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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/2/2008 8:37:31 PM

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Master Jess only tells me what he is going to do when he feels like it. Usually that is when he wants me to feel extreemely vulnerable ,like when he is going to do something I do not want him to do. Of course he does it anyway whether I agree to it or not. At least when he tells me he is going to do that thing i dislike, it gives me time to at least try to be calm and cooperate.

Normally though he just tells me to get this out or get that out and I kind of know what he is going to do by what he wants me to get ready for him. He does what he wants .

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/2/2008 9:57:17 PM

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I know my girl and how she operates. That means that if I'm going to push her in an area, she needs time to prep for it so that it doesn't damage her. For example, she used to have an issue with being pierced. We were at an even and there was going to be a ball dance. I told her she didn't have to have a weight (ball) tied to her but that she had to take one needle. It took her about five minutes to wrap her head around that and she quickly used up all her energy in the dance and finally asked to be excused to sleep. she learned a lot about herself by doing that and now piercing isn't such a big deal.

she also has issues with certain things she sees as violence, like punching. If I wanted to do rough body play with her, I'd let her know that I was going to punch her, if that was going to be part of it (it usually is). To not do so would damage her due to her past.

But, with things that I know aren't going to damage her...no, I don't discuss it if I don't want to. I am free to do as I please. Even in the instances above, I have the right to do those things should I choose to...I choose to not damage my property.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/2/2008 10:37:22 PM

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Master and i do not discuss anything ahead of time, but before He does it, He lets me know.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 2:55:09 AM

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Master does not tell me ahead of time what He is going to do and i like it that way. When blindfolded, He will say "knife" so i know not to flinch and maybe get injured. We do discuss things afterward, especially if something new was added.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 5:20:01 AM

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When Daddy and i play we do not discuss it ahead of time, it is His choice, i can ask for something. But even if i get it, that is up to Him. He tends to ask me a lot of the time to share in stories my fantasies, so that He knows where my mind is. and then He pushes me where He wants to go.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 9:20:26 AM

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Mine knows that I don't take surprises very well in some situations, so he helps us both out by letting me prepare mentally. It also gives me a chance to express any concerns I might have. Then he does what he wants.
It took us a while to figure out that this works best for us.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 9:45:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: Willowmoon
When you are doing a scene with your partner do you still discuss it before hand so that both sides know what is going to happen or does the Master do what ever he wants without discussion first?

We do not scene but I realize that is more an issue of semantics than anything else. I suppose scening would be an accurate way to describe interaction that is discussed and coreographed in advance. It would not be unlike a play that has is scripted and has scenes.

We do not discuss things in advance. Sometimes I don't know for sure what I am going to do and I come up with ideas on the fly. I decide our limits so new activities need not be disussed.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 9:51:48 AM

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still discuss it beforehand? i've never discussed it beforehand, regardless of whether not i'm in a relationship!

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 11:06:05 AM

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Sometimes he will let me know we are going to play but for the most part I generally don't know and he doesn't like to have everything pre-planned either unless there is something specific in mind. Same as with letting me know what we are going to do, he will have a general idea of where he would like it to go but the play usually flows and what happens happens. He has given me advance warning before he does something new. The other day he asked me if he could try something on me, there was a slight risk as he had never done it before. It's a form of cupping with glass cups and fire. the inside are rubbed with alcohol lit and put on the skin, the flames go out immediatly and the heat draws the skin up like suction. I am afraid of fire... that is putting it mildly, but I trust him and letting me know what he was doing before hand wasn't negotiating, it was asking me to see if it would cause me emotional harm in some way. After all no one wants to break their toys :)

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/3/2008 11:57:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm accustomed to doing whatever the fuck I want without discussion. If I say anything beforehand, it's to get into her head.

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ORIGINAL: Willowmoon

When you are doing a scene with your partner do you still discuss it before hand so that both sides know what is going to happen or does the Master do what ever he wants without discussion first?

Now, see, that's the mentality I can appreciate! My favorite line is "wow! What was THAT?!" And I get the pleasure of hearing his low somewhat sinister laughter as he doesn't answer but continues with what he's doing. It's a wonderful thing!!

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/4/2008 8:02:08 PM

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sometimes but not every little detail, it's never been that way. my Owner has my complete trust and always has.

Now, there are times when i get really nervous when i know something is coming, so prior to that, He will typically discuss whatever, and do whatever He can to destress me so i can enjoy the full experience......

i'm not going to go into detail out of respect to Him but, He did a great job of that last night....i had been stressing over what was about to happen for weeks on end, and He actually turned what i thought would be a dreaded reward into a very pleasant one that i cant wait to do all over again very soon.....

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/5/2008 1:31:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: Willowmoon

This is more aimed at those that are in Master/slave relationships where both sides of the equation really know each other and each others limits.

When you are doing a scene with your partner do you still discuss it before hand so that both sides know what is going to happen or does the Master do what ever he wants without discussion first?

For us I usualy have no idea what he is going to do with me and I like it this way. When a scene has been disucssed in advance I find that I can't relax into them as part of me holds back thinking okay next he is going to do this or that or whatever it is.

I am his slave to my mind that means he can do what he wants with me when he wants without discussion of it first.

sometimes he will drop hints that will keep me thinking for days, other times he'll do something as it pops into his head.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/5/2008 3:52:00 PM

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I rarely know what I'm going to do before I do it so I couldn't talk to my slave about it if I had one that is lol.
I'm talking about the past.
If I was planning something complicated I would just give him his instructions beforehand.
The only time he would be involved is when I want him to research something for me.
It's just everyday life to me.
I don't do sadism I am a sadist any opportunity I get with the person that I am involved in a consensual D/s BDSM relationship with.
If that makes sense to anyone.
I thought everyone was the same lol.
Wrong again.

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RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? - 2/5/2008 4:16:17 PM

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We talk about things that interest us, research new things we discover that we are curious about. But when it is time to play, which could be at any time, I never know what is going to happen, and sometimes either does Sir, we just flow with the moment.

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