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amayos -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 9:45:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Loveisallyouneed

Certainly one of the challenges I face in my quest is finding someone who lives in the country, or someone who wishes to live in the country.

For some reason there seems to be very few of either, compared to those who are living, or wish to live in the city.

I should like to better understand why so few urban submissives/slaves are willing to make that transition.



It seems to me many are drawn to the seduction of the subculture's urban nightlife—to the clubs and bars and play parties that cater to "the scene" and the mystique surrounding it. The city has a lot of people, and tends to be a little more open and liberal about alternative lifestyles than the social environment often found in the country, too.

With that said, the individual who is content with daily servitude in rustic isolation as a way of life seems rare. I feel most are drawn to the sensational exploration of BDSM and the notion of the "dark and decadent adult play land" image. The city often enables a perfect environment for this.



MissHarlet -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 9:53:06 AM)

I think that just as some like cookie dough ice cream and some want choclate .. it is preference ... some people cant imagine not being able to go to the store or " out " for a drink etc .. any time they want to ... or on a whim and while the convenience is nice there are those of us that prefer to sit and watch the sun come up... or truly see the stars at nite ... to watch the critters go thru the cycle of the seasons ...... to be closer to the spirituality  of nature .. and happily trade that for convenience ....
Its truly just a matter preference ....now if I can just find that male sub that shares my preferences ........



sinclairtoy -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 9:57:38 AM)

I grew up in the sticks (near Bobcaygeon, incidentally. I think I'm recalling the OP's former screenname right...) and it is definitely not for everyone.




OrrisKitten -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 9:58:38 AM)

I am a city girl, 100% and don't see that changing.

Don't get me wrong, I can appreciate the beauty of nature and the silence, but I am a people person and even if it is not talking to people, I need to be around them. I love being in the country for vacations, though. Probably one of my favorite places in the wolrd is extremely isolated and very much in the country. But if I lived there for more than a week at a time I'd go crazy.

Not to mention I love museums, indie films, quirky little shops, public transportation since I don't drive (!!!!!), cell phone service (I live out of my phone which may be sad, but very true and most places I've been in the country my phone doesn't work) and really, I sometimes miss the taste of Brooklyn water when I'm away :)



Sundowner -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:15:30 AM)

 

I've noticed - you American chaps do seem to have rather a lot of country.

In the UK of course half of it's owned by Paul McCartney and the rest by the Duke of Westminster and Prince Charles.

And then you do have these exciting cities (named curiously after large fruit for some reason).

Not that that's anything to do with the OP question. The answer must be that all subs are just disgustingly lazy and can't be bothered to travel. But maybe someone will put me right on that.



IronOre -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:16:39 AM)

Miss the taste of Brooklyn water? But it doesnt taste anything like water! Maybe that's it though. You don't like water.



Mercnbeth -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:20:24 AM)

country life was harsh.  stunning in beauty, but harsh.
 
a rifle, loaded, behind the front door---because the friendly deputy informed us that we needed to be able to take care of whatever predator came our way, human or otherwise, becuase the authorirites wouldn't be able to get out to us fast enough.
 
there were always chores to be done, always.
 
there was always something laying about dead in some state of decomposition.
 
adobe mud stains, forever.
 
bear and mountain lion stalking the livestock and the wee ones.
 
city folk dropping their bags of trash, old appliances and unwanted pets at your gate.
 
30 in the winter, 120 in the summer.
 
poison oak sending your friends from town to the hospital.
 
the small-minded, ultra-conservative, fundamentalist Christian inhabitants that neighbor your acreage sometimes riding over on their horses, drunk as hell, threatening to shoot you.
 
the local social club is full of shit-kicking, tobacco chewing, wrangler-wearing, simple folk determined never to expand their minds beyond their own gate.
 
just a few thoughts about country living, from one who did 20 years of it, and hopes only to visit it, if at all, in the future.



MissHarlet -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:24:16 AM)

LOL I can identify with all of that too .. nothing is perfect .. I grew up with all of that ... but the city had trash blowing everywhere .. noisey neighbors ... traffic noise .. sirens blowing ....etc etc ... again no place is perfect .. I just prefer the country to the city ... thank goodness we can all make our choices and visit both places when we choose for the best of both worlds



Loveisallyouneed -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:39:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

the small-minded, ultra-conservative, fundamentalist Christian inhabitants that neighbor your acreage sometimes riding over on their horses, drunk as hell, threatening to shoot you.
 


See, I just don't think we get a lot of that stuff up here.



MissHarlet -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:40:40 AM)

That is great that you dont ... now I need to find a male sub AND one that wants to immigrate with me to Canada <sigh>



Loveisallyouneed -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:44:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

That is great that you dont ... now I need to find a male sub AND one that wants to immigrate with me to Canada <sigh>


When you think of "Deliverance" remember its a story about Americans, not Canadians.[:D]



MissHarlet -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:46:55 AM)

Those werent Americans .. they are rednecks <EG>



daddysprop247 -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:47:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: IronOre

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

Imagine this: you want a newspaper. Or a cup of coffee. Or simply, you want to go for a walk. In the city, you have an array of choices; you can go to a city park (London is full of them) and find some inspiration there. Or you can choose to meander down streets bustling full of people. You can select an exhibition at an art gallery, or go to a museum. You can wander. If one has a love for humanity, the city's where it's at it :-) .


You want a newspaper? They are delivered (Or look on the internet) You want a cup of coffee? Make one. You want to go for a walk? You have miles and miles, go any direction you want. (city parks are the ugly bastard children of real nature) If you like beauty and art look around, beautiful sky, flowers, animals. If you love humanity the city is not where it's at, I live in one, nobody talks to you, nobody even looks you in the eye in case you might want to interact with them. I also lived in the country, people you dont know say hello and smile as they pass by. Small town grocers start up conversation. If one likes anonomity and distraction the city is where it's at.



couldn't agree more with the above....the cold, distant, superficial, hands-off vibe of most big city or even suburban life lovers is something i don't think i can ever get used to. for me having to go into D.C. for shopping and such is brutal enough...people can't be bothered to waste a thought on their fellow human beings, everyone's wrapped in their own little glass worlds and don't you dare try to shatter that by saying "hello" as you pass them by. it also amazes and depresses me at how many city dwellers are completely oblivious to the plight of the homeless and starving all around them, ignoring their pleas, even casually stepping over them on their way into pricey restaurants with their cell phones perpetually attached to their ear and an extra one strapped to their waist. a sad state of humanity indeed. give me the beauty and warmth of the country anyday, where one in need must only turn to their neighbor for a meal or some shelter, and where mercifully the cellies get bad or no reception.



Loveisallyouneed -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:55:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

Those werent Americans .. they are rednecks <EG>


American rednecks.

Canadian rednecks will stop and push your car out of the ditch before they go on their way.



littleone35 -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 10:59:06 AM)

I am not a city girl or a country girl i live in the burbs and that is how i like it.  Close enough to be in the city in an hour if i so wish (not that i often do) far enough away that don't have the crowds or noise of the city.  Also my Master lives in the burbs so if i lived in the city or country i would be further away from him.  I was raised in a VERY small town that was pretty much the sticks so i like where i am now.

Matt's littleone



OrrisKitten -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 11:03:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
couldn't agree more with the above....the cold, distant, superficial, hands-off vibe of most big city or even suburban life lovers is something i don't think i can ever get used to. for me having to go into D.C. for shopping and such is brutal enough...people can't be bothered to waste a thought on their fellow human beings, everyone's wrapped in their own little glass worlds and don't you dare try to shatter that by saying "hello" as you pass them by. it also amazes and depresses me at how many city dwellers are completely oblivious to the plight of the homeless and starving all around them, ignoring their pleas, even casually stepping over them on their way into pricey restaurants with their cell phones perpetually attached to their ear and an extra one strapped to their waist. a sad state of humanity indeed. give me the beauty and warmth of the country anyday, where one in need must only turn to their neighbor for a meal or some shelter, and where mercifully the cellies get bad or no reception.


If you think it is bad in DC, then there are some other places in the world you NEVER want to go to! I know in parts of Scandinavia they don't even pretend to smile and say hello to you when you buy something. At least here in the states employees generally have to pretend to be happy to help you. In other parts of the world they make it quite clear that they just don't give a shit. Then if you go to places like the Netherlands forget about talking to people... don't even look at them or invade their personal space which seems to be about 10 feet around the person. I've gotten many many dirty looks for daring to go near someone in a supermarket.

While city life may seem cold, I also don't see any people in any parts of the "country" I've been to really helping the homeless or anything, even those facing hard times get cold shoulders and are criticized for being horrible people, bad parents and things like that. The only difference is that in the country you don't have to see it so you don't have to worry about it, which is the luxury of having a lot of space to yourself.



AquaticSub -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 11:11:11 AM)

The country is nice but I know the pleasures of plays, art musuems and other delights. I refuse to live more than a few hours away from these things - I prefer about 45 minutes to a hour away. I've been in the country visiting and had the emergancy of getting my period unexpectedly with no sanity supplies whatsoever and having to decide if I wanted to drive an hour to the nearest open gas station or just make do with toliet paper.

I do very well somewhere between city and country.



Dnomyar -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 11:12:14 AM)

Detroit is a big city. There are no shopping malls in the city. There arent even any big chain stores there. But it isnt named after a fruit.



urtoy -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 11:30:32 AM)

I've lived in the big city, the suburbs, and in communities iof varios sizes all over the country. Yet, I've returned to my rural roots and can't imagine what I ever saw in a vast concrete wasteland. Out here, people are friendly and unpretentious, "dressing up" means wearing the blue jeans without holes in them, the pace of life is as tranquil as one wishes. *Green Acres I am there*



CalifChick -> RE: Country Life vs. City Life (2/21/2008 11:31:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

country life was harsh.  stunning in beauty, but harsh.
 
(big snippage)
 
the small-minded, ultra-conservative, fundamentalist Christian inhabitants that neighbor your acreage sometimes riding over on their horses, drunk as hell, threatening to shoot you.
 


Wow, did we live in the same place? I could relate to all of that. The never-ending chores... chopping wood, taking care of the livestock, tending the gardens, fixing fences...We even had a bonafide cultish commune (Synanon) down the road. But the beauty... the wild blackberries in season, the many natural springs on our property, the deer eating from the crabapple tree in the early mornings, the wild outdoor sex...

What's even stranger to me is, if I was interested in someone who lived in the country, I would do it all over again. We lived in the mountains about an hour or so from real civilization. High enough elevation to be above the smog, although the combination of winter snow and livestock was a serious pain in the rump. And the many rattlesnakes... ughhh.

Cali



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