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WaratahBlossoms -> Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:05:29 PM)

I know this is going to be an odd sort of question, but how many subs could feel they cold handle a "weak" sort of Dominant?

I mean, I have some fears/quirks that most assume were "submissive qualities" and fear that some subs would turn me down because of them.

For instance, I have an odd fear of the dark. Does this make me laughable to you or do you find it "cute?"

Would you be able to serve/love me regardless of these off-putting qualities? Or am I joke to you?



GreedyTop -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:07:37 PM)

I don't see that as weakness.. all of us have our quirks and foibles. I have a lot more respect for someone who can admit that they have flaws than for those who insist that they are without flaws.



WaratahBlossoms -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:10:21 PM)

Then it seems I'm the only one that sees it as a weakness. But I won't hide it either. It just makes me wonder if a sub would find me a bit of a joke knowing those things about me.

At least the fear of the dark isn't so bad. I just have to have 75% of the lights in the house on when home alone at night.

Now, the nonsensical fear of koalas is the one I find embarassing.



RedMagic1 -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:11:10 PM)

Do you lead with your strengths or your weaknesses?  There aren't too many perfect Doms on this site.  Any serious female sub knows that she's talking to a guy with strengths and weaknesses.  The point is mutual compatibility.  It's ok to ask this question here, but if you're chatting up a lady, why bring up fear of the dark.  If you're getting serious about someone, just direct her to make sure there is always a light on.  She could have the responsibility of finding some erotically painted nightlight and installing it.

Are you ruled by your weaknesses, or guided by your strengths?  That's the issue, not how perfect you are.



TracyTaken -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:12:55 PM)

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For instance, I have an odd fear of the dark. Does this make me laughable to you or do you find it "cute?"


I find it human.  Everyone has irrational fears.  That doesn't make you less dominant.

It's a good thing you are not submissive.  You would not enjoy the blindfold stuff.  [:)]



GreedyTop -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:13:30 PM)

Well said, Red :)



fluffyswitch -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:14:02 PM)

if you can function with your weaknesses then i have no issue. if you let them control you to the point where i might turn into a crutch then no it's not going to work i don't have the time to be your therapist/hand holder. goddess knows Sir isn't made of stone, which makes me want to be with Him even more because i know He struggles just as much as i do.



MistressOfGa -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:14:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WaratahBlossoms

I know this is going to be an odd sort of question, but how many subs could feel they cold handle a "weak" sort of Dominant?

I mean, I have some fears/quirks that most assume were "submissive qualities" and fear that some subs would turn me down because of them.

For instance, I have an odd fear of the dark. Does this make me laughable to you or do you find it "cute?"

Would you be able to serve/love me regardless of these off-putting qualities? Or am I joke to you?


God, if you only knew how many fears I have, you would laugh at me. But does it make me less than a Dom to have them? Hell no. I am still dominant in all aspects of my life. We are human. We are not super dooper DOMINANTS. We are women and men who bleed when we are cut.
My pup happens to think half the things I do are cute as hell lol but does he think I am a joke, not if he wants his mouth washed out with soap :)
 
MoGa



KatyLied -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:15:43 PM)

I'm curious about something.  Have you or do you suffer from a sleep disorder, such as sleep paralysis?  Something like that would explain why you are more comfortable with the house lit at night.  



WaratahBlossoms -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:17:10 PM)

Mine loves me for who I am, but still laughes at some of my fears. Sometimes with me, sometimes against me.

But really, how serious can you really take your Mistress to be when anytime a picture of a koala comes around, she cries?
(And now all of CM knows my darkest secret! Haha!)



fluffyswitch -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:18:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WaratahBlossoms

Mine loves me for who I am, but still laughes at some of my fears. Sometimes with me, sometimes against me.

But really, how serious can you really take your Mistress to be when anytime a picture of a koala comes around, she cries?
(And now all of CM knows my darkest secret! Haha!)



i'd be annoyed. which is different than not taking someone seriously. at least to me. shrug.



WaratahBlossoms -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:19:57 PM)

No sleep disorder or anything.
But I have found myself to suffer from some severe insomnia lately. I'm actually trying to cut the sleeping pills out of my life. I've taken to tea now.

I've had a severe experience once before that's lead to my fear of the dark. But I won't let that control my life. I mean, it happens. It can't be fought too much.

I would have reported him, but oddly enough, his father came home drunk with loaded gun and "solved the problem" that I had.

I hate this little town. *shudder*



TracyTaken -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:20:12 PM)

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But really, how serious can you really take your Mistress to be when anytime a picture of a koala comes around, she cries?
(And now all of CM knows my darkest secret! Haha!)


You sound like a Mistress with a big heart.  That's wonderful.



GreedyTop -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:20:45 PM)

a fear of koalas is no different than a fear of spiders, or snakes, or clowns.  



StormsSlave -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:21:58 PM)

Being human outside of bed is not something I find to be "weak" in my man.  I find it to be honest and endearing.  My man wouldn't like me to share the specifics, but after a year of cohabitation, I assure I know he's as human as the rest of us.

As for him as a master, I would not like it if he showed a sign of weakness in bed.  I don't know what that would be, but I am only able to submit because of my belief in his total control.  If I sense that slipping, then the trust will slip, and I'll find myself becoming afraid instead of aroused, which sometimes there's a very thin line between the two.  Isn't that part of what makes it so exciting? 



TracyTaken -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:22:32 PM)

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a fear of koalas is no different than a fear of spiders, or snakes, or clowns.


I have a terrible fear of scorpions.  Even if they are behind glass, I find it hard to breathe and want to leave the planet immediately.



KatyLied -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:22:56 PM)

I wonder if you can teach yourself to be comfortable with the dark.  Incrementally.  Every few days, ones less light.  Until the only thing that is left is the nighlight.



WaratahBlossoms -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:25:13 PM)

Now, the snakes I like.
The other two, NO!

I just feel a bit silly when he sees my weaknesses. It makes me feel like he doesn't take me seriously. But, then again, he's just learning as well.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:31:17 PM)

While I'm not on the submissive side of the coin, if the fear didn't totally control their life, I'd probably just accept it as a "thing" about them. If it was something that controled them and they were going untreated for it, the fact they're not being treated would make me pause, not the fear itself.

Master Fire



WaratahBlossoms -> RE: Can you handle a "weak" Dominant? (2/8/2008 7:33:14 PM)

It's just if I'm home alone.
But the koala thing is all the time.
They seriously scare me for some reason.
I think it's the little beady eyes that just stare at you and nothing else.





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