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submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 4:15:14 AM   
lilabbotsfordgrl


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Status: offline 		Does being embarrassed (by extension: some forms of humiliation etc) turn you on?  Does it have any other positive effects, such as making you feel more submissive?

I'd like to hear from both the "yes" and the "no" submissives, please.  Please explain!

Being embarrassed, in the right context, definitely turns me on.  When Daddy takes naughty pictures of me and threatens to (or actually does) show someone else, I usually feel very...... at his mercy.  That makes me feel submissive to him, which is a big turnon.  :)
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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 4:58:30 AM   
topIrishsubm


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Status: offline 		I guess, yes and no. Alot like yourself, it depends on the setting. In a private scenario it can he highly erotic, or as you suggest the threat of public embarrassment. However, I'd find actual public embarrassment really difficult. Much like everything in life, what works for someone will not for another

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 5:09:19 AM   
liminalRapture


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Status: offline 		Regular kinds of embarrassment don't work for me.  I have a high enough shame quotient, it really doesn't.  I've learned to tolerate "slut" but it isn't a turn-on--just something I can ignore and deal with.

But what is amazing for me is the acknowledgement of vulnerability.  When a man forces me to realize he can recognize something that I view as a shortcoming and that he sees it (I usually do my best to cover such things with bells and whistles).  And me makes me look at it and the tells me it is OK.  That is incredibly powerful for me.  It usually results in me trying to prove myself to him for a wee bit, but it also really helps me let go of my persona and just be.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 5:26:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		It can be at times if it is done correctly. However it usually just reinforces the power dynamic and that of course is the biggest turn on for me.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 7:14:35 AM   
fluffyswitch


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Status: offline 		no i just get angry. i mean really angry. and luckily Sir doesn't hold it against me, though i do think it aggrevates Him. i grew up with a family that liked to be borderline 'cruel' and call it 'tough love', and i can vividly remember being made fun of by people in my family to the point of being in tears (and i'm talking older people in my family, i'm an only child). so it's one of my triggers.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 7:24:18 AM   
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It can be at times if it is done correctly. However it usually just reinforces the power dynamic and that of course is the biggest turn on for me.


This is how it works for me but that is pretty much how all the kink things work for me. If it is an act of domination and re-enforces our relationship dynamic then it turns me on.

I do have issues if a form of this causes a third party to be uncomfortable in any way so I do have some issue with public humiliation but thankfully my Master has the same feelings.


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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 7:29:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Embarassment, yes.

Humiliation?  I dunno.  My Owner and I don't do what I consider humiliation play.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 8:39:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lilabbotsfordgrl

Does being embarrassed (by extension: some forms of humiliation etc) turn you on?  Does it have any other positive effects, such as making you feel more submissive?

I'd like to hear from both the "yes" and the "no" submissives, please.  Please explain!

Being embarrassed, in the right context, definitely turns me on.  When Daddy takes naughty pictures of me and threatens to (or actually does) show someone else, I usually feel very...... at his mercy.  That makes me feel submissive to him, which is a big turnon.  :)



Oh yeah, i love to be humiliated!! It actually makes me strive to work that much harder on my physical appearance when he would talk about my fat, ugly body. 

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 8:42:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lilabbotsfordgrl

Does being embarrassed (by extension: some forms of humiliation etc) turn you on?  Does it have any other positive effects, such as making you feel more submissive?

I'd like to hear from both the "yes" and the "no" submissives, please.  Please explain!

Being embarrassed, in the right context, definitely turns me on.  When Daddy takes naughty pictures of me and threatens to (or actually does) show someone else, I usually feel very...... at his mercy.  That makes me feel submissive to him, which is a big turnon.  :)



No, i HATE every moment, just ignore my body's reactions please!

For reasons that i do not fully understand except on a primal level, humilation is extremely arousing for me.  Even while i am blushing and wanting to fall through the floor, my body is going crazy with the conflicting signals, leaving me generally feeling tingly (best i could come up with on limited caffeine), hot, squirmy... ~sigh~ 

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 9:17:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie

quote:

ORIGINAL: lilabbotsfordgrl

Does being embarrassed (by extension: some forms of humiliation etc) turn you on?  Does it have any other positive effects, such as making you feel more submissive?

I'd like to hear from both the "yes" and the "no" submissives, please.  Please explain!

Being embarrassed, in the right context, definitely turns me on.  When Daddy takes naughty pictures of me and threatens to (or actually does) show someone else, I usually feel very...... at his mercy.  That makes me feel submissive to him, which is a big turnon.  :)



No, i HATE every moment, just ignore my body's reactions please!

For reasons that i do not fully understand except on a primal level, humilation is extremely arousing for me.  Even while i am blushing and wanting to fall through the floor, my body is going crazy with the conflicting signals, leaving me generally feeling tingly (best i could come up with on limited caffeine), hot, squirmy... ~sigh~ 


Me too, it annoys me and I have no idea why, but I just accept that I like it!!

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 9:27:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		thinking of embarrassment as humiliation - taken in front of O/others, servicing Others as a Womans insistance....i would have to say yes, it would be a turn on. i'm sure i would turn beet red at the same time, but my body's reaction to it would give the excitement of it away..

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 9:39:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		In certain contexts. I think humiliation can be hot if it is for my partner, but public humiliation is a big no. I think the defining line is, if my humiliation is appealing to my Dom. That is when it becomes appealing to me too, knowing my vulnerability/shame is arousing my partner.
If it is done in a truely sadistic/cruel bent, I really can't handle it. I need to see the appeal in my partner, to know that it's okay to be humiliated, that while I feel shame at the time, my partner won't see me as anything less. Without that I would find it very negative and it would instead build insecurity; worrying that my partner somehow saw me as less desirable, even contemptable in some way. For that reason I don't like the idea of humiliation play unless I am in a secure relationship, where I have over-come the initial doubts.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 9:44:18 AM   
solvr70


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Status: offline 		agreed. i was thinking more in terms of One i have a trusted relationship with, and more private parties, etc. then the general public


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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 9:54:48 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		It does depend on the context and my mood. For the most part, if it's mild embarrassment and it's done where I feel safe then yeah it turns me on big time. Just this morning he decided it was time for "Body Check." That is when he strips me naked and inspects every single inch of my body. Being so exposed like that does cause me embarrassment, but wow does it get me wet and wanting more.  

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 10:02:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hmmmm this is interesting. No I don't find embarrassment a turn on... and I find it interesting that others do. I'm curious. What would be considered a turn on when it comes to embarrassment?


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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 11:04:29 AM   
IrishMist


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Does being embarrassed (by extension: some forms of humiliation etc) turn you on?

Absolutly. Being embarassed makes me want to lash out; which in turn is a HUGE turn on for me

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 11:22:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh Gosh no.  Embarassment is embarassing  he would never do anything like that in public, and very occasionally whan we are alone he can say things that make me blush.  It is not part of our dynamic.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 11:52:05 AM   
littlebitxxx


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Status: offline 		I'm still trying to figure out how to be humiliated.  I've never felt it, don't think I ever could feel it.  I've been embarassed numberous times but not by my man or in scene or anything like that....I do too good of a job on myself, thanks..lol.   

Reading this thread with interest....

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 12:06:30 PM   
batshalom


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The embarrassment is not a turn on, but following through with an order or request when it is difficult to do is a definite turn-on. Submitting is submitting even when it's not fun, and submitting is what I love to do.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/1/2008 12:16:10 PM   
solvr70


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Status: offline 		Perhaps it's the pushing limits on things I have never done, and would be challenging for me to do for Someone that do not really qualify as embarrasing or humiliation. But the logical next step is performing/serving in front of a friend of Her's there as well.

something as small as a kiss on the cheek and "how's My bitch today" out loud, even if nobody hears it (or perhaps is someone else does) if a very big turn-on. Words can do amazing things to me. Not sure if that is a guy thing, or if it is just me.

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