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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/24/2008 4:51:11 PM

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i will have to answer this in a split fashion so to speak. Yes humiliation and degradation is a turnon to an extent. The crazy thing is this, during being mentored i found that i could not do this "one thing" i mean i beat my fist agianst walls and floors in frustration over it. For some reason it was so truly hard not physically but emotionally. (chances are Y/yall would have a field day over what it was lmao...but the point is to me it was challenging on many levels) But after taking time and wishing so very much to be able to please. i found some help with permission, and the next time when i heard the "command" i did it. i hate it!!! But the satisfaction in His voice and shear pleasure....and who can forget "good girl"....i mean wow. Now i look forward to not only being pushed but i find myself pushing myself just as hard. i found it was not at all about what i was doing, are whether i enjoyed it. But the pleasure truly came from knowing He was pleased. Most of my lessons were not sexual at all but i will say i truly have an appreciation for serving and a new understanding of what it means to be truly pleased. i thought to be truly rewarded for that act would have been to be given permission to orgasm...but the greatest reward was that feeling i had inside, and the way it deepened our bond. It is in doing and overcomming and finding my limits with His that was very amazing. So after some time between me and Him, things that had seemed humiliating, or degrading took on a deeper meaning. There was not much after awhile that i could not do for or with Him if He asked it. It remained a turnon but i no longer felt as though it was embaressing. Now throw in some exhibitionism in there and i would have been blushing red again lol.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/24/2008 5:05:25 PM

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body check time, going out in public with temporary piercings showing, all the verbal humiliation he can pile on...especially if its on the phone and im at work....delicious....
And i just dont care why anymore....i try not to pull at threads like that ....the whole web can come down.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/24/2008 5:43:07 PM

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Public Humiliation doesnt do it for me. It is a hard limit. My ex did not communicate with me except when he would yell at me, my son and my nephews in front of my family. So thats why it is a limit. It a really negative trigger for me

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/24/2008 6:53:32 PM

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I'm still working out what exactly humiliation is to me, and how it may or may not be used within our relationship. It's interesting to me to find out, for example, that calling me certain names is more of a turn-on than something that I find embarrassing. Does that mean I like humiliation because name-calling is humiliating in and of itself? I dunno. lol I think I'm thinking too hard about this one, and time will tell how I feel about it. It's something that Master and I have spoken about for a bit, but haven't concentrated on as of yet.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/25/2008 12:07:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: Bound2One

I'm still working out what exactly humiliation is to me, and how it may or may not be used within our relationship. It's interesting to me to find out, for example, that calling me certain names is more of a turn-on than something that I find embarrassing. Does that mean I like humiliation because name-calling is humiliating in and of itself? I dunno. lol I think I'm thinking too hard about this one, and time will tell how I feel about it. It's something that Master and I have spoken about for a bit, but haven't concentrated on as of yet.

That is the confusing part for the Dom. For what's humiliating to one, isn't humiliating to another. When I think of humiliation, I think of being chastised in public. It's public degradation or debasement. I never think of my Sir calling me a bitch, slut or whore as humiliation.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/26/2008 12:03:18 PM

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different strokes for different folks and all that. for me, i enjoy both humiliation and embaressment. my domme, knowing this, has taken me out in public a few times and i've gotten my fair share of both. once she slapped me in a diaper and took me to the mall, when i wasn't embaressed enough she began pulling up the back of my diaper over my belt so others could catch a glimpse. other times she's threationed to have me pee myself in public, which i guess falls under both embaressment and humiliation as once ive soiled myself she drags me out to the car exclaiming loudly what a little baby i am wetting myself so. once, she even threationed to put me over her knee on the bench outside walmart and give me a spanking for being lippy <shrugs> yeah, i guess it does it for me

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/26/2008 1:50:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: Bound2One

I'm still working out what exactly humiliation is to me, and how it may or may not be used within our relationship. It's interesting to me to find out, for example, that calling me certain names is more of a turn-on than something that I find embarrassing. Does that mean I like humiliation because name-calling is humiliating in and of itself? I dunno. lol I think I'm thinking too hard about this one, and time will tell how I feel about it. It's something that Master and I have spoken about for a bit, but haven't concentrated on as of yet.

That is the confusing part for the Dom. For what's humiliating to one, isn't humiliating to another. When I think of humiliation, I think of being chastised in public. It's public degradation or debasement. I never think of my Sir calling me a bitch, slut or whore as humiliation.

Yeah, I know what you mean about the name calling. I've heard others speak of it as humiliation, though, so I'm just not sure. lol Time will tell... I don't think I would get off on the sort of public humiliation you describe.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/26/2008 2:02:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bound2One

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

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ORIGINAL: Bound2One

I'm still working out what exactly humiliation is to me, and how it may or may not be used within our relationship. It's interesting to me to find out, for example, that calling me certain names is more of a turn-on than something that I find embarrassing. Does that mean I like humiliation because name-calling is humiliating in and of itself? I dunno. lol I think I'm thinking too hard about this one, and time will tell how I feel about it. It's something that Master and I have spoken about for a bit, but haven't concentrated on as of yet.

That is the confusing part for the Dom. For what's humiliating to one, isn't humiliating to another. When I think of humiliation, I think of being chastised in public. It's public degradation or debasement. I never think of my Sir calling me a bitch, slut or whore as humiliation.

Yeah, I know what you mean about the name calling. I've heard others speak of it as humiliation, though, so I'm just not sure. lol Time will tell... I don't think I would get off on the sort of public humiliation you describe.

I agree. It's one of my hard limits. Actually though when I was looking for a Sir and it said that the sir was into humiliation, I would say, "I'm not into that". But I was reminded that our views on what humiliation is may be different.

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RE: submissives/slaves: Is embarrassment a turnon? - 2/27/2008 12:47:26 AM

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It really depends on the situation. I wouldn't go for nude pictures of myself being shown to someone without my consent. That would be a hard limit. As for other types of humiliation such as verbal context at the right moment, it is a turn on. It shows me how to improve myself, and later how to avoid that situation or exert myself more dramatically while still maintaining my feminity.

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