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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/18/2004 8:42:12 AM

trustandesire

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Hi,
Sorry to just jump into the nightmare... but you said something I'm curious about...
"Munches, sloshes, demos, workshops, parties, etc."
I, myself am unfortunately from probably the one State that has no one who fits the specifics that I am looking for. It is also probably the State with the fewest if any menbers other than myself. Yeah, you guessed... RI.
Also, given the fact that I am new to this and finding out how to become experienced in different aspects of this lifestyle is frustrating to put it nicely. Every Sub wants an experienced master. How does one learn to be experienced without a partner?
Which leads me back to my first thought... any advice on how I could find out about these particular activities in my area? I also have the feeling that to attend any of the above... I would need a partner?... which leads me to my second thought...

very frustrating.
Thanks for letting me vent...

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/18/2004 2:01:36 PM

topcat

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t&d-

Most of the events in the scene don't require a partner for attendance, so that's no worry. As to finding events in your area, perhaps someone can jump in with the name of a few- I know there's one or two in the RI area, but I don't recall any names.

While I suppose one can't gain experiance without a partner, you can certainly prepare to meet one by getting to know the things that you are seeking in WIIWD (What It Is We Do), and figuring out how to communicate those needs to others.

Good hunting,
Stay Warm,
Lawrence

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/18/2004 7:10:42 PM

SherriA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: trustandesire

It is also probably the State with the fewest if any menbers other than myself. Yeah, you guessed... RI.

RI actually has a "scene", if you go looking for it. Try some of these links, or venture out to CT, where we're REALLY busy.

Pawtucket Munch http://geocities.com/ladycalliah/munch/
Social Eyes http://www.social-eyes.com/
There's also a Friday night fetish night at Pulse, but I don't have a URL handy for it.

There are several email lists for RI and the New England area that can also give you an idea of what's going on in your area.

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ORIGINAL: trustandesire
How does one learn to be experienced without a partner?

You'll often find people are willing to let you practice "technique" if they know you're trying to learn new skills. You just have to get to know folks, so that they're comfortable with *you*, and you'll likely find that lots of avenues will open up.

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ORIGINAL: trustandesire
I also have the feeling that to attend any of the above... I would need a partner

Partner's are necessary in most venues. Check with the organizer, but generally that's not a requirement.

Hope that helps some...

-- Sherri

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/19/2004 10:58:14 PM

sabersedge

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Hello everyone, sorry for not getting back sooner.

LOl, I reread my post and I see what you mean. I didn’t mean that I settled for less I was comfortable with my choice and for lack of a better phrase settled into a relationship with her. I probably should have said I had met and found a woman who appeared to be what I wanted. But in the end she was not what she had described herself to be.

I know now more then ever what I want in my life. One complaint was she felt I was "Too" sure of myself. Well at 44 Ive gone through enough shit in my life to know what I want. I thought she was it. I over estimated what we had built together. In a way she was right I was so sure in "Us" I didn’t have my eyes open to problems that were developing between us.

I deserve the best and I realize I offer my best to the woman in my life. It is a matter of meeting someone who matches up well enough.

I was going to take some time in answering the Definition of a Sub "to me". But basically it is a woman who is basically submissive in nature. Strong enough not to be submissive to everyone. The best answer is an example that comes to mind. I am friendly with a woman who at one time we were exploring some possibilities between us. We decided to stay as friends. When I say Good Night to her she melts in my arms. It is very tempting to do more. When we are together whether as equals in public or not I lead. She is very feminine and basically very submissive in nature. Now, all I have to do is meet someone like that as my partner.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/20/2004 6:46:12 AM

masterdstar

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Just from My point of view;
I have had several slaves and a few subs over 30 years now.
I am just out of an MS relationship for a few months and had great hopes for it, but such is life Turned out that it was less real than hoped for.
I find that despite all the pats-on-the-back of how the cyber world has opened up the Ds/Sm “Lifestyle” to so many more, it has also diluted the very core of Ds/Sm.
That’s fine, it is to be expected. When the mainstream starts to accept an alternative anything the way the main stream accepts it is to start to sand down it’s edges, the very thing that makes it alterative to begin with.
The short version of this is you now have to wade through much more to find the real thing than say, 25 years ago. You now have to deal with the vanilla Ds/Sm folks to find the deeper level folks. Don’t get Me wrong, there is nothing erroneous or dishonest about the vanilla Ds/Sm folks they have every right to be that and some will move beyond it. But it does make for a much trickier, very different world these days.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/20/2004 7:35:18 AM

masterjayenglish

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Woke up with a dry throat. I think I'm smoking way too much. Let's just say I wasn't in a very good mood. Then I read Sir Daniel's post.

Spelling is number one in my book as well. I also insist on the proper use of grammer. The oens that really get to me are the short cuts because the slave or Master/Mistress is to lazy to spell things out. ie U for you, R for are ect.

LMFAO.......... the importance of proper spelling and grammar. Well you screwed up "oens" and "grammer". Practice what you preach.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/21/2004 5:27:18 AM

MizSuz

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quote:

ORIGINAL: trustandesire

Hi,
Sorry to just jump into the nightmare... but you said something I'm curious about...
"Munches, sloshes, demos, workshops, parties, etc."
I, myself am unfortunately from probably the one State that has no one who fits the specifics that I am looking for. It is also probably the State with the fewest if any menbers other than myself. Yeah, you guessed... RI.

I see that Sherri gave you a couple of links. Here's another that has four different organizations for RI on it. It's also got the rest of the country if you scroll up to the top and select a state from there.

http://www.darkheart.com/usalist.html#Rhode Island

Happy Hunting.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/21/2004 5:06:02 PM

iwillserveu

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Depending on what part of Rhode Island you are talking about, I have this to offer Pawtucket Munch

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/23/2004 5:51:16 AM

sarbonn

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I think a lot of times it's just really hard to find a partner from whatever side you're on. I'm a lifestyle submissive, and I'm a male. I'm highly educated, and I like to think I have a wonderful sense of humor and personality. Doesn't matter. I still get stuck in the multitudes of submissive guys who hound every dominant woman as if persistence is the only way to achieve success, the kind of dogged persistence they hope will wear down an individual who is trying to avoid them.

As such, I find myself fortunate whenever I do link with a quality person. Unfortunately, that means that a lot of times I find myself with less-than-quality individuals because there's this fantasy that submissive guys have to settle for whatever they can get. I'm probably one of the only sub guys around that has turned down a lot of women based on caring less about how hot they looked and more about how they happened to be nut cases in need of therapy, not submissives. Now, don't get me wrong; that's just an observation over MANY years, not a condemnation of the community in any way. I've also met some wonderful women over the years, some of whom have partnered with me, others who have remained long term friends and never partnered with me for whatever reasons.

These days, I don't try that hard to find a partner anymore because I get drowned out in a sea of insincere submissives who seem to set the stage for how women who don't know me will interact with me. As I get older, I'm no longer the cute little guy I was, so it gets even harder to make a connection because even though I often hear how women are looking for exactly the attributes I have to offer (humor, intelligence, loyalty), it is just that much harder to be looked at seriously in the first place.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 3/23/2004 2:19:12 PM

iwillserveu

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As a submissive male also I know your pain. Unfortunately too much of what you said was true.

Unfortunately you do have to settle. I'm sure we'd all love a 22 year-old vixen who is a CEO and nymphomaniac that keeps us naked in cuffs and ties us to the bed and does wonderful yet horrible things to us...

Oh, sorry, where was I?

The nut cases (I don't mean anyone here) are like a vacuum. Guys that are "settling" for the woman who insist men are worms are sucked up like dirt off of our lustrous whatever. (Hey the metaphor broke down. Sue me!

)

Oh, not into financial slavery and she may e-mail you, huh? ("Come to me, little pig!"

[I assume you got that e-mail.])

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 4/13/2004 1:43:51 AM

DrJohnSea41

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddisGrl

quote:

First of all, if someone has obviously not read my profile which clearly states some basic parameters for my intereactions, I don't think I owe them the courtely of a reply. People who send out generic emails to every female in a specific area, for example, aren't interested in getting to know *me*, they're just looking for a life support system to satisfy their kink.

I'm not so sure about that. Statistically, the response rate for male to female messages online in the vanilla world is supposedly barely 1% so with such a low response rate why would most men keep writing richly detailed messages if it's extremely unlikely they will get any reply at all? From discussions with others it seems that the most likely reason people send "generic" emails is their frustration with unreplied REAL mail they send, not some notion that a "shotgun" approach will snag some tail.

I know from my own experience that it is very disheartening to write a very sincere message to someone who never replies at all, but this is apparently the norm in all online dating sites. Once you've done it enough and received nothing in return, how long do you keep doing the same thing? The fact that the result isn't what one hoped for leads to changes in the way people behave. Social systems such as this evolve in unexpected ways and so factors such as the highly disproportionate number of males versus females on these sites, the fact that most mails go unreplied and even the simple fact that we are all utter strangers with no other direct social connections to each other inevitably leads to patterns of behavior that aren't what we hoped for. In other words, the behavior of EVERYONE online, including both active behaviors such what kind of mail someone sends or inactive behaviors such not sending a reply regardless of reason, have a cumulative effect on the entire system that can have undesired consequences. Take spam for example -- the very anonymity and free expresssion we love the net for has also had the unexpected consequence of making spam a nearly intractable problem. Taking this back to the start, what happens when thousands of sincere people get the same result from writing as a thousand insincere people? See the problem here -- unintended consequences can result. In this case everything from "shotgun" approaches to genuine mail sent already assuming a reply is unlikely.

I also think it's a mistake to put too much emphasis on the idea that you really "get to know someone" via email in the first place. Having had email since before even the web itself existed, it's been my opinion that email simply lacks so many of the cues we pick up non-verbally that it is a useful tool, but of limited value for real personal interaction. Everyone who has had wonderful email exchanges only to meet someone and feel nothing even when that person is completely open and honest understands what I mean here. In fact, as more and more social studies are looking at email and online communication, the more it is becoming clear that email communication tends to breed some fascinatingly mistaken assumptions in those who depend on it.

The point of all this is that because the net is so massive, everything each of us does here molds the perceptions of all of us. You may be right that a "shotgun" email isn't tailored just for you, but consider that every email you don't reply to from someone sincere can eventually lead someone to conclude that anything more detailed than the "shotgun" approach is a waste of time -- which leads to MORE shotgun emails! I don't wish to defend idiots who waste all our time, but remember that it is very possible that very person was sincere once and the way HE was treated made sincerity seem pointless. Of course, some people are jerks and act like children, but should they be allowed to spoil a good thing for us all?

John

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 4/13/2004 4:25:27 AM

LadyBeckett

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I was reading what you said up there and I have to say a body could get lost forever and ever (amen) in that. wow! We all have our limits, which is what we attempt to include in our respective profiles. This is what I'll accept, and this is what I won't. If someone actually takes the time to read that (which would address the "sincerity" issue, I believe), then it would save everyone a lot of time and trouble. But then, on the other hand, we wouldn't have all gotten together here, and that would have been something of a loss.

quote:

Unfortunately you do have to settle.

I absolutely disagree with this, iwillserveu. We should never resolve to "settle".

Chai latte' anyone?

< Message edited by LadyBeckett -- 4/13/2004 4:29:38 AM >

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 4/13/2004 5:28:38 AM

DrJohnSea41

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyBeckett

quote:

I absolutely disagree with this, iwillserveu. We should never resolve to "settle".

So would you say you're looking for the one perfect person for you? Are you aware that this kind of thinking is a trap?

John

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 4/13/2004 6:05:53 AM

LadyBeckett

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Oh I don't know about the "perfect" person, John, but I know that I wouldn't "settle" for someone that is clearly what I don't want just because I'm not 30 years old anymore, or whatever. On the other hand, I'm not in a hurry, so I'm willing to take my time.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 4/13/2004 1:43:10 PM

DrJohnSea41

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyBeckett

Oh I don't know about the "perfect" person, John, but I know that I wouldn't "settle" for someone that is clearly what I don't want just because I'm not 30 years old anymore, or whatever. On the other hand, I'm not in a hurry, so I'm willing to take my time.

quote:

Oh I don't know about the "perfect" person, John, but I know that I wouldn't "settle" for someone that is clearly what I don't want just because I'm not 30 years old anymore, or whatever. On the other hand, I'm not in a hurry, so I'm willing to take my time.

The reason I ask is that there is some absolutely fascinating social science research on this very subject that is highly enlightening. In a nutshell, the researchers are finding that in a world like ours where we are absolutely drowning in choices, our own perceptions of what we want and don't want are surprisingly clouded by the very issue of choice itself. In other words, groups that have few choices don't even understand the very concept of "settling" at all, yet they consistently show higher degrees of satisfaction and happiness in life (less depression, lower divorce rates, higher stability in interpersonal relationships etc.) than those people whose lives have an abundance of choices. The groups with fewer choices do understand the concept of criteria and such, but it just has little meaning to them and not just in a pragmatic sense. This seems hopelessly naive to us, but is it? Maybe it's actually a strategy that actually has better long-term results?

It is as if the more choices we have, the more likely we are to unconsciously live by a "grass is always greener" philosophy which eventually creates such an insurmountable wall of criteria that we could never find what we want and even if we did we would concentrate on the aspects of that person which could be improved upon -- thus setting the stage for dissatisfaction and ultimately the failure of the relationship. It would be easy to dismiss these issues as "ignorance is bliss", but the more research that is done, the more it turns out that people who live by a "good enough" philosophy aren't ignorant at all -- they actually are psychologically better adjusted than most of us in every quantifiable regard.

Ultimately, what all this means is that we need to carefully examine exactly what we mean by "settling" in the first place. We all like to think it just means we are picky in regards to the "big issues", but open-minded on the details. In reality, objective examination is showing that this isn't true at all -- it's as much a myth by which we fool ourselves as it is reality. If this is the case I think it gives a lot of food for thought.

If anyone is curious I can recommend some excellent current books on the modern mythology embedded in the psychology of choice and free will.

...back to work....

John

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 1/30/2005 3:49:34 AM

garylee953

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i am not......not........trying to start anything.......please believe me.

but after 2 r/t dommes......and a handful of --going for a demo---''i'' have YET to meet a One that "I" call sincere. i hear a lot about,.......how much dommes are supposed to take care of Theirs........YET.......as soon as a misunderstanding comes up.....
just like my 3 wives........"thers the door........hit it"

i DO feel sorry for dominants.......but i also feel bad for us underlings.......
this is NOT the loving lifetsyle i have been told about. it is very cold hearted......

but its JUST me........so do NOT get your hackles up here.
i am just pointing out,.....if domainants have trouble.....maybe?.......coz underlings dont like being hurt.
thanks
take care
garylee

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 1/30/2005 11:44:21 AM

thnkiwntaspank

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Wow, it becomes very difficult to get anything done when you start reading through these boards. For the most part, this group is comprised of thoughtful, articulate, intelligent people exchanging thoughts and ideas. Guess that is why I get so caught up, I probably need THAT in my life more than the "One"!

Everyone here meets those that are so much better on paper than in real life, and sadly, we all just have to say "ok" and move on to the next opportunity, hoping it will be better. As the eternal optimist, I am sure that eventually, all of us find what we are seeking.

In regards to the whole "spell check" debate. When I create my profile, I re-read to make sure that there are not errors, sending email, the same thing. These are not as time sensitive as sending an instant message. I am often amazed at the number of simple spelling errors here on the message boards. Some you can see are certainly typos, others you can tell are due to not knowing the correct spelling.

Your profile and your email are, as compared here often, like your resume. I would think we all want to make a good first impression (no matter which side you are, Dom/sub). Why would you not take the time to be sure that you are doing that? I know myself, I have edited my profile here several times in order to clarify what I am looking for (and hopefully keep some of the @&^*s from even sending me an email), and each time, I re-read for any errors. On message boards, I also make sure that I am not posting something filled with spelling or grammatical errors. When I am chatting with someone on instant messenger, I tend to ignore most spelling mistakes. IMs are like a conversation and while I type 70 words per minute, I realize that not everyone else does, and if I wanted perfect grammar and spelling, the conversation would not flow very well.

I remember a post on the message boards of another site. The poster's question was to the "tune" of, I made a friend, then we had sex, then he never called again. Why are all the good looking men going with fat ugly women and why would they just f*** and leave a beautiful woman like me. Her post looked as though english was certainly not her first language, and in fact, you had to read it twice to try to even understand what she was saying. I went and looked at her profile (as the site did have many out of country members), but she was from the US. Her profile was written just like her post. The funny part was when you finally were able to decifer what she said, it came down to..."I like sex a lot, in all kinds of ways, very little limits. I don't care if the man is good looking, fat, or muscular, but he must have a job and a car (I swear this is a true profile!). She had 4 pictures of herself, all naked, none including her face.

I tell you all this because it makes the point. If you post a profile filled with spelling and grammatical errors and are not specific about what you are really seeking, you will get just what you asked for...a man with a car and a job who is simply looking for the quick f*** and chooses you because you have not presented yourself as someone who is the least bit intelligent or thought provoking. If that is all you are looking for, great, but if you want more from the person you are seeking, you need to show YOU are more than that.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 1/30/2005 12:51:28 PM

Dryon

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in responce to all the spelling grammar and puntuation comments now only speaking personally here with me its a honest learning problem everyone of you probably knows someone who cannot do basic math without picking up a calculator it is the same with me but in a different area don't ask me why but when reading (something i do ALL the time) i am able to spot a misspelled word that the proofreaders and editors missed yet when it comes time for me to say something i am unable to make it come out the way it should be and frankly rather than sit here for over an hour agonizeing over getting a sentance just right (whitch i would have to do) i prefer to go ahead and say what i have to say while doing my very best otherwise i would never get anything said

for those of you who are unable to look past this im sorry but i thought part of the point to this site and others like it is openmindedness granted i do realize the vast majority out there IS just pure lazyness and ignorance but is that any reason to ignore me when i AM makeing an honest effort and doing my very best to get my point across?

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 1/30/2005 1:14:44 PM

abytchgoddess4u

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Finding a sincere, no bullshit person in general is difficult. When one adds in specific needs, such as BDSM, it limits the dating pool. Unfortunately, HNGs have flourished in this net environment. I think it's best to be able to meet a potential partner relatively quickly. It's far easier to look in someones eyes and deduce whether they are a psychopath...though, that's not always accurate either.

I think it's all a matter of personal responsibility, for which we in North America aren't exactly known. Own your interactions, know what you want for yourself, be honest with others and unashamed of your choices. If one doesn't know what one wants, take the time to try and figure it out before searching for "the one". If you don't know yourself, how can you expect others to know you? Plus; on the net, etiquette goes out the window. If one wishes for polite behavior, one must act the same way. What you put out does come back to you.

I decided 7yrs ago that I would no longer date vanilla men, since then, I haven't...full stop. It works for me. However, being that I'm forced to live in El Paso for the next year, it makes my options more limited. Coming from Vancouver, where there is a very open scene, it's hard to cope with...but I'm doing it. I've opened myself to novices, which I wouldn'tve done before. However, due to my schooling, I cannot travel, nor relocate...therefore I do not encourage LDRs. I expect people to fill out a comprehensive checklist before meeting in person.

Spelling and grammar are another way of weeding out those that are not worthy. If a man does not make an effort to demonstrate his interest and intelligence initially, why should I expect he would be up to the tasks I would expect of him as a sub? I don't mean calling me Mistress right off the bat, btw...that bugs me. I mean responding articulately and detailing why he might be suitable for me...not simply listing what he's done and wants me to do to him.

Uhhh, no.

I put my preferences in my profile and expect that subs will read it. Apparently that is too much to ask of most. What bothers me is when I get a one sentence, misspelled, lewd reply. I have specific questions in my profile that are designed to give me an idea about a person's personality. I always reply to the emails I get and 75% of the time I have to point out that they did not answer my questions. I figure at least I'm giving them a second chance by doing so. However, if they are too moronic to then have a normal conversation or ask me anything about myself as a human being, they're out. Why waste any more of my time?

I am not wholely defined by my sexual preferences and I don't expect to be treated as such. I want to get to know my subs online and in person; as humans, before treating them as less than such...

I think if others did the same, we'd all be happier and get more of our needs met.

I do not suffer fools lightly.

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RE: Finding a sincere sub/slave - 1/30/2005 2:01:25 PM

MadameDahlia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OldMaster
But I do think that you must either settle for candidates over 40, or be willing to teach grammar and spelling to your sub or slave!

Unfortunately even age cannot rule out those who will cause your eyes to bleed with typos/horrible grammar so glaring you feel as though you're looking into the sun of the typo world.

I've had those in the age range of forty to sixty-eight years of age who could not manage a single sentence. I'm an English nut. I admit it. I don't mind an error here or there but if I am required to read the email twelve times before I get even an inkling about what they were trying to say or if I note that they were being impossibly lazy ("kan ur repl 2 me plz???") I'm going to delete the email.

abytchgoddess4u ~ "I do not suffer fools lightly."

Bravisimo.

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