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Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 2:43:03 PM

StormsSlave

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My Lord and I talk to each other a lot, about a lot of things, which is my favorite part of him. Lately, our conversation has circled around the subject of the titles we would like to be called. Before I go too far, please know I judge no one for the choices they make. These are my thoughts and opinions toward my situation.

I would like to find a public form of respectful address that doesn't make me feel like a dumbass. One that I can use in front of friends and family. Calling him Master or Sir or what I call him on here, My Lord, would be awkward. I come from a bunch of beer swilling, baseball cap wearing farmer types, and he's a Australian born southern redneck. Walking into the room and handing him a can of beer, and saying, "Here's your beer, My Lord." in front of any of my five brothers would not only produce gales of laughter, but many, many nosy questions.

I would like to have a term that is just ours. A secret between us. Maybe a sort of clue that I'm in that kind of mood, or merely that I am giving myself over to him at that moment, submitting to his judgement. We both agree that if people ask, we'll tell them. However, I don't see the need to shove it in other people's faces.

How do you handle it? I'd love to hear if this is something you do, or if you carry your titles with you, even in the public world.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 2:45:55 PM

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If I call her anything in public, it'll be an ocassional Maam. Or a reference kind of like, "You're the boss." Mostly, 98% of the time...I just call her what I call her in private.

Her name. Which, of course, I can't repeat on here...so I call her my Owner for forum purposes.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 2:46:29 PM

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So I guess "cupcake" is not a viable option? Why do you have to call him anything?

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 2:48:37 PM

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Why not use his name? In front of family that has always worked for me, and avoids the need to find some nickname that will substitute. Never has been so much about what i call Him, as how i say it, anyway.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 2:52:02 PM

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Darling or honey wont work???

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 2:58:58 PM

LadyHathor

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What about a loving name in another language? or perhaps Sir in another language, I doubt the beer swillers will catch on to that---

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 3:06:03 PM

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I do know a couple who uses Monsieur, and one who uses Cupcake. I have to concur with the others- unless a name spontaneously comes to you both at some point, don't force one upon yourselves.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 3:26:15 PM

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"Sir" I would think is the least awkward form of address. If he's agreeable, "Boss" might be workable as well.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 3:31:01 PM

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I appreciate the thoughts. I had a feeling that this one would be easy to misunderstand. I'm really not into titles so much, except in the heat of the moment. Then he's whatever he tells me he is.

I'm really looking more for a codeword, something I can say on my phone in line at the grocery store. To let him know what kind of mood I'm in, or with others, to let him know I'm giving over control of a situation or conversation to him. I don't think I'm expressing it well.

Lady Hathor...you got it! Lady Albatross as well. I don't intend to force the issue. I will look into some french words, as I have a passing familiarity with the language, and seek My Lord's advice, of course. If we manage to figure it out, great, if not, I'll just settle by whispering in his ear. It's been pretty effective so far.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 6:47:54 PM

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 6:55:01 PM

completenz

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When we first began chatting on-line, before we met in person, we talked about this. We came up with a 'nickname' for each other. These names are both associated with our birth places, and these are what we use all the time when we are alone. In public we tend to use our christian names but, if we should use our other names, well our families just think they are cute. They have no idea of the significance, or impact, of our 'nicknames'.

It works for us, maybe its worth a try?
good luck
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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 7:05:51 PM

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 8:17:20 PM

ownedandcollared

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i have never, ever called Him by His given name in public or in private.

Usually, i avoid calling Him anything in public...its easier than it sounds...but when i have to get His attention verbally...then its Sir...it is respectful and can seem smart-assed to those not in the know, so it works out

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ORIGINAL: StormsSlave

My Lord and I talk to each other a lot, about a lot of things, which is my favorite part of him. Lately, our conversation has circled around the subject of the titles we would like to be called. Before I go too far, please know I judge no one for the choices they make. These are my thoughts and opinions toward my situation.

I would like to find a public form of respectful address that doesn't make me feel like a dumbass. One that I can use in front of friends and family. Calling him Master or Sir or what I call him on here, My Lord, would be awkward. I come from a bunch of beer swilling, baseball cap wearing farmer types, and he's a Australian born southern redneck. Walking into the room and handing him a can of beer, and saying, "Here's your beer, My Lord." in front of any of my five brothers would not only produce gales of laughter, but many, many nosy questions.

I would like to have a term that is just ours. A secret between us. Maybe a sort of clue that I'm in that kind of mood, or merely that I am giving myself over to him at that moment, submitting to his judgement. We both agree that if people ask, we'll tell them. However, I don't see the need to shove it in other people's faces.

How do you handle it? I'd love to hear if this is something you do, or if you carry your titles with you, even in the public world.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/19/2008 8:19:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Darling or honey wont work???

For about the first week i lived with Him, i called Him "babe" (mostly because it was used alot at home, so i wasn't even thinking about it) when not calling Him "Master"

Oh, dear lord. That was such a mistake...

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/20/2008 4:39:56 AM

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I'm going to have this problem this summer when we go visit his sons for the first time. I only call him Daddy or Sir and never call him by his first name to his face. He says to call him what I want, but my fear is to call him Daddy, which I do most of the time. Then we will have to answer questions as to why I call him Daddy. We live in the South, so in our daily life it's not that big of a deal that I call him Sir in public and frankly I don't care what others think. I DO care what his sons will think and I wish my Sir would take this more seriously.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/20/2008 5:53:01 AM

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LOL Stormslave. If someone called me Lord in front of my 7 brothers after they stopped laughing I would tell them to start doing the same. They would probably say how about if we call you shithead. That aside. With my brothers it would not bother them at all.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/20/2008 6:28:55 AM

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lol @myonmar. The truth is I would probably just rub it in their faces that I'm getting steady, seriously kinky sex, and that they are just jealous...lol. It was one example.

I think we like the idea of a foreign word. My Lord likes the idea, but agrees with Lady Albatross: if it doesn't seem right, we aren't going to force it. If it works for us, then we'll try it. So far, our way of working through this works for us: hey, let's try this...does that work for you...great! I'll do it again!! We'll just apply the same principle here, and see what works.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/20/2008 6:30:09 AM

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I prefer my name.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/20/2008 7:13:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I prefer my name.

But Leatherist is a bit of a tongue twister.

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RE: Titles and suggestions... - 2/20/2008 7:21:25 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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during Thanksgiving, Daddy called me while i was visiting family and friends and i answered my mobile phone as loud as i could "hi, Daddy!". didn't get any teasing or questions from those in the room with me. i feel quite comfortable saying His name while chatting on the phone in public. even if He phones while my UMs are in an earshot, i still call Him by His given title.

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