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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Who said anyone needed to change themselves for any reason? But, as you call women a "piece of ass", maybe you need to rethink that.

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also on a closing note this thread was for advice, those of you who question why I changed things on others opinions is simple, I changed what I agreed needed to be changed, and I don't find myself asking peoples opinions on if I am Dominate, or not. No I will not be polite 24/7, yes I will take all advice into concideration cause I do know that people in life will always give advice from what they learn, as far as the clown who said this is not a Masterly Thread let me ask you something do you not find asking questions and taking advice Masterly? Is this not how we learn in life? Experience is a great gift that young people cannot have when they begin, no it comes with time, but anyone can ask questions and take advice and if you are strong enough to ask those questions and take that advice it means you are truely Master of yourself for you are willing to be patient and learn. Sicnerly Thorn.

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ORIGINAL: ThornTheEternal




Silly question but thought I would ask any ways since I am always curious, why do owned or collared or how ever they want to be labelled subs/slaves not hide there profiles I mean nothing is more annoying than seeing someone you would like to get to know better just to have there profile read at the bottom "sorry i'm collared, owned etc." again just a question for a curious mind.

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ORIGINAL: ThornTheEternal

also on a closing note this thread was for advice, those of you who question why I changed things on others opinions is simple, I changed what I agreed needed to be changed, and I don't find myself asking peoples opinions on if I am Dominate, or not. No I will not be polite 24/7, yes I will take all advice into concideration cause I do know that people in life will always give advice from what they learn, as far as the clown who said this is not a Masterly Thread let me ask you something do you not find asking questions and taking advice Masterly? Is this not how we learn in life? Experience is a great gift that young people cannot have when they begin, no it comes with time, but anyone can ask questions and take advice and if you are strong enough to ask those questions and take that advice it means you are truely Master of yourself for you are willing to be patient and learn. Sicnerly Thorn.



Im not a clown, and you might notice that u simply focused on that comment and negated the rest of my post.

Ur not taking advice here, your questioning your own ability to be a dom based on other peoples judgements. I then proceeded to give you real advice on what will help you be more confident and serlf assured, and you proceeded to call me an idiot...while similtaneously saying you are open minded to all advice to help you become a better 'dom'. Noone can teach you self belief, or allow your masculine side to come out...everything about being a 'dom' comes from within and is shaped by who you are, your values, life experiences and wants/needs...theres no 'technique' or 'right way'...its just 'being urself' and 'being a man' and if ur doing that, without compromise...than your doing it right. If ur clouding urself with self judgement, self questioning, over analysing, or have self-limiting beliefs , or feel a need for vaildation from others, or dont like the person you are and the life you live...yeah ur doing it wrong cose ur not being urself.

This thread = validation from others.



< Message edited by Matadorr -- 2/4/2008 7:29:21 PM >

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This thread = validation from others.

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The "natural Dom" line of thinking is silly fantasy.  We are human beings.  We learn by doing, we learn by asking, we sometimes learn by falling down.  Relationships are not intuitively learned and yes, there is great value in learning from others.  Asking for advice is not self-doubt, especially in the context of asking profile information from none other than those one is seeking, subs. Guess what?  I'm guessing he's getting some hints and interest from women merely from being here, being a real human being, being open to conversation and showing this side of him that says I will grow with you and not against you.  I would bet you are not as much with your approach.  We aren't live stock, we are women and men and people before roles.  We do not fit in cookie cutter fantasy models.

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ORIGINAL: Matadorr

Whatever, you can incinuate that im arrogrant all you like, it doesnt bother me.  To the other guy who claims we learn by doing, and knowledge...I never said you cant learn about things, but this thread was a thread about his competency and his ability to be a dom due to age, thats not a skill...thats asking for others opinions about himself.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3


The "natural Dom" line of thinking is silly fantasy.  We are human beings.  We learn by doing, we learn by asking, we sometimes learn by falling down.  Relationships are not intuitively learned and yes, there is great value in learning from others.  Asking for advice is not self-doubt, especially in the context of asking profile information from none other than those one is seeking, subs. Guess what?  I'm guessing he's getting some hints and interest from women merely from being here, being a real human being, being open to conversation and showing this side of him that says I will grow with you and not against you.  I would bet you are not as much with your approach.  We aren't live stock, we are women and men and people before roles.  We do not fit in cookie cutter fantasy models.

But judging from your statement, knowledge is the source of all power. So therefore somone who  knows alot about BDSM is instantly the greatest dom alive am I correct?  Exactly...thats not what u were saying...its about balance like everything else, and u decontextualised my post to frame it as inbalanced as I just did yours. Dont make things black and white when comeone expesses an opinion.

Natural dom, is not a silly fantasy. Every MAN and WOMAN, has a strong self, a confident beautifull, powerful self, and not everyone lets that out, and lets it manifest as it should, whatever that form takes for each individual. A man who is DOM inside himself, and knows it...needs to let that out and show it...some can do this easily and they r 'naturals' or they effect women sexually in a dominant manner easily. If you think that cant exist, id like to know on what solid evidence.

If I wanted to become a great baseball player, would I ask 'do u think im too young to become a great baseball player?' ...would that show the drive, motivation and self belief of a champion? Or would I ask 'how can I become a better baseball player...because I know I want to become great'. BAlance. Self belief + constant learning. I never said it was a choice of extremes, I simply said this thread is about other peoples opinion on him and his ability, when his opinion is the only one that matters.