Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

money


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> money Page: [1] 2 3 4 5   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
money - 2/1/2008 5:27:06 PM   
KingBlood666


Posts: 5
Joined: 11/7/2005
Status: offline 		ok this is what i dont get.......why the hell would a Domme want her slaves/subs to pay for service.....especial when the Domme is making enufe money as it is.....pisses me off when i find a decent Domme that can train me but find out all she wants is my money.......WHAT THE FUCK!?!?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:36:20 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		Here's a 13 page thread on the subject... you might want to start there.

Cali


_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:38:31 PM   
Leatherist


Posts: 5149
Joined: 12/11/2007
Status: offline 		It's a test. (that's usually the justification for being greedy)

Personally I just go dutch. I have no intention of supporting a woman or living in a household with her.  I guess I'm just not a proper male..

_____________________________

My shop is currently segueing into production mode.

I'm not taking custom orders.

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:40:22 PM   
daddyncherry


Posts: 656
Joined: 10/9/2007
Status: offline 		Not for nothing, and i am not speaking across the boards here but..

#1. She does it cause she can
#2. Who are you or anyone else to say that she makes enough money as it is? Esp. if this is how she makes her living, something that i personally find completely reasonable.
#3, She may not only want you money, and then again, she may..there are people who love the lifestyle and choose to make their living that way and there are others who are just after a dollar.
#4. you are young, so it isn't like you couldve been fishing in the Domme sea for so long and had no luck, give it time, and someone who doesn't want you money may just come strutting right along.


Good luck to you.


_____________________________

Hugs,
cherry

Walking through life, and fear with a smile on my face.
Walking directly through the eye of the hurricane...and through to the other side..without fear....realizing everything will be okay. :)

being obedient 1day at a time

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:41:28 PM   
xxblushesxx


Posts: 9318
Joined: 11/3/2005
From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		Perhaps when you have more to offer a Domme, she will consider you on your own merit.
Or...perhaps you are looking for the 'perfect' Domme, and they do not come cheaply.
Since you classify yourself as a switch, why not find another switch, and experiment a bit?

~Christina

_____________________________

~Christina

A nice girl with a disturbing hobby

My femdom findom blog: http://www.MistressAvarice.com


(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:44:34 PM   
KingBlood666


Posts: 5
Joined: 11/7/2005
Status: offline 		you people dont get it......i know im young and still learning.....but still.....why pay......yes ill by my Domme a gift now and then but not going to pay for her rent or anything like that......

(in reply to xxblushesxx)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:47:53 PM   
Leatherist


Posts: 5149
Joined: 12/11/2007
Status: offline 		The short answer is-they do it because fools enable it.

Don't feel too bad at being left behind in the stampede dude.

_____________________________

My shop is currently segueing into production mode.

I'm not taking custom orders.

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: money - 2/1/2008 5:50:03 PM   
RedMagic1


Posts: 6470
Joined: 5/10/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: KingBlood666
you people dont get it

If that's your response to what three helpful women and a guy with a lot of experience had to say, then before I tell you anything, you'll have to pay me $300 an hour.

Oh, all right, I'll say one thing as a teaser.  I've dated Dommes, and I didn't pay... but I do my best not to come off as a know-it-all jackass.  Ya might want to work on that.

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:02:48 PM   
LadyHathor


Posts: 775
Joined: 1/2/2008
Status: offline 		as long as people have a dollar and seek a service---"trade" will continue to flourish.
 
Not for you? Fine, shuffle on.
 

_____________________________

Lady Hathor, I am the Mistress Hathor of Orleans, I am what I am, often to the dismay and discomfort of others.

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:06:06 PM   
KingBlood666


Posts: 5
Joined: 11/7/2005
Status: offline 		ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money....

(in reply to LadyHathor)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:08:19 PM   
Leatherist


Posts: 5149
Joined: 12/11/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: KingBlood666

ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money....


Dude,just get out in real life and meet kinky people-all you will really find online is scammers and pros.

_____________________________

My shop is currently segueing into production mode.

I'm not taking custom orders.

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:10:09 PM   
LadyHathor


Posts: 775
Joined: 1/2/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: KingBlood666

ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money....


I get your frustration, but they do it because one persons hard limit is another's preference--some people like sushi, some don't--just be wary next time--good luck.

_____________________________

Lady Hathor, I am the Mistress Hathor of Orleans, I am what I am, often to the dismay and discomfort of others.

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:20:44 PM   
RedMagic1


Posts: 6470
Joined: 5/10/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist
Dude,just get out in real life and meet kinky people-all you will really find online is scammers and pros.

That hasn't been my own online experience, but yeah, real life does have the advantage of reality.

The scammer profiles were the ones that wrote me back the fastest, and wrote letters about how they were in love with me already, or some Dommely version of that.  Real, actual women write letters that are hopefully cautious -- as though they've been burned by fake online men, but are trying again anyway.  Because, you know what?  That's exactly what's happening. 

Also, if you're only writing to women whose pics were borrowed from the Ujena Swimsuit Catalogue, you might consider changing your filter.  That's a common scammer tactic.  I've dated women online-to-real who were superhot.  They either didn't post their pic in their profile, or didn't include their face, because they were interested in a mental connection, not a trollfest.

Edited to add: Changing this because it sounds as though I'm saying no one who posts their face is pretty.  That's not the point at all.  If it looks like an amateur snapshot, it's likely a real person.  And if it looks like a fashion shoot, odds are it was clipped out of some site.  A handful of people really are fetish models, and say so on their profiles.  That's different.


< Message edited by RedMagic1 -- 2/1/2008 6:24:22 PM >

(in reply to Leatherist)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:32:24 PM   
Zaraseeks


Posts: 130
Joined: 9/5/2007
Status: offline 		Well are you tired of pros?  Or are you talking to non pros who want a sub to support them?  I do not understand getting tired of pros, pros are trained, and do what a lot of Dommes will notm, handle people other Dommes will not, and are good at what they do (for the most part)  So if it bothers you stop emailing them!

If this is finding Dommes who are Dommes so that they wont have to work or be responsible, well, look at why you are attracting that and what about that attracts you, just like some "subs" come to the lifestyle to escape real life and be taken care of, the same is true for some "dommes" but in truth, there are more real ones that I know than fakes, MUCH more, So I think its important to look at what it is about yourself that is attracting this...and aspire to attract greatness, through living in greatness!

(in reply to RedMagic1)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: money - 2/1/2008 6:42:30 PM   
angelic


Posts: 1807
Joined: 1/24/2005
Status: offline 		Is this a Domme that you had been corresponding with and somewhere in the 2 or 3 email she tells you she wants $?  Or, is this a Pro Domme that clearly states such on her profile and you thought for some reason you would get 'it' for free?

_____________________________

~....and once you have tasted flight, you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been and there you long to return.~ -- Leonardo de Vinci


(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: money - 2/1/2008 7:10:47 PM   
tigerstyle


Posts: 168
Joined: 5/25/2005
Status: offline 		The New Age spiritual leader G.I. Gurdjieff insisted that his students pay through the nose for the pleasure of his company and discourse because he though that people don't value something they haven't paid for. In other words, it was for their own good.

_____________________________

million master march: on the 40th anniversary of bdsm, one million masters will march on washington dc to petition congress for redress of sexual wrongs. contact me for details.

(in reply to angelic)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: money - 2/1/2008 7:16:02 PM   
PanthersMom


Posts: 2215
Joined: 11/26/2007
From: Cleveland Ohio
Status: offline 		who are "all" these Dommes that demand money and am i breaking union rules by not demanding it?  damn  i knew i should have gone to more meetings!

PM

_____________________________

That which does not kill me, better run pretty damn fast

I miss my ex, but my aim is improving!




(in reply to tigerstyle)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: money - 2/1/2008 7:22:08 PM   
KingBlood666


Posts: 5
Joined: 11/7/2005
Status: offline 		ok.....for those who keep asking im talking about the ones who only ask for money for their serveces....for example.....i saw a woman who says she princess (not saying who) who only asked for money only.....she did have a pic of her holding a nice wad of cash.....thats the type of domme im talking about

(in reply to PanthersMom)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: money - 2/1/2008 7:27:42 PM   
BlackPhx


Posts: 3432
Joined: 11/8/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: KingBlood666

ok ok ok i get it now......as long as they have the power they controll what one dose....i got that..........i know some Dommes do what they do for a liveing/job and i can respect that......but not ones who just want money....


Thre are pro dominants and non-pro. Domina who earn a living via their skills in BDSM have many costs that the average Non-pro doesn't. She needs to have a lawyer on retainer, or should, needs to have the equipment to cover a great many fantasies that her clients may have and the equipment to properly sterilize everything so it doesn't get carried from one client to another (autoclaves are not cheap, and neither are chemical products for sterilizing leathers etc.). Disposables cost money and so do her outfits. rare is the Pro-Domina that is going to have only 1 or 2 outfits, it's more like a closet full so that she can dress to suit so to speak. She may take control of what you are doing and work out the progression of it, but ultimately it is your fantasy she is serving, not her own and that often includes clothing and equipment a lot of which must be custom built. Also please add in having a place to "entertain" in that is not going to give her a problem about the number of visitors, odd hours they keep and of course the noise.

Someone who is forming a relationship with another person, tends to be able to purchase what they need for their healthy active sex life over time, adding to equipment as budgeting and needs allow. It will still cost you, but you are both benefitting from it. Master had many things he had built up over the years, most of which we don't use. We have items that have been specifically purchased or bought for or by me, for health reasons. Anything that breaks skin should not be shared with anyone else. We have things he has made and some I have made. All of them cost and it gets put in our budget if that cost is large.

Ultimately KB, you did not choose a cheap sexual thrill to billow your sails. Movie, dinner and a quick slap and tickle in the balconey aint gonna do it I suspect. Alll else tends to cost somewhere down the line. Pro-Domina just want the money/tribute up front.

poenkitten

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: money - 2/1/2008 8:16:18 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: KingBlood666

ok.....for those who keep asking im talking about the ones who only ask for money for their serveces


That's a "Pro Domme" - a PROFESSIONAL.  It's what she does for a living.  She charges everyone.  If you don't want a professional, then don't contact one.

Cali


_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to KingBlood666)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3 4 5   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> money Page: [1] 2 3 4 5   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094