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What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 6:49:49 PM

YourCleaningBoy

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I've always been confused by the "No Strings Housework" fetish category. In particular because it's the only one that specifies "No Strings." You certainly don't see "No String Humiliation" or "No Strings Foot Worship." So what's the difference? Honestly, I enjoy cleaning for a dominant woman as much as anyone, but I still don't think it's truly "no strings"--for example, I don't enjoy cleaning anyone's apartment, it has to be that of a dominant woman. And even when I am cleaning for a dominant woman, I'm not going to clean for 24 hours or miss work, etc. And I would suspect that most subs with a fetish for cleaning would enjoy some kind of reward for a job well done--even if it's just some acknowledgement. Am I just reading too much into this? If so, then perhaps this is the better question for Dommes interested in this form of service--how much do you demand of your cleaning subs?

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 7:12:19 PM

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"no strings" housework means that you clean the house in such a fashion that it does not need to be immediately re-done, and that there is no damage done to home or property. It is the opposite of you "cleaning" the house while I stand over you with a crop, criticizing and/or giving directions. It is the opposite of you cleaning with a fancy outfit on, or nothing at all. It means that you CLEAN.

Certainly I would expect a person who cleaned for me to be rewarded---IF they did a proper job.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 8:23:30 PM

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It means no relationship involved. No expectations. No "you do this for me, I'll do that for you"

Like - you clean her house and she says "well done boy, go home" you dont come back with "but but but, i thought you were going to do x to me and then z to me and then y me all day long!"

There is no "if" statements or "or" statements. You expect nothing in return.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 8:29:28 PM

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It's my understanding is that the individual comes in does the housework then leaves.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 9:13:16 PM

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i am glad to finally, think i know what this means. It is what i assumed, but wasn't sure.....i could totally do that for someone, but at my Daddy's insistence....so not sure if that would be "no strings" or not, considering i'd be doing it for his pleasure and thinking about that as i cleaned, just like when i clean our place.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 9:17:43 PM

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It can be a wierd sort of catharsis for some. Cleaning someone elses home does tend to put all thought of whatever problems a person may be facing out of thier mind, if only for a little while

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 9:27:52 PM

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For me, no strings housework isn't a fetish...it's just a way of life. I'm my Owner's property and I see it as my duty to keep our home clean without having to be led along by a carrot, so to speak. It's just the right thing to do, in my eyes. If I can make her life easier, I will. I've stopped by her house before, on my way back to school from visiting family... I'll draw a pseudomap

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I stopped, cleaned the house, and left. I didn't expect a reward beyond a thank you. I'll likely do it countless more times.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 10:27:32 PM

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I always thought "no strings" really meant "no strings": no play, no chance of anything. That meant "no interest", as far as I'm concerned.

After reading Lady Hibiscus's reply, it appears that there are at least two interpretations. If no strings means nothing in particular is promised by the dominant, but there's still the possibility, if not likelihood, of some "play", that's entirely another matter!

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 10:42:34 PM

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No strings mean no strings. Cleaning becauses it makes a Mistress happy. NOT because you expect something at the end (as many subs think). I don't "reward" by dressing up like a BDSM porn movie Domme. I don't have to give you a whack with a cane. I don't have to do anything in return.

Of course a thank you is in order. I thank my actual cleaner when her work is done. I thank my manicurist when she's finished my nails. I thank someone for holding a door open for me. That's just good manners.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 10:54:49 PM

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For Me, no strings would mean no expectation of any definite thing happening once the cleaning is done. No bargaining for being spanked, or played with etc. However, Me being the kind Domme I am, at least sometimes I might be appropriately moved with gratitude for a job well done to want to play with the one who did so well! However, the motivation for doing the job should be the sub's innate desire to serve and for the reward to self of doing so.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/5/2008 11:11:39 PM

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It means you have to hotglue the apron to you 'cause no strings are allowed.

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Ok ok, a real answer....this means that you perform domestic duties with no expectation of play, sex or money. You do it because of how you feel when you serve.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 4:26:50 AM

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I think, no I know, know from both experience and many conversations on this same subject that no strings can and often is an agreed upon sequential series of events and services that from the servers standpoint require nothing more than the service itself. Often the male or female being served is not even on the premises and in one case I am familiar with the laundry boy picks the laundry up, launders irons and returns the items the following day. His Master speaks to him on the phone and that is the only contact they have outside of play parties and public events.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 4:32:07 AM

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It means that they will do the windows.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 4:32:23 AM

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I'm thinking I'm a lousy sub, cause I don't clean the house much, strings or not!! Hee hee. I do work hard to keep him fed and our bills paid. He doesn't complain, tells me he's happy. Can't complain.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 4:39:15 AM

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Means you will do house work, without expecting other strings to be attached to it. Such as getting laid as the result of it. Having your Master let you off the hook for some offense or whatever else.

Some people clean house just to kiss ass, to redeem their own self worth over guilt, or when they want something from the other person.

You'd be suprised at the mindless games people do with house cleaning!

NSA house cleaning means just that! That you will clean house without making a game out of it. NSA house cleaning is not some neurotic outlet or relationship power piece to play.

Some people only clean house when they are forced to do it, such as when their Dom/Master gets all pissed off that the joint is a mess.

Do you see some of the many different strings? Hell some people will clean house big time before asking for permission to do something, or making some other request. Just because you cleaned house doe not mean your Master/Dom will automatically grant you permission or your request. Whew....

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 8:17:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

I always thought "no strings" really meant "no strings": no play, no chance of anything. That meant "no interest", as far as I'm concerned.

After reading Lady Hibiscus's reply, it appears that there are at least two interpretations. If no strings means nothing in particular is promised by the dominant, but there's still the possibility, if not likelihood, of some "play", that's entirely another matter!

"Reward" could also mean that I feed you, or give you a pat on the head.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 8:31:10 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

It means you have to hotglue the apron to you 'cause no strings are allowed.

Master Fire

Ooo sign me up.

No strings to my mind can be offered inside or outside a relationship. It's free and seperate, an offer of a service with no expectation, simply for the joy of doing the service. Doesn't mean the receiving party won't want to thank you somehow, just means you offer freely with no expectation of return.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 8:43:21 AM

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A lot of the responses here are why I actually stopped advertising as a service submissive. For me, a no strings housework relationship simply meant that I didn't show up expecting to be played with or that my fetish "desires" were going to be catered to on an equal basis. But what it didn't mean was that I was expecting to come and clean and then leave with no actual intimacy involved in the relationship. Having done this sort of relationship a number of times in the past, there was never this "go paint my house and go home" attitude from the women who were dominants. This seems to be more of an artifact left over since the Internet took over, where people define relationships on dictionary definitions rather than talking out a relationship between two people.

What this has resulted in is this "fantasy" a lot of women have that there are these guys out there who are ONLY interested in just cleaning. And because one or two women in the past have actually found someone of this nature, or believe they have, EVERYONE is convinced she can find just that. It turns service submissives who do serve because they love to serve a woman who desires to be their owner into something they aren't, where we're often told we're not "real" service submissives because we have unrealistic expectations, like a bit of attention every now and then.

It's why I gave up. It just wasn't worth the hassle anymore, no matter how sincere you were.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 9:10:48 AM

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Nothing more than the joy of doing something for the Mistress/Master, with no other perks.

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RE: What does 'No Strings' Housework mean anyway? - 2/6/2008 9:26:08 AM

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No blow job for doing the dishes.

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