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IrishMist -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 1:47:53 PM)
quote: ..will you go to show your Dominant/submissive that you love/care for them? I won't 'go' anywhere. I should not have to prove/show my love for a partner; it's in everything I do and say.

MistressOfGa -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 1:48:57 PM)
quote: So by demanding that from them, you are making their lives worse not better. *Unless of course you are going to reimburse them for lost wages which I doubt judging by your posts*. What exactly do you mean by this? What have I posted that suggested that I would not pay for lost wages or reimburse them for it? I'm a little confused as to why you would think that I would be financially unable to care for a sub who has lost their job because they were "mooning" over me.

MistressOfGa -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 1:51:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop My partner is on my mind constantly... when I'm doing other stuff, I am aware of being conscious of his presence in my mind., of always being mindful of him. Distance? I'd circle the globe for him, if I needed to. I'm confident that he would never expect me to do things beyond our agreements to limits, so I can honestly say I'll do whatever he does ask of me. But I also know that he'll do all he can to make me happy too. Hi GreedyTop, thanks for the response. I think the main thing here is that the feelings are mutual. He would do anything to insure your happiness says a lot about your Master.

MistressOfGa -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 1:54:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist quote: ..will you go to show your Dominant/submissive that you love/care for them? I won't 'go' anywhere. I should not have to prove/show my love for a partner; it's in everything I do and say. IrishMist, I suppose I was thinking of an LDR when I asked the question about how far one would go to prove or show their love. But if you live with your Dom or sub, the distance wouldn't be measured in miles. Thanks for responding :)

MistressOfGa -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 1:55:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I never feel I can show him enough. I don't think I have an answer to your question. I haven't reached "enough" yet. Not sure I ever will. Smiles How will you know when you have reached enough? Thanks for responding :)

MistressOfGa -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 1:59:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan We're human beings first and foremost, the D/s is always there regardless of what we engage in and I feel comfortable giving him those foot rubs when his feet hurt, or shaving him every week b/c it's quicker for me to do it and if he's going to be cut to pieces at least it'll be by my own hand ;-) When you love someone is there ever a case of 'too much'? I happen to think not, but there has to be that balance for it to be mutually fulfilling and successful. When a person does feel it's 'too much' then it's time for that serious talk. Miss Morrigan, I have always enjoyed your posts, thank you for answering this one. I agree that there is such a thing as "too much" IF it is effecting the other part of their lives. Whether or not it is a D/s or vanilla relationship.

LadyHathor -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 2:09:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa ..will you go to show your Dominant/submissive that you love/care for them? How many miles is enough? How much time is enough? How much is too much? How much is too little? *Enough can be enough, I will not sacrifice My professional career, My financial standing, My UM, My home, My sanity or My values.* *I even made arrangements once with a Domina in another area to rescue a slave and provide interim health care support until I could get him---sending her the money to do so--won't do it again.* *So I'd say, I would stop short these days of giving My all---its cost Me too much in the past.*

ownedgirlie -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 2:11:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I never feel I can show him enough. I don't think I have an answer to your question. I haven't reached "enough" yet. Not sure I ever will. Smiles How will you know when you have reached enough? Thanks for responding :) Well that's the thing - I'm not sure I ever will. It's not a matter of "proving" anything. It's how I express my gratitude to him. Since my life continues to be better for serving him, I will continue to be grateful and want to show it. I'm grateful to those who bring happiness to my world. And he's pretty much the undercurrent of everything I do and everywhere I am, so yes, my mind is always on him in one way or another. It's a way of feeling his energy, despite what I am doing.

GreedyTop -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 4:53:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop My partner is on my mind constantly... when I'm doing other stuff, I am aware of being conscious of his presence in my mind., of always being mindful of him. Distance? I'd circle the globe for him, if I needed to. I'm confident that he would never expect me to do things beyond our agreements to limits, so I can honestly say I'll do whatever he does ask of me. But I also know that he'll do all he can to make me happy too. Hi GreedyTop, thanks for the response. I think the main thing here is that the feelings are mutual. He would do anything to insure your happiness says a lot about your Master. Yeah...he ROCKS goofy grin

Rule -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 5:06:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa ..will you go to show your Dominant/submissive that you love/care for them? How many miles is enough? How much time is enough? How much is too much? How much is too little? About two metres. (I am apathic.)

Prinsexx -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 5:12:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa ..will you go to show your Dominant/submissive that you love/care for them? How many miles is enough? How much time is enough? How much is too much? How much is too little? i am shy in letting Him know how much i love Him as the words just won't come... how far....further than i think i ever could.... there's never enough time and time coalesces when i am with Him.... how much is up to Him......and how little is up to Him but too little is His was and it suits Him as i am an emotional masochist,,,,,,,,

subtee -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 5:40:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover [snip] I'm no Sysiphus. John You disdain because of his passion for life, or for his meaningless task and existence in the after?

Rover -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 5:45:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee quote: ORIGINAL: Rover [snip] I'm no Sysiphus. John You disdain because of his passion for life, or for his meaningless task and existence in the after? Moreso for the futility of his effort. Much as is the case when engaged in discussions of "how much is enough" in which there is never enough. John

subtee -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 5:53:01 PM)
To continue in generalities, there is never enough given to a Dom? There is never enough service for a sub? Where is the futility? Not worth the effort then? Curious...

Prinsexx -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 5:56:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee To continue in generalities, there is never enough given to a Dom? There is never enough service for a sub? Where is the futility? Not worth the effort then? Curious... futility v utility....it's amazing what a little f will do......

liljoy -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 6:00:44 PM)
wow i really don't understand the negativity here. Havving a person on your mind always doesn't have to be a bad thing. Master is always on my mind and i very much have a life. That doesn't mean i let my work suffer. That wouldn't please Him and i am all about pleasing Him. What i do do is keep in mind what He expects of me. If i face something that i am not sure how to handle i think about how He would want me to handle it. quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP You really think they would be effective on their job if they're mooning about you? Or do you think that when you tell them they have to be honest, you are exempting the rest of their life. If they're daydreaming about you, then they aren't paying attention to their job. As a result they won't get raises or promotions. So by demanding that from them, you are making their lives worse not better. Unless of course you are going to reimburse them for lost wages which I doubt judging by your posts. Let's say they have ums and coach soccer. Are they going to be paying attention when their ums are not happy if they're dreaming about you? Nope, their ums will learn real soon that they aren't important to the parent in question. Will they be keeping their word to the team of small people, if they don't study soccer rules to see how best to teach them the sport? Hell no. I have a lot more respect for a friend who coached soccer with the book in one hand, trying to stay ahead of the kids, then I ever would have if he had just gone through the motions.

Rover -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 6:11:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee To continue in generalities, there is never enough given to a Dom? There is never enough service for a sub? Where is the futility? Not worth the effort then? Curious... This is why I don't think in terms of "giving" or "investing" in a relationship. That invites quantification, comparison, and discontent. The futility exists in the fact that it's impossible for anyone to give their "all" to any one thing, including their partner and relationship. None of us is so one dimensional that one person gets "everything" at the expense of family, friends, work, ourselves, etc. Better that I should share what I have; the good, the bad, my family, my friends, my job, myself, etc. My partner (or potential partner) can be satisfied with that or not. But either way, I have nothing more to offer. John

subtee -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 6:19:39 PM)
So you'll be pushing the boulder half way up the hill? One quarter of the way? I don't agree that giving to or investing in a relationship invites anything other than acceptance of same. I couldn't give or invest to the extent that I divest myself of my other responsibilities, however that doesn't mean I wouldn't be giving or investing to the best of my ability.

Rover -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 6:25:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee So you'll be pushing the boulder half way up the hill? One quarter of the way? I have a hill, and a boulder and I'm not pushing it anywhere. If someone is not satisfied with the fact that I'm willing to share my hill and boulder, then they're not compatible with me. Futily pushing the boulder up the hill with nothing to show for it will not change that fact. quote: I don't agree that giving to or investing in a relationship invites anything other than acceptance of same. So long as they accept same, which you have no control over. quote: I couldn't give or invest to the extent that I divest myself of my other responsibilities, however that doesn't mean I wouldn't be giving or investing to the best of my ability. Still the question remains... is that enough? Hence my desire not to engage in this futility in the first place. John

subtee -> RE: How Far... (1/28/2008 6:30:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover Still the question remains... is that enough? Hence my desire not to engage in this futility in the first place. John I guess not....ow.

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