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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 10:37:52 AM

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I do.

Greetings,

i do as well. :)

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 11:55:56 AM

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WOW, I often say top/bottom cover the spectrum of the lifestyle. I had no idea of the meltdown some people feel when they are called a bottom. RELAXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:01:00 PM

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i dont want to be called a bottom...i prefer my bottom spanked rather than called names!

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:13:22 PM

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WOW, I often say top/bottom cover the spectrum of the lifestyle. I had no idea of the meltdown some people feel when they are called a bottom. RELAXXXXXXXXXXXXX

You probably don't get it because you're vanilla.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:26:14 PM

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Who else out there really lives a 24/7/365 total slave life or aspires for that?

Not me, Mon! The type of submissive woman I'm looking for in a 24/7/365 D/s relationship -- intelligent, strong, perhaps a bit bratty -- isn't going to want a "slave" lifestyle, anyway. Submisssive? Definitely. Slave? No.

I think there probably are shades of gray, even for "slaves." Anyone care to comment?

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

Well I am a slave , very intelligent, strong, can talk about any subject, playful but not bratty. I live it 24/7/365 with V...guess I do want it all.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 1:27:45 PM

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We are a married Dom couple that has seen our family srink,why because as one leave to seek on their journey we have decided not to replace them.Our one girl will never leave and with the influx of subs and slaves that come for a visit we have plaenty of help.This is not to say if the perfect little wench came around she couldn't stay...WE have felt a need for some time to get into each other more and the time and attention given to others was taking away from ourselfs...So the best of both world I expect...

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 7:31:28 PM

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WOW, I often say top/bottom cover the spectrum of the lifestyle. I had no idea of the meltdown some people feel when they are called a bottom. RELAXXXXXXXXXXXXX

This person doesn't get into a meltdown if I'm called a bottom. Being a non heterosexual male, in the gay world. bottom defines the role a person takes in a sexual encounter. We do also equate bottom = submissive and these are used interchangably. Thusly, a gay male who identifies as a bottom is usually submissive, which means he is on the receiving end of the activity being engaged in.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/20/2008 11:41:46 PM

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Nice ad.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/21/2008 10:24:16 AM

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me, myself and i.....infact it's not a want, it's a need!

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 6:18:54 PM

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WOW, I often say top/bottom cover the spectrum of the lifestyle. I had no idea of the meltdown some people feel when they are called a bottom. RELAXXXXXXXXXXXXX

This person doesn't get into a meltdown if I'm called a bottom. Being a non heterosexual male, in the gay world. bottom defines the role a person takes in a sexual encounter. We do also equate bottom = submissive and these are used interchangably. Thusly, a gay male who identifies as a bottom is usually submissive, which means he is on the receiving end of the activity being engaged in.

There is a favorite line come time for sex play.... who's turn is it to bottom?...This is usually followed by a lot of wrestling...lol
When it comes to other BDSM play, that question is never asked.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 6:28:19 PM

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I used to but then I had to move away for the time being. I'm young, I'm naive, and I'm ill experienced but that doesn't mean I'm not loyal or capable of being so. I hope this isn't too personal but we can do this long distance and remain 24/7 like we were before. The other night I asked if I could, well, y'know get myself off and he said no since we had plans to make a phone date the next night and he wanted me eager for it. I admit I went to bed and thought about it. It would be easy to just do it and never tell him because frankly how would he know? But the thought struck me hard, yes I was tempted to do it anyway and never tell him but at the same time I couldn't justify it. I didn't want to lie to him or disobey even if I KNEW I wouldn't get caught because of all the distance between us. I had to read a trivia book just to distract myself before falling asleep but it was worth it. He also asked for a complete list of all my clothing and dictates what I will wear now. I could wear whatever the hell I want and just say that I am dressed like he ordered but that defeats the entire purpose behind our dynamic. So yes, I could lie and pretend to be his slave but I don't want that kind of relationship with him. And in our life together in person we lived 24/7, yes there were kinks to work out we're both new to this lifestyle but I wouldn't say we weren't being true. We were living it to the best of our combined abilities and learning how to adapt our daily routines to a more dynamic driven lifestyle. I think we coped pretty well and are still coping rather well to the distance.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 6:33:43 PM

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Haha, yeah I always think of that when I see 'bottom'. I was gay before I got involved in BDSM. Though I have to say I dislike the stereotype of most gay bottoms as being effeminate. I'm sure I have my moments but I've yet to wear a tutu and I can pronounce my s's just fine. Nothing wrong with that flamboyant type, just doesn't fit me.

I still need to get used to the variety of terms in this lifestyle, forgive my ignorance I am making an effort.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 6:36:14 PM

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Shrugs.

I don't know if I want to be a 24/7/365 slave. My Master deems that this is what I am to be. Thus I pursue it and try to obey in our every interaction.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 6:42:18 PM

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Congrats on your desire to be honest to yourself.

I believe it is when you are faced with a situation and you do the right thing, one which only you will ever now the true outcome, is when you define yourself. That decision might not be best for others, BUT it identifies who you really are. Sometimes that is good and sometimes not!

Nobody can really force to do anything you do not want to do in the long run. You must want to do it also.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 7:24:47 PM

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As I see it, some people actually have obligations in life, like work or family that take priority over following every order. Unless of course you are wealthy and can support your harem of slaves, then all is good and 24/7/365 can happen, if you hypnotize all of them into never being in a bad mood, having PMS issues or disagreeing with you.

Otherwise I see no problem for you whatsoever.

This is exactly what I was thinking. How can you expect someone to be truely 24/7/365 unless you took care of EVERYTHING that would infringe on their total and complete devotion to you? Seems unrealistic.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/25/2008 7:54:30 PM

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So by most of your logic, by what I've read, does other social roles negate your submissive ones? For instance, I am a college student, I have classes to attend, does that mean I cannot be my Master's pet 24/7 because I go to class? Or because he goes to class as well? That's not the way I see it. I am still his pet while I'm studying and he would never order me to do anything that would put my college career in jeopardy, like ordering me not to go to class or do my work. To be a 'true' submissive do you have to not have a life outside of your BDSM? I have to disagree respectfully here. Then again I refer to myself as a pet instead of a slave, a slight change in semantics sure but perhaps that makes me less invested? I'm not sure. I will say that I consider myself fully 24/7 as a pet to my Master and I wouldn't let anyone else tell me otherwise simply because their deffinition doesn't match up to mine. I wouldn't be their pet/slave/submissive certainly under those conditions I wouldn't fit their standard but I wont let myself feel less of a person because of it.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/26/2008 3:47:44 AM

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We share somewhat similar views. You can be totally owned and still have a balanced life of work, kids, friends. But above all that you are still owned.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/26/2008 4:00:25 AM

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Well sure - but when the orders are structured to *include* those obligations, it's entirely possible.

To the OP - it's not *nearly* as rare as you are interpreting it to be. I know *many* people who live like this. They're just not always obvious from the outside.

As I was reading the OP post I was thinking what he is describing is not all the uncommon. Unless of course I missing something. I grew up in the house he describes my Father was the boss and mom and the kids did whatever there were told like it or not. Nor did you backtalk to either of my parents. We were allowed to voice our opinions or concerns. However my Father had the final say. We did as were we told or else.....

My ex wife and UM lived in that same "type" of household. I suspect it happens more than one might think.

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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/26/2008 5:06:14 AM

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being a doormat is pointless.. a person needs to be loved, cherished and adored and not treated as property but as a PERSON. so guess im not twue either....

Everyone wants something different....some people want the doormat...and through that they get what they need....not everyone wants affection...I have a male slave who only wants to serve...no love, no affection...just to be PROPERTY....
I find that most women want the emotional attachments more then the men.....
In some beliefs slaves are just that...property...they feel good just to be asked to do somethings..let along get a pat on the head...
SO for you...the need is different...but not all slaves feel that way....
I am a switch I have been a collared slave for many years I was treated as property and in a differnet rleationship as charished...neither made me happy...I have now made a life that does...being poly and a switch..
Just my two cents
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RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? - 1/26/2008 5:48:38 AM

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My sub works at a home-based business. So I've had to set the rule to " you have a timeline to do this and get it done" instead of always "do it right now."
I work, and he works. He makes money working at home and does it for long hours. I happen to like eating, instead of having to pay for everything. Deadlines take precedence, sometimes, over what I want, so the paycheques come on time.

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As I see it, some people actually have obligations in life, like work or family that take priority over following every order. Unless of course you are wealthy and can support your harem of slaves, then all is good and 24/7/365 can happen, if you hypnotize all of them into never being in a bad mood, having PMS issues or disagreeing with you.

Otherwise I see no problem for you whatsoever.

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