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What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 7:36:58 AM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		I tried a search but didn't find anything that really hit upon what I was looking for. There are certain actions/responsibilites that we, as subs, are expected to perform. That aside, I am wondering what things have your subs done for you that you did not expect that really made your day.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 7:45:19 AM   
MistressVnus


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From: Central Florida
Status: offline 		He bought me a Van Halen ticket for my b'day and he won't even be here!! Muuwaahhh!!
That really made my day.


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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 9:26:34 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		We were going away for the weekend and he said he was going to be late because of work. I was out shopping so I hadn't checked into the hotel room yet, he called and said Im on my way to the hotel meet you there.. When I finally got there the staff said my room had already been checked in, he was there naked wearing his play collar with a dozen roses in hand, candles were burning and a bubblebath waiting for me. Needless to say I was very pleasantly surprised.

Day to day he opens doors, carries heavy packages, drives if requested and does anything that I ask of him. When we are at home I have him naked all the time because I prefer him that way. It's all good.

~Lashra


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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 9:34:47 AM   
MissHarlet


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Status: offline 		Both of these replies are examples of thoughtful submissives who obviously have a brain and choose to use it in pleasing you.  So very much nicer than those that are of the waiting to be told " whatever pleases you Mistress.. cause I have no brain or cant use it " variety...

Congratulations to you Both.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 12:01:30 PM   
fun4u77


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Status: offline 		I agree with MissHarlet about using the Brain. I perosnally try to find out the things that please a Domme, especially in certain situations, so that I can surprise her with things i KNOW she will like. But i must say, it does all begin with learnign what pleases the Mistress, and I hope that when I find one, she will understand that my curiosity is not due to a lack of imagination or persoanlity. But if she is the right one, I am confident she will not only understand, but be pleased.
-Fun

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 1:11:52 PM   
suessub


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Status: offline 		MissHarlet,

I read at Ms Rika's site the key to true submissive service is to anticipate where service is needed. The "whatever pleases" approach is focused on the submissive and his needs. In this case, the subs desire to service. When I have my service-fu in place, I want my actions to be quiet things that makes Mistress's life easier. Not me following her around bugging her for ways to serve. (Did that for awhile and pissed her off. She withheld the cane until I mended my ways.) Like you say, we subs have brains, we need to use them. That is where we can find true submission. I don't think the Dom/mes of the world are looking for zombies.

I see my service as love. And love should always look for ways to express itself. And not be a pest.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 1:24:33 PM   
AAkasha


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My sub - well, my husband, who also plays that role - does too much for me, I've come to realize.  At some point there's a question of how much you come to rely on someone when he's so proactive that things just get handled.  On one hand, this is an absolute joy - nowadays, most things are handled before they ever become an issue, and my needs/wants are addressed before I even verbalize them.  I give very little instruction.  He is attentive and thinks three steps ahead of me in just about every facet of my life, from managing the calendar to cooking the meals and buying things when I need them. 

Why would this be a problem?  The question is - how healthy is it to become reliant this way?   It never really was an issue when he was home, or working next to me, 24/7.  But I realize how much I rely on him when he's out of the picture - even for a short period of time.  He took up a small, part-time "job" to advance in a hobby he enjoys, for a few months, as an experiment.  My productivity dipped considerably in his absence, but more annoying was how much I realized I *rely* on him. Frustrations like not knowing where things are stored to forgetting to prepare lunch to going to the post office became annoyances.  It left me feeling a bit ambivalent -- either I need to take back control and be more empowered by not letting him to do so much for me, or I have to accept that I have grown to expect that kind of superior service -- 24/7. 

I won't even go into what impact it had on our sex life, this whole "job" experiment  (hahah) but suffice to say he's not working part time much longer.

Akasha


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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 2:00:35 PM   
MistressVnus


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Status: offline 		I can really relate.  I have had a couple slaves, that when life reared it's ugly head, had to take their leave.  And, THAT is when you really appreciate what a good slave/sub (whatever) is all about.  They have enhanced your life tremendously so that when you do have your spare time you can spend it doing what you want...."with them." (hopefully)
I was just telling a slave a week or so ago "dont sit there and wait for me to "do you"!!"  If you see something that needs to be done...DO IT!!  If my house is in order than I feel like playing.  If not, I stress and you can go "****" yourself.
One who anticipates their Mistress' needs is a "keeper" and seem to be getting more rare all the time.
WAKEUP fellas.  Get your hands off your dicks and step up!!  If you did a little more stepping-up, you might not need to have your hand on your dick so much!!  And besides, we can send you home to do that.


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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 4:06:32 PM   
MsKittyBlack


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Status: offline 		Do I have to pick one thing?

My boi, some of you hate jen and some of you have made a fan list for her lol, is the best. In everything she does, she considers Me. I've NEVER had a partner or servant that takes as much thought and interest in doing everything that they do. It's so basic as to know that she just knows when I have a bad day. Today for example...

I've been feeling "blue." I got a few text messages today about much she appreciates being My boi and how much she enjoys her position in My Life. So when I got home like any other day she greeted Me at the door and took My coat and things and put them where they belong and instead of just waiting on Me as she normally would I got biggest and best hug I've ever had. The house was perfect after just about everything we had done all weekend...and then upstairs in My studio there was the tools and equipment for the spanking bench we've set to build during the next full moon.

I've been thinking of this thing for years and here it is...everything I need right here and a boi who's drawn up the design and gotten everything ready so that it can happen during an incredibly important ritual. I keep thinking I've seen the best and when I tell her...she just smiles and says "Okay Lady."

Yep that's My boi.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 7:05:13 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I think I'll join the choir.  Somehow, I have a greater appreciation for the things I don't have to give instructions to be carried out.  It doesn't have to be anything grand, or something that took a lot of planning.  It can be the simplest thing in the world, but just his knowing what I need when I need it, and providing it, is wonderful.  It can be something as simple as knowing what I want when I come home, getting up early to make a certain breakfast on Sundays, or so many things that I could go on about that would probably bore some people to death.

To be more direct to the OP's question, just this evening, My sub brought Me a leather jacket.  I was completely surprised by it, since I normally don't have him purchase things for Me.  I also got a shoulder rub, that was very much needed after a long weekend.  Best of all, I got to enjoy the smile on My face that tends to come, just from having him in My life and in My service.

So, should you read this, lil one.....   Thank you for My smiles today.


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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 7:46:52 PM   
vampchick88


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Status: offline 		 My sub listens while I'm down, a shoulder to cry on, somone to help me work through probs, a lover, a comanion, someone who cherishes me and will do anything to put a smile on my face. Even with 1000 miles between us, he's in LA and mardi gras is tomorrow....he sent me a beautiful care package filled with elaborate beads since I couldn't be down there with him yet. It almost made me cry. he is very important to me. tonight he had the opportunity, after a very busy day to go hang out with friends but instead he said no because I had a late class and he wanted to talk to me and help me stay awake on the way home....he's the best sub I could have ever drempt of and more.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/4/2008 10:16:40 PM   
DominaJayde


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Status: offline 		When I was sick last week, one of my boys arranged for a bunch of flowers to be delivered, I was NOT expecting it, and it cheered me up no end, another one sent me a lovely poem, just little things that brightened up my day and made me feel less like a quivering wreck and more human.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/8/2008 8:51:27 PM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		Some wonderful stories, Ladies, thank you for your replies. Anyone else?

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/9/2008 2:36:28 AM   
nick2020


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Status: offline 		Dear suessub:  It is nice to know that there are other submissives out there that understand being a submissive is all about.  The act of servitude in itself is rewarding and fullfiling. To anticipate the needs and wants of the Mistress before being told is an art and a sign of caring to serve correctly.  Thank you for telling it like it is!!!!! 

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/9/2008 2:47:19 AM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		Writing personal bits of literature to leave for my Dom to read (Sometimes writing out a fantasy and 'accidentally' leaving it where he would find it). Leaving encoded pager messages for fun on his break to figure out!(Admittedly most of them were either pervy or mushy, but some where just weird.)

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/11/2008 9:18:11 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I had to come back and tell this one.

I worked over the weekend.  On Saturday evening, I was driving home and called to say that I was finally on My way.  Out of the blue, My husband tells Me that clip had a surprise for Me.  Wouldn't tell Me what it was, so I was curious all of the way home.

It didn't take Me long to see what it was when I pulled in.  My flower bed had been weeded and planted.  A tired, dirty, sweaty sub was on My porch.  I couldn't help but let My day wash away, and a smile I didn't think I had in Me came to My face.  Every flower had some purple in it.  All carefully selected and planted.  The look on his face was amazing, just knowing how much he pleased Me.  My boy worked all day, just to make Me happy in that moment.

Yes, I realize it's February.  Yes, I know that I'll have to check the weather report every evening to watch for freezing temps.  Yes, I accept the fact that I'll have to take care of those precious things for when My boy isn't home.  (I'm in GA, so that helps.)  Still, that little flower bed was a wonderful thing that My sub did, just for Me.


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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/12/2008 3:44:48 AM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		Our first date was dinner and for our second, I invited him over to my new house.  In the garden, a tree root had pushed up the concrete driveway so badly that I could not park my car off the street.  I was not sure what kind of tradesman to call and it was worrying me.

He said "I can fix that. I have a jackhammer at home.  I will just go get it, OK?".  And he did.  Right then!  What kind of guy just happens to have an industrial compressor and jack hammer at home?? 

It took the whole weekend, but he jack hammered up the old concrete, dug out the tree roots and had new concrete poured for my drive, which he then laid all by himself..  The end result looks great.

He could have come to my house and stood around waiting for some kinky play.  Instead he fixed my driveway for me.  That made him so different - and so fantastic - that we have been together ever since.

So my sub is not the most romantic guy in the world (forget about getting flowers and jewellery!) but he is a super Mr Fixit.  He has been there to fix every hiccup in my life - big and small - ever since . 




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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/12/2008 4:59:41 AM   
MistressFaye1


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Status: offline 		I loved reading all of these wonderful posts.  I'm going to make sure a certain someone reads them and I'm sure a certain someone will on his own (My knight) because he reads all of my posts as his way to stay connected to me.

I have a feeling he will be the one to do such wonderful things and on his own because he cares just that much and can predicte my needs.

(knight--I await your return more than you could ever know.)

Faye

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/12/2008 7:25:02 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Fox mows the lawn without being told.

He also checks to see if I have enough water to drink when he's at all -- I trained him to do that though but he doesn't need reminders especially if I'm very focused on work.

At times when I'm stressed or sad, often not consciously aware of it, Fox just kneels down and places his arms around me and says one of several phrases such as "I love you, Mistress" or "I'm yours, Mistress" or "You slave is here, use him". I think all three of these can bring happy tears to my eyes.

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RE: What you sub does for you - 2/12/2008 9:23:51 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		At the minute I am having an right shitty time (see health and saftey) and I am morphing day to day from bitch to depressed to manically happy lol My boy sat with me, arranged a dr's appointment becasue he knew I was too nervous too.  Researched whats wrong with me on the internet and in boooks, bought me relevent self help books and makes sure everyday that I am ok, have what I need and when he see's me looking lost or down just comes over and puts his arms round me and holds me till its better.  At the minute our D/s side is taking a bit of a back burner I just dont have the energy to scene and get very emotional if I do.  Every night he kneels for me knowing I feel like I cant ask him too.  He has kept to his rituals without having to be reminded or asked and hasnt pushed or expected me to suit up and boot up and play.

I think most importantly to me at the minute though is that he has shown me how much he loves me no matter what when I had to start wearing a wig recently and it has made me feel absolutely unnatractive and self concious.  I expected him to react really badly and he just held me and stoked my tufty hair thats left and told me he loved me.  I knew he loved me before but now I just feel full of his love and very cared for.
My sub gives me everything I need emotionally which is not a task for the faint hearted.  The rest of it is just gravy


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