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RE: How do You let go of obsessions? - 1/27/2008 11:13:36 AM

PanthersMom

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your reaction is perfectly normal, been thru it myself after being raped and unfortunately there was nothing i could do but continue my therapy and wait for time to help heal the wounds. i will make one suggestion. write. write it all out, daily, several times a day if you must. write out the rage, they hurt, the fears, everything that this brings up in you. when you think of him, write, write, write! this does two things. first of all, it gives you something to do besides go check out the reports and records. you must do this for your own sanity, you're pouring salt in the wound every day, it's never going to heal. secondly, and this may sound silly but it works, it gets those feelings out of you. you release them to the paper, they are not in your head churning around, giving you stress and anxiety, working on your health like some tiny little monster with a hammer and chisel. this can and will affect your physical well being if you do not find a release for it. trust me, i know. i've been in therapy for six years now and just finally reached a point where all the years of abuse and the final acts that had such a devastating effect on me have finally reached a place in my life where i can put them to rest. unfortunately i have to see the person that hurt me all the time, we have young ones in common, but i've reached a point where i can pity him for who he is and what he's done to himself because of the things he's done. he's a sorry excuse for a human being will never have that hold on me again. take back your power, and take back your life. you have to stop letting this hurt you so badly and turn all that back on him. write it out. when you reach the point where you realize this doesn't affect you anymore, take the papers/journals/whatever out somewhere and burn them. release all that rage to the winds, set it free, as you will be then too. best of luck, my mailbox is open to you anytime.

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RE: How do You let go of obsessions? - 1/27/2008 2:39:58 PM

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Its ok Sailor and i didn't want to call You a Bum, it just was something a saw and got stuck on my sight before the sailor. It seems like You had to ride against the wind and keep Your ship at balance a few times in Your life.. A healthy conversation always contains a little bit of controversy as different people see it different and i'm sure You have Your own views which maybe of a more drastic approach to the one that could be chosen by the OP. Take care buddy and make sure You don't fall over board when the gale comes again..

I adjust the sails to the wind in my life.... oddly enuff when the gales are blowin is when I feel the most alive. The waves crashing over the bow surfing down a wave at 15 knots... so focused living in the moment...

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