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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 10:43:00 AM

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All depends upon who when it comes to phone sex.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 10:48:07 AM

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I enjoy it for what it is. Mutual masturbation long distance. It's the best we can get right now since I moved but it's nice to hear his voice. I've got a webcam set up now in my room so that he can watch me. He tells me what he wants me to do and I have to wait to cum until he says so. It's a thrill, but I wouldn't prefer it to being in person.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 10:50:42 AM

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i find it makes the buttons stick ...
plus the reception up there isn't always great .. an certainly not good enough to use the blue tooth headset

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 10:51:36 AM

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Absolutely nothing.

I dated a woman who admitted to being a phone-sex girl, once, though. She said it paid her way through business school.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 10:57:20 AM

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I've never been interested at all in phone sex. I've never really understood the point of it. No, I'm not talking about 900 numbers. I'm talking about with someone who's not getting paid. Such as a submissive/lover/partner, whatever you wish to call it.

What does it do for you (If anything), and why?

It depends on what modality is yout preference. Maybe male brains are visually stimulated more than female brains?

Anyway I am very much an auditory person and simply love telephone sex. i love to receive instructions on the phone and be told what to do. i love to hear a person masturbating on the phone.i love to domma a woman on the phone as female orgasm can last forever over and over. Ii love to hear Master do that wonderful soft moan, oh sweet Lord that turns me on.

A few memories stick: taking a 'telephone sex' virgin....heheheh yum....
but also i love receiving naughty calls when i am out and about doing everyday things....when i look at other people i have a kind of text-sex'-telephone=sex radar and just know they are being aroused.

And it's legal and it's safe sex....so why not?

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 11:03:05 AM

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i find it makes the buttons stick ...
plus the reception up there isn't always great .. an certainly not good enough to use the blue tooth headset

i was going to advise also not to go cordless as well as my 'pebble' would defimtely get lost and no-one can really afford to keep re-placing handsets this way....
retro with wires is best

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 11:15:45 AM

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thought about it as a way to pay for school, but otherwise, blah!

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 11:38:52 AM

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Remember, 95% of men masturbate and the other 5% lie about it.

I enjoy phone sex, it isn't as hot as having sex in person but it can still be hot. A big part of sex is mental and if you are creative, there is a lot of fun to be had. Talking to someone while they are sitting in a restaraunt masterbating can be fun, or sending them to an adult store and having them explain how they are training their ass and do they have larger buttplugs can be charmingly humiliating.

Guided fantasies is something we don't hear much about anymore but they talk about doing it in The Topping Book as well as The Bottoming Book. Where you add in a few sensory details to a fantasy you can't actually do, say starting up a chainsaw while a person is blindfolded and bound. Tends to get a rather visceral reaction. Phone sex can be a lot of fun in the same way and while I would rather sit on the couch next to her and read, if I can't actually be with her, phone sex isn't a bad way to get off.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:16:54 PM

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Remember, 95% of men masturbate and the other 5% lie about it.

I enjoy phone sex, it isn't as hot as having sex in person but it can still be hot. A big part of sex is mental and if you are creative, there is a lot of fun to be had. Talking to someone while they are sitting in a restaraunt masterbating can be fun, or sending them to an adult store and having them explain how they are training their ass and do they have larger buttplugs can be charmingly humiliating.

Guided fantasies is something we don't hear much about anymore but they talk about doing it in The Topping Book as well as The Bottoming Book. Where you add in a few sensory details to a fantasy you can't actually do, say starting up a chainsaw while a person is blindfolded and bound. Tends to get a rather visceral reaction. Phone sex can be a lot of fun in the same way and while I would rather sit on the couch next to her and read, if I can't actually be with her, phone sex isn't a bad way to get off.

Nicely said, Michael. I would think most people would prefer being in person, doing it in the flesh but when that cannot happen...for whatever reason...a good imagination and the creativity to use it and a willingness on both parts to set aside preconception can be an acceptable substitute. It can even be fun in its own way.

I find it a tad ironic that people who know that they are setting aside many realities and accepting at least some "smoke and mirrors" (fear play, rape play, etc., etc.) cannot do the same with phone sex...but as has been noted before...that is their world. Perhaps, if those same folks consider some of what has been said on here in favor of it, they just might change their minds.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:20:14 PM

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Since Master is so far away it is a way to stay intimate with each other, it took a while for me to get used to but it has helped us keep some sort of sexuality in between us which drives others crazy. It is a nice subsititute when the real thing is not available but for us its that and a webcam for now.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:21:18 PM

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Phone sex? Not sure if you'd call it that or not, but he says listening to me masturbate while he's driving beats listening to the radio any day.

Same way he feels watching me on cam beats watching TV.

And hey, who am I to complain??

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:23:26 PM

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I find it a tad ironic that people who know that they are setting aside many realities and accepting at least some "smoke and mirrors" (fear play, rape play, etc., etc.) cannot do the same with phone sex...but as has been noted before...that is their world. Perhaps, if those same folks consider some of what has been said on here in favor of it, they just might change their minds.

That's an interesting observation. We often read about the excitement of "rape scenes" or "interrogation scenes" et. al., but every time the "phone sex" question is asked, there tends to be a lot of frowning down upon those who enjoy it.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:27:01 PM

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By the time my marriage ended, I'd been celibate for 5 years. That's as long as the op has had sexual feelings, if he hit puberty around the average time. I don't do casual.

Being then in a LDR, we saw each other about every six weeks. Between the only partner sex I could have was cyber or phone. And I prefer sex with a partner to solo. Was it as great as when I got to see him in person? Hell, no. Was it better than nothing? By far.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:36:52 PM

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What AMaster said. I am totaly not a phone person. The messages on my phone are erased everyday with out me listening to them. My 2 kids gave me cell phones. If it rings I will talk to them. I have a pile of phones giving to me by lifestyle friends because I wont give out my home phone number. If my brothers want to talk they will come and see me. Talk to me in person if you have something to say or contact me on the computer.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 12:37:55 PM

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I have a love/hate relationship with phone sex. I am terrible at it unless I can get into my own out-there headspace, completely let go, and stop feeling like a dork. When I am guided and I hit that space, whoa. All I can hear is his voice on the other end of the phone, and all I can do is move on automatic pilot, doing things to myself that he tells me to do, focused completely on what he tells me to do (and responding, although don't ask me what I say back - have no idea).

I've "come to" on my knees in the floor, in the tub, on my back porch, in a number of places I only have the vaguest recollections getting to. There is nothing like hearing a breathless and satisfied "good girl" or "you are such a fucking slut - I love it" afterward. No reward could be greater (for me) in that instance.

Initiating phone sex or participating without being in that headspace ... ack. It's like shoving a camel in a tutu and telling it to dance Swan Lake.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 1:51:57 PM

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 1:53:27 PM

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It really fucks with the cashflow when you got them couple thousand a month long distance charges outta nowhere.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 2:11:58 PM

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It really fucks with the cashflow when you got them couple thousand a month long distance charges outta nowhere.

Ron

Maybe you should reverse the charges, or buy a lifesize My Barbie.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 2:18:09 PM

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I've never been interested at all in phone sex. I've never really understood the point of it. No, I'm not talking about 900 numbers. I'm talking about with someone who's not getting paid. Such as a submissive/lover/partner, whatever you wish to call it.

What does it do for you (If anything), and why?

Well, at one point I was engaged in phone sex and the man would create scenarios that I'd never encountered. And I reacted possitively. When I was reevaluating who I was it was part of the paradigm shift.

So I could say that phone sex brought me here.

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RE: Phone sex. What does it do for you? - 1/28/2008 2:23:37 PM

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If thats the most embarrasing question anyone has ever asked me concerning BDSM -L- I would be a happy guy...

It`s a tool that can be used at times...

It`s like the old debate...online is like real time <pfffffffffffft>

OF COURSE hands on is always better ..wait, THAT may not sound right!

Frown away people <eg>

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