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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 10:28:19 AM

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I used to be 110% against anal. My attitude was your not sticking anything up my butt. Shit comes out my ass, not up it. Then I tried it with my Master at a very slow rate and I ended up enjoying it. I'm not big on pain either.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 11:19:55 AM

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well any kind of relationship is possible. I suppose I could feel submissive without it. It is just that like with a buttplug for example for me it's like instant subspace. Just to have that tactile reminder that that orafice is being stretched out kept open. I feel the same way about gags to a certain extent as well. A dom can tell me they own my mouth or ass but to physically stake their claim like that in a way that I cannot ignore is a whole other level of heaven.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 11:32:04 AM

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I'm seeing it as an unrealistic limit. Because of its general banality, it sounds like the cork in a bottle of a whole lotta "I don't wanna's". I'm no ass master, but I certainly wouldn't go forward under those terms.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 9:30:07 PM

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I'm gonna have to side with my esteemed colleague, DOMIGUY. You can't have a D/s relationship without workin' on dat ASS!!!!!

What they said.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 9:36:48 PM

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I'm curious after seeing two posters suggest that sexual activity and D/s are mutually exclusive categories.

Has sexual activity nothing to do with D/s? Then how about, say, Cooking? Eating? Playing? Travelling? Dressing? Undressing? Doing Laundry? Gardening? Which ones have anything (really) to do with D/s, as you see it?

To me each of them does if it is undertaken by the s at the behest of the D. I think D/s is a matter of the will. One submits her will to another (your pronouns may vary). But matters of the will are often, perhaps usually, manifested in behavior. That's where the "having to do with" comes in.

If getting laundry done can be conceived as submissive, is it such a stretch to conceive of getting your rump done as submissive?

my point was that you can have anal sex without it being D/s, you can have anal sex and it has everything to do with D/s. Anal sex, or any sexual activity, in and of itself is not reserved for those in this thing we do. Neither is day to day chores such as cleaning and cooking. It is the reason behind the actions that make it D/s or not.

just my own thoughts and how i view such matters. i certainly do not expect all to see things as i do, nor would i want that.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 9:52:20 PM

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It shouldn't matter if you're big on pain or not - because anal sex should not hurt. Ever.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/17/2008 10:10:04 PM

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I don't think so. With all the things that can go wrong with anal, I think it's reasonble to have no desire to do anal.

it's not at all banal or just a case of but but but I don't waaaaaaaaaanna.

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ORIGINAL: Hotch

I'm seeing it as an unrealistic limit. Because of its general banality, it sounds like the cork in a bottle of a whole lotta "I don't wanna's". I'm no ass master, but I certainly wouldn't go forward under those terms.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 12:16:07 AM

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It shouldn't matter if you're big on pain or not - because anal sex should not hurt. Ever.

The expression hurt me so good comes to mind.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 1:12:15 AM

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It shouldn't matter if you're big on pain or not - because anal sex should not hurt. Ever.

I must be doing it wrong cause I love it when it hurts... Sure, it doesn't HAFTA hurt, but ooooooooooo when it does...

Is that? What? Oh yes, yes it ... oh my oohhhh ... Yep.. anddddddddddd..it's it's... SUBSPACE

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 2:52:57 AM

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I'm seeing it as an unrealistic limit. Because of its general banality, it sounds like the cork in a bottle of a whole lotta "I don't wanna's". I'm no ass master, but I certainly wouldn't go forward under those terms.

*laughs* banal? not every cock can fit in every ass and be considered banal. Why do they put people under to do colonosopy? Humm? Anal sex is not and should not be considered a must do for everyone. You don't want a relationship without it, fine, but don't consider everyone who doesn't want it to be simply whiney. Let me know how your next prostate exam goes and how banal it would have been if the doc had used more fingers *evil grin*

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 3:53:51 AM

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i've always loved being on the giving end. since the very beginning of my 'nilla days.

i never considered being on the receiving end until a gf "broke me into" it. i was hesitant at first. but soom came to love it more then i could possibly describe.

i have not been to the doctor since for a physical exam since then. i'm hoping i can keep any physical reaction in check when i do. or perhaps i need to change to a Woman doctor....

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 5:42:15 AM

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Oh, I didn't mean to imply it couldn't hurt if you WANTED it to...there's just so many people who seem to think it's supposed to be painful and since they don't like pain, they won't try it...and they rob themselves of what could be a truly enjoyable experience.

I read a thread on another forum started by a girl about how painful it is, and that porn actresses are just 'paid to look like they enjoy it'...it's kind of a pet peeve of mine ^^;

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 9:53:31 AM

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I personally love anal play period. Even in vanilla relationships.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 10:17:39 AM

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Every know and then I see on boards where someone says this or something simular to it. You can of course have a relationship without it but..... why would you? I would suggest you just kind of talk it out on the boards ... do some searches of previouse posts and get some info on some womans first time experiences with it. There is of course a chance that you will never like it but I think based on the reponses that are usually posted on the boards there is a really good probability that you will be singing a different tune come two years from now. You would be shocked but a woman can actually go to the NO.. NO ... NO's to the... 'He hasnt fucked me in the ass all week ... what the fuck is wrong with him.... "
I bet nearly every woman on this forum that has singed the praises of anal sex at one point felt just like you do know. I would sugest you get the info you need .... talk it out with some friends from the site and of course with your Dom and everything will work out for the best.

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RE: Anal Play? - 2/18/2008 8:11:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

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I'm seeing it as an unrealistic limit. Because of its general banality, it sounds like the cork in a bottle of a whole lotta "I don't wanna's". I'm no ass master, but I certainly wouldn't go forward under those terms.

*laughs* banal? not every cock can fit in every ass and be considered banal. Why do they put people under to do colonosopy? Humm? Anal sex is not and should not be considered a must do for everyone. You don't want a relationship without it, fine, but don't consider everyone who doesn't want it to be simply whiney. Let me know how your next prostate exam goes and how banal it would have been if the doc had used more fingers *evil grin*

The question was "anal play" not "anal sex". I'd approach the question a bit differently if we were talking about fearing where Mr. Horsecock was drawin' a bulls-eye. BUT, "No toucha da ass." IMO and regarding my relationships, would be posting the "No Swimming" sign a little too close to the shoreline. Opinions are like assholes... Most are interesting but some just stink.

Now, where are my elbow length nitrile (gotta be careful of latex sensitivity don't ya know) gloves?

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