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Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 4:53:00 PM

takenbyjohnr07

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Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away?

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:04:03 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07
Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away?

Sure, what's the big deal? Why do people think everyone has some magic halo over their heads that protects them or that being kinky suddenly makes everyone's orientations and affiliations glow in the dark? Even if you ARE holding someone else's leash, how can the other person know if that means he can't flirt? Perhaps to him it's just harmless toeing the water and seeing what's possible. Plenty of owned subs are available for use and rent by others. As long as it doesn't go beyond harmless flirting, what's the problem?

If it DOES go beyond harmless flirting, you smile and say something to the effect of "I'm really not available" and move on.

No fuss no muss.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:10:15 PM

atursvcMaam

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in my humble opinion, your best bet is to discuss this in advance (or if this is the first time that this happened and you did not anticipate it) or immediately thereafter with your Dom or Domme.
the first thing, by the book, is to ask the offending (and yes this is offensive, but don't say that outloud) Dom/Domme and ask if this activity has been approved by your Dom/Domme.
if your Dom/Domme is unavailable for comment, then you need to decide whether you will embarass your Dom/Domme by performing or failing to perform.
Please do understand that there is not much that you can do here that will be right. you are likely to be punished for any choice. this is a sub's test, nightmare and one of the greatest fears. your best choice here is the one that is going to cause you the least discomfort.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:12:39 PM

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this is a sub's test, nightmare and one of the greatest fears. your best choice here is the one that is going to cause you the least discomfort.

Having some cute chick come over and say "Wow that was a great scene, you have gorgeous breasts." is a subs test nightmare and greatest fear?

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:15:06 PM

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What do you consider to be a come on?

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:19:02 PM

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I did not want to reveal this here, but since the question was asked..

Someone is now sitting on death row because another Dom came onto me in front of my Dom.

The worst part of it all is that long drive to visit him at Sing Sing. But the other inmates behind bars provide SOME distraction, so I deal with it.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:20:24 PM

atursvcMaam

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if i notice that she is a cute chick, and my Mistress is aware that i noticed, yes indeed. i will get punished for losing focus, and rightfully so.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:20:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Have you ever been with your Dominant and another Dominant came on to you right in front of him? Or someone came on to him right in front of you? How did you handle it or or did you just ignore them and walk away?

Yeah, what's the biggie? It's not different than when someone hits on a person in a vanilla relationship right in front of their partner. If the person didn't know, we just politely inform them. If they did, we'll probably be curt but still civil. If it goes too far, I tie their gentials into pretty bows.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:21:07 PM

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but do you got good fingers?

'cause you gotta have good fingers to handle my hotdog.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:23:53 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam
if i notice that she is a cute chick, and my Mistress is aware that i noticed, yes indeed. i will get punished for losing focus, and rightfully so.

So you've been trained to be oblivious to things around you? Noticing something can be a sign of being focused.

The good news is that you'll only be punished if you fail- so there's really nothing to fear at all.

I find it funny that I'd be someone's worst nightmare by looking cute and harmlessly flirting. Really that sub has worse problems than me at that point if they are so weak or their relationship is so unrealistic.

< Message edited by LuckyAlbatross -- 2/2/2008 5:25:04 PM >

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:27:09 PM

lusciouslips19

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My man is gonna kick his ASS! Hes not a Master that would put up with that kind of BS. was in the Military and he is an expert marksman with both hands. He keeps the guns at the side of the bed loaded. he protects me. Just the way a Master should.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:27:37 PM

atursvcMaam

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perhaps i misunderstood the question. i read that it was a comeon, not just a compliment.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:29:04 PM

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I find it funny that I'd be someone's worst nightmare by looking cute and harmlessly flirting. Really that sub has worse problems than me at that point if they are so weak or their relationship is so unrealistic.

Not just that but the fact that it's looked upon as some sort of sub's "test." If someone doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, freaking out if a girl flirts with him isn't going to help matters.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:30:48 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam
perhaps i misunderstood the question. i read that it was a comeon, not just a compliment.

What's the difference? :)

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:34:57 PM

GreedyTop

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if a chick comes on to my guy while I am there, I will make a point of saying he's spoken for... if you'd care to join us, you have to be approved by both.. wanna start over?

*grin*

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:35:06 PM

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HoneyMaster would take it as a compliment if someone came on to me in front of Him. Unless the person couldn't take no for an answer.
He would be flattered, but uninterested if someone came on to Him.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:35:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

My man is gonna kick his ASS! Hes not a Master that would put up with that kind of BS. was in the Military and he is an expert marksman with both hands. He keeps the guns at the side of the bed loaded. he protects me. Just the way a Master should.

He'd beat you up just 'cause someone hit on you? What if they honestly didn't know you are spoken for?

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:36:33 PM

GreedyTop

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a compliment can be a compliment without intent to hit on someone. I regularly compliment people that I have no sexual interest in.
A come on is exactly that. "Come on, lets fuck"

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:37:53 PM

atursvcMaam

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the difference is intent.

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RE: Has this ever happened to you before? - 2/2/2008 5:39:24 PM

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Hasn't happened but if it did it wouldn't bother me nor would it bother Him. Not a big deal for us.

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