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RE: Boys - 9/15/2005 5:07:50 AM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I've known a coupla dommes who pronounced it "dommay," but the first time I heard that, it took me by surprise. I always assumed it was just pronounced "dom."


Oh yes! How annoying is Dommay! Sounds like Mommy... ewww!!!!

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RE: Boys - 9/15/2005 8:20:04 AM   
Nuke718


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Status: offline 		Whats worse than Dommay (which makes me snicker, inside, when I hear it)?

One sumbmissive woman was complaining at a munch about 3 years back that female Dominats dont understand MF powere exchange and blah blah blah. Wht struck me was about somebody railing against ignorance and pronouncing Domme as Do-me... And no, she was NOT trying to be ironic.

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RE: Boys - 9/15/2005 9:08:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kc692
NO female dominant I know prounounces it dom-me or dom-may, most pronounce it just like the male counterpart. Just asking, even though we are all in agreement that dom is not a correct word either, why don't you have a problem with that?

I do use dom as an actual word, as a shortening of the word "dominant" which I use as a noun. Since "dominant" is neither male nor female, I find the creation of "domme" to be superfluous and annoying, specially when pronounced "dommay" or "dommee"

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Same concept, isn't it? I wouldn't think you'd hear the term domme alot. How do you feel about the word subbie?

LOL as it says in my profile, I can't stand the s word.

We all have our irrational language quirks, this is definitely one of mine.

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RE: Boys - 9/15/2005 8:17:44 PM   
TexasMaam


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The reason Dommes use the term 'boy' or 'pet' (or other endearments) is because of the response it elicits. My sub is very masculine, he positively reeks testosterone, he is responsible for the fiduciary liquidity of a monstrous educational system and is under tremendous stress most of the time.

Yet, with the mere whisper of an inviting 'hellllllo, "b o y"' in his ear, he positively melts!

Something inside him just gives way, and the feeling of humility, submission, 'subspace' or 'nirvhana' that he craves suddenly washes over him. I can hear, see and feel the emotional and psychological change it triggers in him.

Whether the moniker is 'pet', 'slave', 'manthing' or a host of other, more explicit modified subjects, the result is what I'm after. I'll use whatever designation he best responds to.

I respond pretty darned favorably when he whispers 'yesss Ma'am!' back to Me, too!

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RE: Boys - 9/16/2005 5:26:49 AM   
kc692


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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2


quote:

ORIGINAL: kc692
NO female dominant I know prounounces it dom-me or dom-may, most pronounce it just like the male counterpart. Just asking, even though we are all in agreement that dom is not a correct word either, why don't you have a problem with that?

I do use dom as an actual word, as a shortening of the word "dominant" which I use as a noun. Since "dominant" is neither male nor female, I find the creation of "domme" to be superfluous and annoying, specially when pronounced "dommay" or "dommee"

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Same concept, isn't it? I wouldn't think you'd hear the term domme alot. How do you feel about the word subbie?

LOL as it says in my profile, I can't stand the s word.

We all have our irrational language quirks, this is definitely one of mine.


I agree, I think we all have irrational language quirks, like, using an adjective as a noun, and then thinking others are superfluous and annoying because they have a preference on what to be called that does not jive with your opinions.

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RE: Boys - 9/16/2005 6:03:08 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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ORIGINAL: kc692
I agree, I think we all have irrational language quirks, like, using an adjective as a noun, and then thinking others are superfluous and annoying because they have a preference on what to be called that does not jive with your opinions.

Exactly!

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RE: Boys - 9/16/2005 4:53:53 PM   
sting516


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ORIGINAL: Nuke718

Whats worse than Dommay (which makes me snicker, inside, when I hear it)?


What's worse than Dommay, which, admittedly is pretty bad, is when someone, male or female, calls themselves a Dominate.

just my two cents.

sting

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RE: Boys - 9/16/2005 5:24:57 PM   
Tawilla


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Status: offline 		I think for me, I enjoy using the term "boy" when speaking about my sub. I think its because it makes him smaller than me by conotation (status, age) and reaffirms just with a simple term, his status.

Tawilla

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RE: Boys - 9/16/2005 5:53:34 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: Nuke718

Whats worse than Dommay (which makes me snicker, inside, when I hear it)?

One sumbmissive woman was complaining at a munch about 3 years back that female Dominats dont understand MF powere exchange and blah blah blah. Wht struck me was about somebody railing against ignorance and pronouncing Domme as Do-me... And no, she was NOT trying to be ironic.

Nuke }:-
Call the Buffalo whatever you like, just call...


Like as in Astrodome? LOL

I always say, I am first and foremost, a Lady.

- LA

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RE: Boys - 9/16/2005 5:58:51 PM   
AbstractSavant


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Status: offline 		Hell, when I'm just referring to the regular non-kink part of my relationship or talking to my vanilla friends...I even call Master "the boy".

It's a friendly term of endearment that I use...usually when I'm annoyed.

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RE: Boys - 9/17/2005 2:56:12 PM   
DreamyLadySnow


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Status: offline 		I use it because it is a leather term. It means 'bottom', it does NOT mean immature and unable to control one's impulses.
Those things do NOT make one a good boy.

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RE: Boys - 9/17/2005 3:31:16 PM   
WulfMan


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Status: offline 		Well first off I'm back, if any of you missed me, or even know who I am haha. I went back to Iraq for 4 months then did some Katrina work. In reply to the Original post. I don't think the term "boy" is a deragetory term, well depending on the usage. For example the term boy is a deragatory term in the racism sense towards black men, which is not cool. Granted I prefer to be called a young man haha, I get called boy just cause, it's a term big whoop haha. Those of you who know me, know that I am a very mature young man, and very dependable. well that's just my two cents. Kinda rambling on but I just needed to say something. I've been having forum withdrawls.

Sorry for those that didn't know I was gone.

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RE: Boys - 9/17/2005 5:20:13 PM   
LadyAngelika


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Well first off I'm back, if any of you missed me, or even know who I am haha.


I most definitely missed you and I'm glad you are back safe and sound. :)

You left without sending me those pics of you in uniform young man!!!

- LA

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RE: Boys - 9/19/2005 2:17:36 PM   
goodmanners


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Status: offline 		If I may add to this .. as a 'boy'.

I think Lady Hibiscus is right on when she says the term indicates how far up the chain one is. 'Boy' is a relatively common term at the start of a friendhip/association/relationship. It's quick to use and does not indicate intimacy. After a while a 'boy' may earn other names when the relationship matures, or he has proven to be a worthy submissive or servant for his Mistress. Then the intimacy is reflected in a more personal name that She chooses.
goodmanners

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RE: Boys - 9/19/2005 11:15:57 PM   
PetTeacher


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Status: offline 		It has never crossed my mind to call one of my subs a boy. Only men enter my home and they leave my home as men.

Side note: Boys are males under the age of 21 in my book unless they have joined the military. If a male is tough enough to join the military, they are men in my book.

Enough said.

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RE: Boys - 9/19/2005 11:24:43 PM   
PetTeacher


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Welcome to the Spelling Police .


Oh please Frienchpet, don't say spelling police. I might get a fine for owning and using a PC.

My quote: "I can't spell my way out of a wet paper sack."

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RE: Boys - 9/19/2005 11:29:45 PM   
PetTeacher


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Status: offline 		Pollux wrote: "When you ask one of those clients, you know, why are you doing this, and they say, "well, I'm very powerful and I'm always in control and I have awesome responsibilities and blah blah blah and I just need to feel powerless for a couple of hours" do you believe them?

I don't. I hear that and I think, "Yeah, right Mr. Trump. Spare me the compensating. You're just an ordinary kinky bastard like the rest of us."


I don't think the ones who are wanting to give up control and let their guard down are saying they are not ordinary kinky bastards. None of them seem to have a problem telling me they are kinky and have a need they can not get filled with vanilla women.


< Message edited by PetTeacher -- 9/19/2005 11:34:19 PM >

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RE: Boys - 9/20/2005 2:55:57 AM   
eslave


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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam
The reason Dommes use the term 'boy' or 'pet' (or other endearments) is because of the response it elicits. [...] I respond pretty darned favorably when he whispers 'yesss Ma'am!' back to Me, too!


This, for me, sums it up. i think the name given by the Domme to Her submissive has to be chosen for what it means to them and what reaction it will provoke. i don't think it has anything to do with being correct or not in the eyes of society : if both parties are fine with those names, where is the problem ? (unless, of course, it's really offensive for people around and being used in a public setting).

i, for one, get all weird in my stomach (and a few inches bellow) when i'm being refered as "pet", because of the "Objectification" there's to it. Or boy, too, now that i come to think about it. But this might have something to do with the fact that i've always felt more submissive to older women, and that being called "boy" stresses that age difference. So i guess that's what it really is : a useful toy to set a mood or elicit a response.

eslave.

< Message edited by eslave -- 9/20/2005 2:58:39 AM >

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RE: Boys - 9/20/2005 4:52:42 PM   
pinkvelvet


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Well I think "boi" is intended to mean a genetic female who is taking a boy type role.......... but yeah, it makes me nuts, too!

Ms Francine, Grammardomme!



"grammarDomme" ~ *heh* nice title. good one on the definition, too...that sounds about right.

"boi"s and "grrrls" ~ *hahaha!*

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