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MistressOfGa -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 1:24:20 AM)

 
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The strength of the human race continues to amaze me [:)]


AMEN! God how did we become a nation of selfishness AND one of compassion? I think smith explained it, but sheesh it is so hard to see it.

MoGa




LadyHathor -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 4:54:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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The strength of the human race continues to amaze me [:)]


AMEN! God how did we become a nation of selfishness AND one of compassion? I think smith explained it, but sheesh it is so hard to see it.

MoGa

 
Good Morning Darlings!  I believe it is because inside some, the human spirit burns brightly, irregardless of how the winds blow hard--inside each of us is the capacity to achieve great human potential, not measured in assets, but measured in honor, duty, loyalty, tolerance. Those who think nothing of giving to and for another and yet those acts are often overshadowed by the prattle of the immature, arrogant, self centered masses.
 
That's My story and I'm sticking to it!
 
btw MissHarlet, My home is quite open with room for another--you and MoGa can make a road trip together, I would delight in having you here as well. <smiles>.




MistressOfGa -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 5:04:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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The strength of the human race continues to amaze me [:)]


AMEN! God how did we become a nation of selfishness AND one of compassion? I think smith explained it, but sheesh it is so hard to see it.

MoGa

 
Good Morning Darlings!  I believe it is because inside some, the human spirit burns brightly, irregardless of how the winds blow hard--inside each of us is the capacity to achieve great human potential, not measured in assets, but measured in honor, duty, loyalty, tolerance. Those who think nothing of giving to and for another and yet those acts are often overshadowed by the prattle of the immature, arrogant, self centered masses.
 
That's My story and I'm sticking to it!
 
btw MissHarlet, My home is quite open with room for another--you and MoGa can make a road trip together, I would delight in having you here as well. <smiles>.


Good morning MH!
You see why you are a woman of integrity and strength? Because you have the most beautiful things to say, and at this hour of the morning too! lol
<Gets a cup of coffee>
I also agree with what you have said here. I don't think it is "cool" to be nice. It is "cool" to be cruel. So sad [:(]

Miss Harlet,
You can do the driving! I will keep you company by singing :)

MoGa

ETA: My entire post lol




MissHarlet -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 8:30:10 AM)

Miss H .. thanks for the invite after my blatanat " horning in  " but being from the South .. I just love Porchin it makes everything all right in the world....and
Yes I will drive .....!!! yeaaaaaaaa  a road trip to save for and look forward to .. and I dont even know where you live or care .. Im up for it .. strong women with a sense of humor and honor are always fun !!!!

Rayne ... I have placed you and your Sir ... in my healing circle .. I hope that doesnt offend you .. I am praying for both of you .. I know how difficult this must be for both of you.......Please if you can .. go get a green pillow case or candle or a green stone or something for him to lie on or hold ... indulge me <smile> ... it will help in the healing process .. even if  you are not believers .. often just haveing something tangible to hold onto .. works wonders .. and green is the energy of healing ......Now I hope I havent offended you as that was not my intention .... for I do wish you both only the best!!




SubbieOnWheels -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 8:42:38 AM)

What a wonderful community we have gathered here!

Rayne, I will pray for you and your Sir. I know that prayers, whatever form they take, and whoever is saying them, will have some effect. In fact, it's possible that one thing we seem to have in common is FAITH. It doesn't matter where that faith is placed - the important thing is that we all have faith in something greater than ourselves.

MoGa and MissH and LadyH, all of you dear ones keep your friendships strong and loving, and you will be great supports for each other.

If I invited myself along on the road trip, would I be able to get to the porch? [just kidding - y'all have a great time]




MissHarlet -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 8:44:12 AM)

Have you talked to anyone at the local Lions Clubs about help with paying for the Jaws program .. I used to be a member and some of them have funds to do that .. especially if it will help you be employed part time .. etc .. its worth checking into .....the worst that can happen is they say no ....




summerblossom -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 10:08:59 AM)

first of all im not dumb and your right I havent read the ENTIRE 10 something pages of the thread and im not going to, is there a problem with that???? sheesh god forbid i should ask a question unless i sift through 10 long pages and posts about something first.....




summerblossom -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 10:16:56 AM)

oh wait why im i saying 10 its more like 12 pages now....




MistressOfGa -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 10:34:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: summerblossom

first of all im not dumb and your right I havent read the ENTIRE 10 something pages of the thread and im not going to, is there a problem with that???? sheesh god forbid i should ask a question unless i sift through 10 long pages and posts about something first.....


Summer,
It was the way you asked the question. It was almost insinuating that I am not blind. I assure you that I am legally blind. There have been several others who have asked in the same disbelieving tone, "How can you read, if you can't see the screen".
The program I use is called Jaws. You can look it up on the internet.

And of course I don't have a problem with you not reading the entire thread. You can read what you want to, but if you come into a thread without reading it, and you ask a question in a rude tone, you will hear a few remarks about not reading the thread first.

Thanks for coming back :)

MoGa




sblady -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 12:18:11 PM)

I've tried to stay away from this thread.  I've not read every post and may eventually, but I must"caution" those fully able-bodied people to please take a moment and consider that their status or the status of someone they love can change in an instant.   It can happen at birth, the next year, next week, next month....in a few minutes, anytime.

I've only met a few differently abled people that are looking for sympathy.  Most of us are simply trying to adjust or re-adjust to living in a world that is not equipped to deal with individuals that may need whatever it is they need to live a "normal" life.

Get real and get a grip.  I've been effin pissed with every insensitive comment I've read and God knows I wouldn't wish anything bad upon anyone but those who don't understand should possibly just step back proceed with caution.

Again...not a hijack but:

Imagine being in perfect health and waking up paralyzed?
Imagine being in a car wreck?
Imagine any life altering ability to cope?
Image trying to incorporate living this way within your usual surroundings? 
Image losing a job and the majority of your income because you can no longer "function" in that position?
Image starting over?

Much easier said than done.

MoGa....I wish you all the best.  Your attitude is positive.  You will adjust.  You will have good days and some not so good days.  But you will endure because you are a strong woman (and you have pup).

Much love to you...





MistressOfGa -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 3:58:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sblady

I've tried to stay away from this thread.  I've not read every post and may eventually, but I must"caution" those fully able-bodied people to please take a moment and consider that their status or the status of someone they love can change in an instant.   It can happen at birth, the next year, next week, next month....in a few minutes, anytime.

I've only met a few differently abled people that are looking for sympathy.  Most of us are simply trying to adjust or re-adjust to living in a world that is not equipped to deal with individuals that may need whatever it is they need to live a "normal" life.

Get real and get a grip.  I've been effin pissed with every insensitive comment I've read and God knows I wouldn't wish anything bad upon anyone but those who don't understand should possibly just step back proceed with caution.

Again...not a hijack but:

Imagine being in perfect health and waking up paralyzed?
Imagine being in a car wreck?
Imagine any life altering ability to cope?
Image trying to incorporate living this way within your usual surroundings? 
Image losing a job and the majority of your income because you can no longer "function" in that position?
Image starting over?

Much easier said than done.

MoGa....I wish you all the best.  Your attitude is positive.  You will adjust.  You will have good days and some not so good days.  But you will endure because you are a strong woman (and you have pup).

Much love to you...



sblady,
There is not one feeling of anger that is not validated by most everyone who has read this thread. I am so glad that you came here and got to read some of the most uplifting and positive comments I have EVER heard on CM.
I can't imagine half the list you wrote. I can't imagine waking up and not being able to walk. I wouldn't even persume to understand it.

You are right, I have pup and he is the best thing that this lady has had happen in her entire lifetime. Which says a lot!

Hugs!

MoGa




MistressOfGa -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 4:00:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

Have you talked to anyone at the local Lions Clubs about help with paying for the Jaws program .. I used to be a member and some of them have funds to do that .. especially if it will help you be employed part time .. etc .. its worth checking into .....the worst that can happen is they say no ....

Actually my sis and brother-in-law (The one that was in the major car accident) are members of the Moose. They are trying to get help with the cost of the program. But I will try what you have suggested too.

Ready to ride? <s>

MoGa




BlackPhx -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 7:34:50 PM)

Mistress of Ga;

First of all please let me express my admiration for you and your strength. Having had surgery to remove cataracts that were were bad enough on discovery that I had missed seeing (but not hitting a F-350), I have some small awareness of what you have faced in the recent past. I know you have already gotten some good advice, but I am going to toss my .02 cents in here, as well.

In Apartment hunting a tape recorder is your friend, whether you are visually impaired, handicapped or not. That little machine can make sure that you have a clear reccollection and record of what has been said, offered, denied, etc. Put it down to being blind and not being able to take notes by hand, you will then have a record of the discrimination as well.

What the apartment manager did was against Federal Law not just state law.  Information is below.
 
Windows Vista has one feature that I love and wonder how I did without it. It takes dictation and reads nearly as well as I do. No extra program needed, only a headset. This also means that it will find anything Vista has indexed including emails, open programs and close them by name and even shut down the computer or reboot on command. It is a blessing for me and I have full visual accuity now after surgery, but still have other physical problems that can make typing a strain at times. All versions save Home Basic (I am not sure about HB) do this [:D]. I still do a lot of my own typing but, when parts start locking up, Vista comes to the rescue.

Contact your local United Way, they can help a great deal in helping you find the services you need to deal with apartment managers, services and even modifications to accomodate you. If you are anything like I am (and I suspect you are), you have contributed and paid into the public and charitable coffers for years. It is time to let them help you back to maintain your independence. I find no shame in using the services I contributed to before I became physically challenged so to speak. They may also know of buildings, apartment complexes and rental houses that will welcome you with open arms. They have a very broad network of social services and are more than willing to put them at your service.

poenkitten (for whom doing stairs is a lovely shade of blue skin and a trip to the hospital)

http://www.hud.gov/complaints/housediscrim.cfm
Housing discrimination based on your race, color, national origin, religion, sex, family status, or disability is illegal by federal law. If you have been trying to buy or rent a home or apartment and you believe your rights have been violated, you can file a fair housing complaint.
There are several ways to file a complaint:




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You can file a complaint right now, by using our online form.
(It is recommeded that all pop-up blockers be turned off in order to access this form. Otherwise, press the "Ctrl" button as you click on the link.)


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BlackPhx -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 7:55:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Rayne58

Thank you so much [:)]  We are coping, we have each other, and the nursing staff have been wonderful. 

There was a man in the bed opposite Sir in the ward.  His fistula clotted as well, and couldn't be fixed, and he has even less options left than Sir does....but he still smiled and joked with us.  The strength of the human race continues to amaze me [:)]


My prayers and hopes to you both.

poenkitten 




Rayne58 -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 8:44:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

Rayne ... I have placed you and your Sir ... in my healing circle .. I hope that doesnt offend you .. I am praying for both of you .. I know how difficult this must be for both of you.......Please if you can .. go get a green pillow case or candle or a green stone or something for him to lie on or hold ... indulge me <smile> ... it will help in the healing process .. even if  you are not believers .. often just haveing something tangible to hold onto .. works wonders .. and green is the energy of healing ......Now I hope I havent offended you as that was not my intention .... for I do wish you both only the best!!



*smiles* I am not offended, on the contrary, I think it's wonderful that complete strangers will want to help us [:)]  Plus I have a very open mind....a friend of mine in New Zealand is very psychic.....she held one of my rings and told me I would be walking hand in hand with a man in a huge shopping centre, in either America or Australia.  Well she was correct it happened just over a year later when I met Sir and came to live with Him here...[:D]  She showed me how crystals worked, and they gave my mother relief from her panic attacks, so much so that she was able to cut down on her anxiety meds.  So I keep an open mind, to everything [;)]  I will go find a green pillow case, right now [:)]

We went out for a scenic drive today, had lunch at a pub, and just enjoyed time together without worrying about doctors and hospitals and what might be (or not).....




MissHarlet -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 8:46:14 PM)

Thats great that you can do that .. the more you can the better for both of you . the healing energy comes from nature more than we realize .....




EvilGenie -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/9/2008 10:30:17 PM)

Wait, wait, wait just a minute here. Okay I am blatantly horning in on porchin. I was born and raised in the north and we love to porch as well. Sweet tea with tons of ice and a nice rocker for me. Good company only adds to the feeling of restful peace in an oft too busy world. You see, I am horning in as SubbieO would like to go and I am volunteering to build her a portable ramp to get to the porch. With my nerve damage I may have a few nails in my thumb but it is a worthy cause and I can cover them up so as not to gross anyone out! [:D]

Blessings,

EG




MistressOfGa -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/10/2008 12:19:24 AM)

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ORIGINAL: EvilGenie

Wait, wait, wait just a minute here. Okay I am blatantly horning in on porchin. I was born and raised in the north and we love to porch as well. Sweet tea with tons of ice and a nice rocker for me. Good company only adds to the feeling of restful peace in an oft too busy world. You see, I am horning in as SubbieO would like to go and I am volunteering to build her a portable ramp to get to the porch. With my nerve damage I may have a few nails in my thumb but it is a worthy cause and I can cover them up so as not to gross anyone out! [:D]

Blessings,

EG

EvilGenie,
It would be awesome to take a road trip with y'all. We must ask our hostess first though. I am also looking forward to meeting some great people in NC from this site too, besides MH and lil A <s>

Oh and I can hammer the nail..just put your finger where the nail is to give me guidence lol jk!

MoGa




LadyHathor -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/10/2008 3:51:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: summerblossom

first of all im not dumb and your right I havent read the ENTIRE 10 something pages of the thread and im not going to, is there a problem with that???? sheesh god forbid i should ask a question unless i sift through 10 long pages and posts about something first.....


My Dear, no one said you were dumb---however, if you are going to post to a thread, it helps to have at least skimmed all of it so that you can get the feel for the direction of the thread--simply recommendations to keep your wisdom from getting lost.
 
 




LadyHathor -> RE: Paying To Be Handicapped (2/10/2008 3:56:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

quote:

ORIGINAL: EvilGenie

Wait, wait, wait just a minute here. Okay I am blatantly horning in on porchin. I was born and raised in the north and we love to porch as well. Sweet tea with tons of ice and a nice rocker for me. Good company only adds to the feeling of restful peace in an oft too busy world. You see, I am horning in as SubbieO would like to go and I am volunteering to build her a portable ramp to get to the porch. With my nerve damage I may have a few nails in my thumb but it is a worthy cause and I can cover them up so as not to gross anyone out! [:D]

Blessings,

EG

EvilGenie,
It would be awesome to take a road trip with y'all. We must ask our hostess first though. I am also looking forward to meeting some great people in NC from this site too, besides MH and lil A <s>

Oh and I can hammer the nail..just put your finger where the nail is to give me guidence lol jk!

MoGa


Oh MY! well this sounds like a road trip for sure! You are all welcome here for chat. gossip, tea, martinis, and if MissMorrigan joins, we MUST have chocolate!
 
 




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