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Level -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:45:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

PPPFFTTT Level. I aint sending you no noodie pics then........................................[sm=lol.gif]


Awwww come on.......... [X(]



slaveluci -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:45:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Say you are in a LTR...and you both love each other. Would it bother you to find out that your partner loved you in spite of your physical appearance? When you thought they liked how you looked?

I suppose on one level it would hurt to find that out.  However, I think I would be more impressed than hurt that He could love me so much even though the physical attraction wasn't all that.  That's what everybody talks about and says they want, isn't it?  Someone who loves the "real" them and not just the outer appearance?  Guess so many don't really want that after all.  But, in the end, it would greatly impact me and generate a lot of respect for my partner to know that He could truly see beyond the surface appearance.............luci



Phin -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:46:17 PM)

I agree with you MM... can I get the nooodie pics??

I am not sure how I would react to the OP's question



MissMagnolia -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:47:36 PM)

I know Cali, Jeff is such a slut. OOPS, did I type that out loud?[&:]

And yes Greedy, you made perfect sense to me. In time, I don't really see the looks anymore, just the person.



Kalista07 -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:48:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Say you are in a LTR...and you both love each other. Would it bother you to find out that your partner loved you in spite of your physical appearance? When you thought they liked how you looked?


i've thought a lot about this question....... i'm honestly not sure how i feel about it.  Actually, in all sincerity, i think He does "love" me despite my physical appearance... Now, i could be way off here, however it's just my personal belief and not one we've actually discussed....However, here's what i know for sure...When i look at Him sometimes, i think to myself, if i saw Him on the street would i be attracted to Him? Honestly no....Fortunately for me, though i've gotten the opportunity to know Him...i mean REALLY KNOW Him...To Know His heart, to know His thoughts, to know how He believes and feels...These things, to me, make Him one of the most attractive people i've ever met.......
Could just be me though.



slaveluci -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:48:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild
It would seem to me that once seeing that my SO had been looking past my physical appearance and loved me in the entirety To me that would bring a complete new depth and meaning to our relationship and possibly strengthen the bond between us.

Yeah.  You said what I meant while I was typing my own response[:D].  Well said...........luci



Level -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:48:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

PPPFFTTT Level. I aint sending you no noodie pics then........................................[sm=lol.gif]


I was thinking the exact same thing, Miss M.  I think Level just cut off any possibility of any nudie pics from any person here.  Well, Jeff might send one, but you know how he is.

Cali



Hmmph.



GreedyTop -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:48:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

I know Cali, Jeff is such a slut. OOPS, did I type that out loud?[&:]

And yes Greedy, you made perfect sense to me. In time, I don't really see the looks anymore, just the person.


Thanks,MissM LOL



missjan -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:49:50 PM)

I think that the more you love someone, the more beautiful they become, in  your eyes...
so yes, it would bother me.



verysweet -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:51:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

Say you are in a LTR...and you both love each other. Would it bother you to find out that your partner loved you in spite of your physical appearance? When you thought they liked how you looked?


Sure, if he had been telling me all along he liked my appearance and then he told me that really wasn't the case. I'd have to wonder what else he had mislead me about.







CalifChick -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:52:33 PM)

Seriously (yes, I know, I know)... I would probably be devastated.

Cali



Phin -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 6:56:40 PM)

Cali is being serious?

everyone get down an hold on its about to become a rough ride...



Muttling -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:04:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: Muttling

Actually, the exact opposite would be true.


Looks are quite fleeting.   Just think of the trauma of being disfigured in a car accident and then having your LTR say he/she is now less interested in you because of your appearance.


I want to look appealing to my partner and I want to be physically attractive to them, but I don't want the relationship to hinge upon that.

I hear you...but the thing is...the person IS less interested sexually, but not emotionally.




You obviously never met my grandparents!!!!!!!


On a similar note, I would be deeply saddenned to think that old age would result in a reduces level of sexual interest from my partner.


GreedyTop said it best!!!!



GreedyTop -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:09:06 PM)

wow, thanks, Muttling :)



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:09:39 PM)

The idea your looks are not attractive is a hard one. The whole "being loved for more than looks" or "being pleasing as well" doesn't seem to be a productive issue to ponder.

Your partner loves you or they don't. I've never found a perfect human being. Everyone has characteristics I don't like, be they in personality, behavior, or physical appearance. Which would hurt more, that you are loved for who you are, or you are only loved because of how you look? Neither matters you're just tearing yourself down either way. Don't focus on flaws, everyone has them, focus on what is good, and build it up.



txbound -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:09:59 PM)

Honestly, yes, very much. And I'd have to wonder what the ramifications would be in the sex area after that. Cause I know I'd be in my head wondering what they are really thinking about me. 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:10:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci
That's what everybody talks about and says they want, isn't it?  Someone who loves the "real" them and not just the outer appearance?  Guess so many don't really want that after all. 

I've never said it- I do enjoy and would prefer to have someone enjoy my physical body. 

I want it all :)



breatheasone -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:13:02 PM)

I like all the POV... I just think if you have been with someone for a VERY long time...and had there children etc.....to be ignored sexually because you don't have the body you did twenty some years ago is hurtful....ESPECIALLY when they tell you they love you EVERYDAY.....



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:13:02 PM)

I would be really upset.  I WAS really upset.  I was not my SO's "ideal" body type, but I have some Finer Qualities that he admired, but eventually as our relationship changed I became less and less physically appealing to him, to the point where I think I lost all desirability.  Not good.

Yes, looks are fleeting, and I do want to think that if someone ever loves me it will be for the entire package, but I really don't want to have to think that they would rather have the lights off...



fluffyswitch -> RE: Your physical appearance (1/29/2008 7:13:37 PM)

it would be a shock and it would a blow but then i'm also aware that i'm nowhere near the traditional beauty standard and i would hope that there was more to His attraction to me than being cute in the first place. He has made some comments that makes me wonder how He really sees me but at the same time i've learned (or learning anyway) to stop poking at things that work and worry about things that don't.



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