked down upon view of online D/s relationships on these forums

Assignments as I view it as a sub can be a bonding and help in creating a mental connection, that can used for self improvement and confidence building for the sub,  it can also back fire  and be viewed as a pain in the ass  if too demanding and intrudes too much on the subs available time or if they are under a lot of stress casing quality of assignments degrade then which leads to constant criticism  and which can erode the relationship, or degrading because of demands to churn  mostly porn for the "dom" to wank off at


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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 7:56:10 AM   
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I never gave/give homework to enforce a sense of ownership. I did/do it tell help him/her continuing thinking about things we've done/discussed in the last training session.

That could be anything from write an essay to read a book to enroll in a class to practicing positions or using a mantra for self reflection.

It really depends on the goal. Think of the pedagogical idea of backward design. What is the final goal and what steps can help you achieve it?

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 7:59:27 AM   
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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: westside

Hi -- I'm looking for things (!) for my subs to do during the day/ week.. so that know that they are owned.

All ideas welcomed

Wes


How about giving your sub your platinum American Express card to go shopping with during the day/week; that would be a great way of showing ownership.


Mmmmm i could do that .. and! and! if one didn't spend enough or max the card out on a regular basis, perhaps one could get a spanking too!


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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 9:25:11 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: westside

Hi -- I'm looking for things (!) for my subs to do during the day/ week.. so that know that they are owned.

All ideas welcomed

Wes


How about giving your sub your platinum American Express card to go shopping with during the day/week; that would be a great way of showing ownership.


Oooohhhh... I like that idea!     I think we need more ideas of things to assign to dominants so they always know they are owners.  You know, reminders of their responsibility.

Maybe ideas to help put them into "dom space", too. 

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 9:35:01 AM   
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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: westside

Hi -- I'm looking for things (!) for my subs to do during the day/ week.. so that know that they are owned.

All ideas welcomed

Wes


How about giving your sub your platinum American Express card to go shopping with during the day/week; that would be a great way of showing ownership.


Cracking idea, but, OP, make sure you cancel it as soon as she leaves your front door. Upon your woman's exit from said door, follow her to her favourite shop, and watch her face as the girl behind the counter says "sorry, madam, the card has been cancelled, you'll have to put that £3,000 dress back on the rack.......and everyone in the shop will be watching and laughing at you".

That should put an end to her designs on your possessions: this isn't a charity show.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 9:44:34 AM   
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Honey Master did give me a card, but, I haven't bought any expensive dresses with it....yet...

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 9:44:54 AM   
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Have her research something you're interested in, with the intention being for her to educate you on the matter.

If there's an area where she needs to improve, steer her towards that, e.g. cooking.

At all costs, don't let her go wandering 'round the shops like she's on holiday - she ain't.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 9:52:58 AM   
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Honey Master did give me a card, but, I haven't bought any expensive dresses with it....yet...



Good luck to the two of you - there's no accounting for taste.

I tend to take a different approach.

Usually, I restrict card offerings to birthday cards............"Happy Birthday, why haven't you done the washing? All the very best of English luck for the coming year, X"

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 10:10:51 AM   
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Well, it's because...
He trusts me!!!
And I live up to His trust in me, and don't take advantage of His genorosity.
In fact, He complains that I never let Him buy me anything.
He practically has to beg. *lol* 'tis true.
He does so much for me, I would never want to take advantage of Him.

~Christina

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 10:20:33 AM   
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so they know they are owned?  they don't know already?  now if you're looking for reinforcing that bond, journaling is nice, it gives you something to discuss.  giving them a task to complete in x amount of time, say a month to work up to x number of pushups and sit ups, something that will get them in a good habit, that would be helpful as well.  that will reinforce the idea that you are looking after their well-being, helping them improve on themselves.  in my book, nothing can replace actually being there, but to each their own.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 10:33:56 AM   
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He does so much for me, I would never want to take advantage of Him.

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Hmmmm, I don't know him, but I suspect that "taking advantage of him" may well lead to him doing an awful lot more for you - such as making sure you don't do it again.

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RE: homework for subs? - 1/20/2008 11:24:16 AM   
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I agree with Tammy Jo- whatever you decide to give, make sure it's actually meaningful to who you are now and who you want to become.  Busy work will just make everyone frustrated in the end.

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