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julietsierra -> RE: Games (2/11/2008 2:23:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Chocodelite4U
Yes it about adding spice to a relationship, and showing that there no ill will.
so read my signature juiletsierra
And it's about HOW people add spice to their relationships. We're all different. Some of us do what you're talking about. Some of us don't. I have this strange little idea that when he does what he does to me, there is no rancor - otherwise he wouldn't be doing what he does to me. I don't know why we need to throw dice, draw cards, or all that in order for him to prove that to me. More importantly, he doesn't need to do that in order to prove a thing to me.
And I didn't know that there was a list of things D/s couples are SUPPOSED to do in order to .. I don't know.. be a D/s couple. Could you forward that on to me please? I'd appreciate it. Then I could share it with him and point out all the things he's doing wrong. In fact, I'll go buy some cards and dice this morning so that we'll be better prepared to practice your version of D/s in our lives...even if that way doesn't cut it for us. Wouldn't want to rock that old D/s boat y'know.
The games we do play you'd NEVER want to engage in. Many of you have said so many many times. In fact, many of you are very derisive of the games we play, so tell me again why I'm supposed to be all warm and fuzzy about some dice? And please, let me know, when you consider the games we DO play, just why we would need to now throw dice. The difference between your games and ours is that your games - to you - are fun. To us, in our relationship, they're irritating. To you, our games are vicious and pretty much go for the jugular. To us, they're an expression of intimacy. And since you are in your relationships and I am in mine, wouldn't it seem natural to you that you'd engage in the things that make your relationships work, and I'd engage in the things that make mine work?
I don't know...maybe it's the word "game." We've come to associate that with so much negativity that when someone says they don't play games, we take it to be a negative comment on those who do. However, it's simply a statement that we don't do that. It's not a commentary on those who do - unlike what's been said in response to someone who doesn't.
And which signature should I be reading Choco? The one about discipline? Or the one about taking a shit? Cause if it's the first, we live that way, and if it's the second, why do you feel the need to resort to attacks like that simply cause I don't play your kind of games? Isn't that a bit like claiming it's your ball and if I don't play your game, you're just going to take your ball and go home?
juliet
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