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RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want! - 9/11/2005 6:22:43 PM

LadyAngelika

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and maybe a little different perspective on a thing or two.

And thank you for sharing it. I'm so happy to see you found your One ;-) You seem quite devoted and that's wonderful.

- LA

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RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want! - 9/11/2005 7:38:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: frenchpet

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

Thanks for your input frenchpet. Know that many men aren't submissive overall but rather only in a relationship. That's actually a very attractive quality in my opinion.

- LA

I'm not sure what you mean by submissive overall. Submissive means submissive to someone. I only submit at home, to one person. Outside, it's a completely different thing. When I am outside with female friends (which means, when I am outside) I am always a bit protective, especially in a city that is not perfectly safe. I'm not a big guy, but confidant enough to keep the scum away (with some really tense moments, but they would have been tragic if I had not been there). I also always try to be considerate with all my female friends (I don't really have male friends, so it's a bit redundant in my case), but although this is due to my desire to please Women, it's not the same thing as being submissive. So far I've always been submissive in intimacy only.

Any thought, Doktor Freud ?

I've always summed it up this way: I want a man to submit to me. I don't want a submissive man.

I think there's a great demand for men that are submissive -- selectively -- and are not a pushover for a woman they don't know or barely know. And I think a lot of dominant women like a man with self confidence who isn't in dire need of a woman to make all the decisions in the relationship and/or do all the legwork in dating and courting.

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RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want! - 9/11/2005 7:56:31 PM

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No wonder we have such a hard time finding anyone.

:)Francine, having a cynical evening

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RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want! - 9/12/2005 4:43:49 AM

LadyAngelika

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No wonder we have such a hard time finding anyone.

:)Francine, having a cynical evening

I've had those evenings too Francine. But every now and then a man comes along that fits exactly this description... it isn't hopeless, just harder.

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RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want! - 9/21/2005 6:19:38 AM

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What motivates you to be submissive?

Nothing motivates me – it is almost as though it were innate, or something that I cannot consciously control, from early childhood I can remember trying to get bigger girls to sit on me in the playground. (I have my suspicions why this may have come about, but am only willing to spill the beans privately, not in a public posting).

Why do you identify yourself that way?

Because although I know outwardly I strive to be successful and in life am anything but submissive, there is something within me deep down that makes me submissive and I can’t control it.

What are you searching for in a Domme?

Someone who is genuinely interested in doing to me what I most crave to be done. One thing that I find meets the most incomprehension is the fact that for me the whole d/s package means that I am totally subservient sexually and that no, absolutely no reciprocation is required – many domes fail to either believe or comprehend this. The ideal dome I guess would be one who is totally sexually selfish.

What are the qualities and attributes that you look for in a Domme?

I think I have to some degree answered this in my previous response.

What is the hardest part of being a male sub?

Realising that for every dome there are about 50 of us, though the good thing about the Internet was the realization that the way I have felt for so many years is not that unusual.

What kind of challenges do you face when attempting to approach a Domme?

Wondering if there is going to be a total mismatch in expectations. providing the balance between what she wants and what I want to do.

What are you biggest fears when meeting a Domme?

Wondering whether the person is genuine, wondering whether it is some kind of trap. A sub puts themselves into a very vulnerable position.

What do you believe to be your best strengths and attributes? And do you feel they are often overlooked?

Outside of my innate need to be sexually submissive I am not submissive in every day life, in fact I am quite successful . I also genuinely like and enjoy being “milked” of my expertise and helping another person out and this can be taken to extremes in a d/s relationship. Although I dislike someone who simply thinks they can milk a sub financially and provide little back in return.

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