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LadyPact -> Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:01:38 AM)
Ok, I pulled this from another thread here on this forum, so I just had to ask quote: ORIGINAL: SweetieSub37 This thread couldn't have come at a better time for me as i am about to get the silent treatment tonight from my Dom for not being able to complete an assignment. it is similar to the OP's dillema - i was supposed to find someone for my Dom to chat with by 7:00 p.m. tonight or i would be ignored. It's not like i haven't been trying...i've asked all my friends and tried to find nice people online but to no avail. it's hard enough forging your own relationships without having to make a connection for someone else. It made me feel better to read the replies in this thread anyway. I feel more confident about explaining my discomfort to my Dom and asking for him to reconsider this assignment. Since this isn't something you find on the "Mistress" board, I came to ask My question here. Are there really a number of Masters who are so inept at finding a third that the task is assigned to their sub/slaves? Is it really appropriate to punish when the assignment given by the Master, who wasn't able to do for Himself, also isn't able to be completed by the slave? Seems to Me, in this type of situation, the word Master or Dom is being thrown around a little too casually. Opinions? Thoughts?

Level -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:05:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Are there really a number of Masters who are so inept at finding a third that the task is assigned to their sub/slaves? Probably so. [:D] quote: Is it really appropriate to punish when the assignment given by the Master, who wasn't able to do for Himself, also isn't able to be completed by the slave? It's always possible he's able to, but doesn't want to.

MsLadySue -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:06:43 AM)
I agree with you completely. It's unrealistic to think the sub or slave can accomplish what the Dominant couldn't.

KatyLied -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:19:08 AM)
I don't get it. It's as if the dominant only has the submissive for one purpose, to find another submissive for him. I don't do poly, but if I did, as a rational-thinking person, I would think that a relationship would be developed between all three people and that it wouldn't consist of one person shouldering the entire burden of finding another and then being punished when she couldn't succeed in what has to be one of the more difficult bdsm "assignments."

venusinblu -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:20:27 AM)
color me surprised, but if my Master did something like this, he'd be someone elses 'problem' by 7.00. In my humble opinion this is not Dom-ing, it's being an ass-hole. Mileage may vary, of course.

MollyTroubletail -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:22:02 AM)
I think it's a ludicrous situation from any angle. There's nothing remotely intelligent about it, it's degrading for everyone involved, and it is just plain.... stupid.

venusinblu -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:22:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I don't get it. It's as if the dominant only has the submissive for one purpose, to find another submissive for him. I don't do poly, but if I did, as a rational-thinking person, I would think that a relationship would be developed between all three people and that it wouldn't consist of one person shouldering the entire burden of finding another and then being punished when she couldn't succeed in what has to be one of the more difficult bdsm "assignments." i agree with you completely .. i feel too that it shows in incredible amount of disrespect for the original sub and the 'found' sub ..

DesertRat -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:26:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: venusinblu color me surprised, but if my Master did something like this, he'd be someone elses 'problem' by 7.00... This made me laugh out loud. And I agree. On the other hand, next time I talk to a sub, maybe I should order her to get me laid. Bob

venusinblu -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:32:15 AM)
you'd send a girl to do a man's job, DesertRat? <simper, simper .... lol! >

kuuntuli -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:32:43 AM)
I don't think asking sub to look for a third party is unreasonable, but punishing for not being able to accomplish this is. There are other people involved so it isn't up to the sub alone if she succeeds or not. I wouldn't want to actively look for another sub or slave to my master. Ofcourse I would do so if he asked me to but I'd think most people would prefer a direct contact from him rather than me speaking for him. I don't mind telling him if I see a potential sub somewhere, though.

whipingherfeet -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:37:42 AM)
who sorry now for not obeying

mistoferin -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:43:48 AM)
Not sure if I would even be done laughing by 7:00. As for the silent treatment, well at least I could be sure that having to listen to his mindless dribble wouldn't sidetrack me while I packed. What an idiot.

mistoferin -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:49:31 AM)
Guess I really didn't answer the question. Yes, this is common, it seems like there are several threads almost every week where some submissive says she is searching for another for her "Master". My question is, how do adult women with half a brain allow themselves to fall for that kind of shit?

sexyred1 -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:50:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin Not sure if I would even be done laughing by 7:00. As for the silent treatment, well at least I could be sure that having to listen to his mindless dribble wouldn't sidetrack me while I packed. What an idiot. What she said. Grrr.

breatheasone -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:50:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: venusinblu color me surprised, but if my Master did something like this, he'd be someone elses 'problem' by 7.00. In my humble opinion this is not Dom-ing, it's being an ass-hole. Mileage may vary, of course. [sm=applause.gif]

catize -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 9:51:06 AM)
The confusing part to me is the fact she is punished because other submissives declined this ~wonderful opportunity~ to chat with a lazy and clueless dominant. How is it remotely realistic to be held accountable for what others do? What lesson is learned from such a punishment?

Mirko -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 10:06:16 AM)
If he truly was such a "dom" and an "alpha male" of the group he would have no problem meeting other people. It's called being "Social", it'll help him out.

venusinblu -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 10:13:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin Guess I really didn't answer the question. Yes, this is common, it seems like there are several threads almost every week where some submissive says she is searching for another for her "Master". My question is, how do adult women with half a brain allow themselves to fall for that kind of shit? i like that, "how do adult women with half a brain allow themselves to fall for that kind of shit?" .. unless you copyright it very quickly i am going along to CafePress and having t-shirts made with that very phrase on it! ... i can only conclude that some of these <cough> Doms have golden balls or something ... and willies of steel ....

sexyred1 -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 10:18:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: venusinblu quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin Guess I really didn't answer the question. Yes, this is common, it seems like there are several threads almost every week where some submissive says she is searching for another for her "Master". My question is, how do adult women with half a brain allow themselves to fall for that kind of shit? i like that, "how do adult women with half a brain allow themselves to fall for that kind of shit?" .. unless you copyright it very quickly i am going along to CafePress and having t-shirts made with that very phrase on it! ... i can only conclude that some of these <cough> Doms have golden balls or something ... and willies of steel .... Nope. It's not that the Doms have anything particularly special at all. In fact, they are probably just average guys. It is that the women are just so desirous of a relationship that they will say or do anything to be in one. And, if they are new to the lifestyle, they may be naive, or rationalize, that they need to do these sorts of things in order to have this special relationship. Hard to believe that adult women of any intelligence do this, but the proof is in threads like this and many others.

Level -> RE: Is this common? (1/20/2008 10:26:37 AM)
Playing devil's advocate here... [8D] is it that he told her to find a third that is troublesome, or that he's going to punish her? Or both?

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