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Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:24:49 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		So is this, or can this be a real phenomenon in the wonderful wide world of WIITWD? To be tied....beatin....spanked, slapped, hair pulled....To be told certain things, in a certain tone of voice. When he has that certain look in his eye... To experience your "D" types power in person....to FEEL his passion...his strength.... You actually feel your soul kneel to this man at times like these.....

So is it just me?....Or can a body REALLY miss this kind of interaction? Please bear in mind that this in no way negates how special I find the other ways I spend time with my own Master.....but if its been awhile....don't you miss it?....just a speck?

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:31:29 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Oh dogfuck, of course it can be missed, on both sides.
Its the spice of life.
I get ancy if I haven't gotten to really take someone down in a while.
Its something I feel in my bones.
Damn right I miss it.
And its been a while for me now.
Thanks for reminding me.
Grins.
I need to whip someone soon.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:34:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		This thread is perfect timing, I just got off the phone with my girl who is Jonesing at this very moment.  To be honest, I myself am even Jonesing it.   I totally know and understand how this does not lesson how special two people feel towards one another either.

I think the physical aspects and how deep things go physically and mentally in person, well frankly it's a pretty damn deep connection to do WIITWD.

But yeah, even us Doms find ourselves Jonesing it, and I had a lot of play time this last weekend.   It's only been a day and half now, and we both are having physical withdrawls.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:40:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Kana and Owner4SexSlave, I feel your pain...lol.... no pun intended! Now I just wish I could feel Masters pain!

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:40:56 AM   
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Or can a body REALLY miss this kind of interaction?

Absolutely.  I certainly find that type of 'chemistry' we have addictive. 

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:44:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

So is this, or can this be a real phenomenon in the wonderful wide world of WIITWD? To be tied....beatin....spanked, slapped, hair pulled....To be told certain things, in a certain tone of voice. When he has that certain look in his eye... To experience your "D" types power in person....to FEEL his passion...his strength.... You actually feel your soul kneel to this man at times like these.....

So is it just me?....Or can a body REALLY miss this kind of interaction? Please bear in mind that this in no way negates how special I find the other ways I spend time with my own Master.....but if its been awhile....don't you miss it?....just a speck?


Absolutely!!  It is like every inch of my body and mind are humming, needing the energy and connection that only comes from that type of interaction.  To know that, in those moments, you are His focus.  To be allowed to let His dominance and your sumbission envelop you completely. Yeah, I can very much relate to what you are talking about breatheasone.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:45:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I haven't had any interactions of this type in several years. Of course I miss it, but my world will not crumble.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:48:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Verysweet and velvetslave, I'm glad you understand, and I'm sorry you understand lol. LaTigresse, I hear you ...and no my world won't crumble either...was just makin conversation

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 7:57:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank goodness it isn't just me.  i wrote my Master a pretty emotional email last night on this topic.  It is something you miss, it is a special way of connecting for both, and it is addicting.  The reason that an online relationship is no good for me is just for this reason... my body needs that kind of interaction. Words, whether written or spoken, just can't fill the gap. 

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:00:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		At some point towards the end of my relationship with my last Master, we quit having sex. And, by sex, I mean, I quit getting beaten. Or, well, anything else. Something happened in our relationship, to the way he saw me as a person, that caused him, well, to continue to love me, but no longer sexually, at all. When we finally broke up, we remained, and still are, very good friends. I used to tease him that I was the only woman on the planet he wouldn't fuck. Anyway, during that difficult time, before he found the nerve to release me, he kept making excuses. And, well, when I am owned, I trust my Master. That is just the way it works. So I believed him - he was just tired, just busy, just didn't have time, ect. ect. I felt strongly that waiting with patience, without complaint, was part of my duty as a slave. But, yes, I missed it.
   My current Master understands some very basic things about me, which my last Master found unacceptable. These were, in fact, the things that caused our breakup. I am mentally ill. The simple fact is, when the demons get to loud - well, being beaten, and beaten well, shuts them up. smoothes out my brain waves. Makes the world a calm, rational place in which I can live comfortably inside my own skin. This past weekend, I woke up sat. morning and simply asked to be hurt. Master beat me. He said, later, that he looked at me when I asked, and decided that it couldn't wait till that night. Thank God for a Master who understands.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:01:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fasn8nsub

Thank goodness it isn't just me.  i wrote my Master a pretty emotional email last night on this topic.  It is something you miss, it is a special way of connecting for both, and it is addicting.  The reason that an online relationship is no good for me is just for this reason... my body needs that kind of interaction. Words, whether written or spoken, just can't fill the gap. 

~slavebitch


I agree... and I get REALLY emotional around my Master...so I understand that too. ** hands slavebitch a Lindt choc truffle**

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:01:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana

And its been a while for me now.
Thanks for reminding me.


[snip]

Quite!

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:09:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		tsatske having someone that understands you is priceless...I'm so glad you have that now....subtee lol...not trying to rub it in....I'm just spreading the pain around!....Like a good little masochist I share

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:15:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I haven't had any interactions of this type in several years. Of course I miss it, but my world will not crumble.


Too true....how about 47 of 'em.  I suppose I only miss it because I've read about it, and no my world will not crumble either, but..........dang, eh?

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:17:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlebitxxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I haven't had any interactions of this type in several years. Of course I miss it, but my world will not crumble.


Too true....how about 47 of 'em.  I suppose I only miss it because I've read about it, and no my world will not crumble either, but..........dang, eh?

Dang indeed!


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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:18:27 AM   
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I am mentally ill. The simple fact is, when the demons get to loud - well, being beaten, and beaten well, shuts them up. smoothes out my brain waves. Makes the world a calm, rational place in which I can live comfortably inside my own skin.


I think there are many instances where masochism (consentual) is quite a release for people with mental health issues.

Especially "cutters", anxiety disorders, bi-polars (in manic OR down-swing), ptsd.  I'm not saying this is a "cure".  I'm saying that proper treatment is necessary, however, many find this a nice "stabilizer" or "quick-release" valve, in addition to their other treatments.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:35:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

So is this, or can this be a real phenomenon in the wonderful wide world of WIITWD? To be tied....beatin....spanked, slapped, hair pulled....To be told certain things, in a certain tone of voice. When he has that certain look in his eye... To experience your "D" types power in person....to FEEL his passion...his strength.... You actually feel your soul kneel to this man at times like these.....

So is it just me?....Or can a body REALLY miss this kind of interaction? Please bear in mind that this in no way negates how special I find the other ways I spend time with my own Master.....but if its been awhile....don't you miss it?....just a speck?


I'm going on five months without any kind of kink or power exchange at all.  It's all taken a backseat to health issues.  It seems that in the last few weeks we are starting to get back to our old selves as his energy level has increased.  I've definitely missed it, but I deal with it because getting frustrated and upset would only add to our stress level.  That's not what's needed at the moment.  So we've replaced the kink with a calm, emotional bonding.  We're just glad to be together.

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 8:36:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		I asked for my Master to release me, I won't go into the reasons why.  The "craving" to be beaten started shortly after that.  Another Master offered to "help".  He beat me using the same type of canes, floggers, paddles, etc.  Everything was the same, the only thing missing was the emotional connection.  The aftercare was missing the bond shared by Master and his slave.  The beating helped just a bit, I didn't get the "warm fuzzies" you feel when your Master beats you. 

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 9:32:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		MistressVnus I have heard other say that its a release to be beaten and spanked.....so you may be right there.

Aileen1968 I'm so glad things are geeting better with you. With me and my Master I hope its not nescessary to REPLACE the kink with calm and emotional bonding, but to have all of the above.

SensualPassion41 thanks for posting your thoughts...I hope you are doing well. 

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RE: Jonesing? - 2/19/2008 10:27:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		It also happens to people in vanilla relationships also :)  Yearning, aching, needing, breaking for touch and connection is certainly not only to be found within kink or Ds dynamics.

Frenzies don't just happen in the beginning, as MasterFireMaam calls them, fireflies are enjoyed throughout the life of a relationship.

However it is a good thing to find that sense of security and peace in the quiet boring times AS MUCH AS in the exciting kinky times.  One without the other is only half the experience.

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