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Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 1:26:12 PM   
shysub0951


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Status: offline 		Is it possible to have a d/s relationship without this type of play? Or is it just something natural that most if not everyone does in a d/s relationship?  i know that everyone has their own preference on it, so the answers are going to vary from person to person.
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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 1:29:47 PM   
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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 1:32:25 PM   
girlygurl


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Status: offline 		You answered your own question shy. It does vary from person to person.

Is this something that you don't want to do? If you don't want to do it, make it a hard limit... but speaking from experience, and it's only been a year since I first tried anal hee hee "if" you have the right person, and they are willing to take their time and be gentle I highly recommend trying it! Sir calls me His lil anal slut now weeeeeeeeee


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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:07:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm gonna have to side with my esteemed colleague, DOMIGUY.  You can't have a D/s relationship without workin' on dat ASS!!!!!

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:15:31 PM   
daddyncherry


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Status: offline 		i'm with girlygurl here.....i just started really doing it 2 years ago, and it had been a hard limit beforehand and now i looooove it and i am my Daddy's anal slut....come to think of it, it's been months and months since he has even used my pussy, prefering to use my ass more than anything.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:30:32 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Damn, its all about the forbidden and taboo.
And if she struggles against it, that can mke the forbbidden fruit much more tempting
And it can be great fun training someone slowly into it.
What a great act of long term submission it can be.
Start out slow, stretching her with a finger
Then give her orders, play with your self every night for 20 minutes with a small anal probe.
Check on her progress weekly
Bend her over your lap, spread her cheeks and slide that probe on in
Playing with her pussy all the while
Teach her to tie the anal in with the orgasm
Over time get her to use bigger and bigger toys
Check every week sliding it in and out
Until one fine fine night
Voila
Its homecoming

She spends her days knowing she is doing this becuase it pleases him and she wants to obey and make him happy
He is happy with her submission and desire to please
Its a win win all around as far as I see it.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:32:57 PM   
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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:33:01 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine there NOT being anal in my relationships.. but I was already loving it long before I became active in bdsm...

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:35:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub0951

Is it possible to have a d/s relationship without this type of play? Or is it just something natural that most if not everyone does in a d/s relationship?  i know that everyone has their own preference on it, so the answers are going to vary from person to person.


Of course it's possible.  Negotiate your limits based on what YOU feel safe with and ignore anyone that attempts to tell you it makes you less submissive or "not true".  I would keep in mind though that many things that we perceive to be horrible things we find out really aren't, so keeping an open mind about things is not a bad idea.  Do what's right for you and find someone that is compatible with that. 

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:36:38 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub0951

Is it possible to have a d/s relationship without this type of play? Or is it just something natural that most if not everyone does in a d/s relationship?  i know that everyone has their own preference on it, so the answers are going to vary from person to person.


D/s lives are variations on a theme, some do, some don't, and I can assure the boys that come with the most bravado about it, probably squeal like a pig---lol

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 2:38:44 PM   
DaddyAndCarina


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Status: offline 		I suspect as many of us like it as dont....  I have enjoyed it for a long time  but there are those you like it with  and those you  dont . Sometimes it takes finding out what sqwuicks you  about it  aside of the pain and see what you  can do  to  over come that  issue.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:18:37 PM   
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Why is it that you are equating anal sex or anal play with Dominance and submission?  I'm missing what one has to do with the other. Are you seeing it as a submission thing, where you might have said "no" in the vanilla world but you won't if you're sub? I think I'm missing the connection between ANY sexual activity and D/s.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:23:26 PM   
gaggedredhead


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Status: offline 		I am a total anal slut, but not everyone is into nor do they have to do it vanilla or D/s relationships. Nothing is a requirement of a type of relationship, everything is negotiated between indviduals, not a type of situation.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:25:13 PM   
softness


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Status: offline 		Of course it is possible. Be clear and upfront about it, but also fair. If it is never going to happen dont involve yourself with someone for which it is a real desire.

However, it is also important to accept that at some point in your submission, its almost certain to come up (no pun intended) so do your best to make it less of a terrible option, and mroe of a positive possibility.



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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:28:58 PM   
sweetwenchie


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Status: offline 		Anal play is a sexual activity, has nothing really to do with D/s.  There are plenty of 'nilla wafers that love tappin' the ass too.

If you do not like or have no interest in anal play, just be honest and say it outright.  There are guys out there that are not into it.  Poor saps.

Though personally, i have to say, anal play is just fuckin hot. 

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:36:44 PM   
MistressVnus


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quote:

the boys that come with the most bravado about it, probably squeal like a pig---lol


I know. Isn't it amazing.  There are a couple of Masters out there who once trained under my hand. And a couple who have come to see me on the sly to get certain needs met.
They look all Mastery in their  fine leather with their little fem/subbie tagging along behind and I can't help but smile thinking about that big black strap-on (named Mandingo) pounding up their ass and them squealing..."Oh, yesssssssssss, Mistress!!  Make me your bitch!!!  Fu*k this bitch, please, Mistress!! Oh, I adore you, Mistressssssssssssss!"
Mind you, I'm not making fun.  I LOVE IT!!  I'm just pointing out how Dominant these men look.  And, who would have guessed.

The names have been left out to protect the not so innocent.  *winking* at you if your reading this.  LOL


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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:39:48 PM   
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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 3:58:28 PM   
shysub0951


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Status: offline 		i do thank you all for your input and such. For me it's a mind thing, yea i've had smaller butt plugs in before and yes i've had some limited anal play with my Dom. But it's that uncomfortable feeling that i can't quite get my mind to work and just take it. And thank you Kana in sharing how you and your Master started it. It's not something i feel squemish *sp?* about, just the mind thing.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 4:20:24 PM   
Paulsgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub0951

Is it possible to have a d/s relationship without this type of play? Or is it just something natural that most if not everyone does in a d/s relationship?  i know that everyone has their own preference on it, so the answers are going to vary from person to person.


it varies as do arseholes.....
but i fully recommend Anusol HC...it prolongs active life......attaching disclaimer as it also thins the skin if used for more than 7 consecutive days....the Anusol HC that is not your arsehole.......

< Message edited by Paulsgirl -- 2/16/2008 4:21:33 PM >

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/16/2008 4:29:36 PM   
Paulsgirl


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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus


They look all Mastery in their  fine leather with their little fem/subbie tagging along behind and I can't help but smile thinking about that big black strap-on (named Mandingo) pounding up their ass and them squealing..


Fuck me madaam this boys been round the block more than once:

Mandingo (1975) Directed by Richard Fleischer. With James Mason, Susan George, Perry King. A slave owner in the 1840s trains one of his slaves to be a bare-knuckle fighter, ...

Mandingo - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Mandingo may refer to:. The Mandinka people of West Africa; The Mandinka language ... Retrieved from "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mandingo" ...

YouTube - Mandingo The first PG-rated stripper movie in history!

ManDingo (porn star) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Mandingo (born Frederick Lamont on February 25, 1975, in Mississippi) is an African-American pornographic actor. He currently has a Bachelor of Arts.

< Message edited by Paulsgirl -- 2/16/2008 4:30:34 PM >

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