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LadyPact -> RE: How can a 21 year old possibly be a Master? (3/9/2008 8:10:42 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Stephann
Q: "How old do you need to own a slave?"
A: "Old Enough."
It isn't the responsibility of the outside observer to judge the validity of a private, consensual relationship.
A young dominant might not necessarily equate with skilled, experienced, or even good dominant. Yet the same is true of a submissive. If a man or woman wishes to assume the mantel of dominance, it will be by their actions with their partners that they are judged by.
If I had learned of the lifestyle at 18, I would have sought out other partners of similar age to learn with. Not from, with. This is no different than the lessons I learned about relationships at the age of 18. D/s relationships are just that; relationships. Touting them as the holy grail of relationships speaks more of inflating one own's ego than anything about others in D/s.
Note, of course, we can exchange the words 'old' with 'young', and '18' for '80' and these statements still apply.
Stephan
You know, this might have been an entirely different thread had it been taken from the perspective I highlighted above.
I've been reading a lot of the responses since I posted last on this thread. There have been a lot of people younger than I that have made wonderful points. I fully acknowledge the fact that a general rule doesn't apply to everyone. Some people are the exception to the rule. Still, there are reasons that those generalizations exist.
Personally, I don't know a single 21 year old that I would agree with the particular title of "Master". Which is ok, considering I know some 40 year olds who slap the title on themselves without especially being worthy of it, either. In both age groups, there just really isn't enough real life experience in the lifestyle to warrent it. Yep. Sorry. This is another one of those areas that I don't equate what one has done on the net to be on the same level as the real time deal.
I suppose what I'm getting at for the sake of the discussion is, what has a person done to be considered a Master? Have they actually owned a slave, and be responsible for their existance? What skills have they Mastered? What experience have contributed to them thinking they should assume the title? Are they in control of themselves? Do they have the ability to control someone else? Yes, I know it's not everybody's thing, but how about their exposure to the leather community?
There is the slightest possibility that it takes more to be a Master, than simply being a dominant personality, or being the leader in a relationship.
Edited to fix a spelling mistake.
And to add, yes, experience counts for a lot.
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