luvdragonx
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ORIGINAL: sub4hire quote:
So you're saying we shouldn't bother talking about it? No, I'm saying what have you personally done to end racism? If you have children have you opened your home to other colors? Aside from just preaching to people. What have we all done? That is what it takes to change things. Most of my life my nickname has been the United Nations...because in my personal life I travel with one of almost every color. Not because of color but because they are my friends. So, if a person had grown up around me all racism would be dissipated. We don't really have a choice when it comes to exposing our children to other colors. Even if we wanted to, we would be hard pressed to completely limit their interactions and friendships to a particular race. The same goes for us as adults. It would take a LONG time to meet and befriend enough people of color to 'replace' the non-black friends I have now. The truth of it is, as a white person in this country, you could conceivably live your entire life dealing solely with a white community, and not think anything of it. So in your eyes, you have a choice. On the other side of things, it's is virtually impossible to live a similar life around only black people, or hispanic, or Asian. The majority of employers are non black, and if I was going to have at least one job in my lifetime (I've had several), there is no choice. Most of the people in our city are non-black, so when our kids go to school, or play at the park, or go with me to the grocery store, non-black faces are common. When they watch TV, non-black faces are abundant. When they read books, or go to the movies - again, many non-black faces. So basically, the effort you say it takes to be open to other races is the same effort it would take for me to be CLOSED to other races. I could have grown up as a racist - my grandmother has and still does harbor deep resentment toward whites because of her childhood, and other races because of other experiences she's had. But I realized early on that to hate non-blacks was to rage against the machine - they were in all the places I wanted to be, so to carry that kind of negativity was pointless. I've met and known people of all colors who give racists fuel for their fires of hatred. Yet most of the people I meet are just people, regardless of the color of their skin. They allow me to see them that way because I allow them to see me that way. So when people say that the way to end racism is to 'do something about it', I often wonder what there is to DO. When people tell me that they aren't racist, and that they make a point to mingle with all colors, I can't help but think that they still see a fundamental difference between 'us' and 'them', only 'they' are being nice to 'us', so it's all good, right? (usually on days when I'm feeling a bit snarky) I can and do appreciate the intentions of people who want to show their support and consideration of all colors, but the day I'm hoping for is when people stop patting themselves on the back for having black/asian/latino/white friends and start being proud of having great people as friends. edited for typos and a nod to lovingmaster45, for having the courage and heart to openly state his change in thinking.
< Message edited by luvdragonx -- 9/12/2005 6:37:53 PM >
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