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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 7:54:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bleusparkles

To no one in particular ...

Some people are way too defensive ... :)

Yeah.  And some people are way too flippant...........luci

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 7:58:17 AM   
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If You found out that due to some medical issue You would never again have sex with Your Dom/Master would You stay? What if He offered to allow You to leave the relationship, would You stay?


Hell YES they would stay!!   I love them for who they are and not for what they do for me!

Besides.... I can always Lust other women for my sexual needs from time to time.....................

Any Volunteers to fill the role??????

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 7:59:53 AM   
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Can you really go back to being damn near virginal after having experienced sex?

Been there, done that...would go through it again even knowing what I know now.

there's alot more to life than sex...

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 8:21:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		If no sex meant no penetrative sex, ever again, as long as I stayed with him, I would like to say that I know for sure that I would stick around, but I honestly don't know because I have never had this happen.  If no sex meant no penetration, no stimulation, not being allowed to stimualte myself...  we would either have to open the relationship a bit or I would have to go.

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 9:20:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would stay.

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 9:53:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Hell YES they would stay!!   I love them for who they are and not for what they do for me!

Besides.... I can always Lust other women for my sexual needs from time to time.....................

Any Volunteers to fill the role??????


ooooohhhhh....Pick me!!!! Pick me!!!! HEH!!! 


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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 10:03:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, first i need to apologize if i mis-informed anyone here. Please know that was not my intention... The truth is i don't know if it's a medical problem or not..... He says he thinks it's a mental issue and He doesn't know what to do to resolve it... He also says He has no issue engaging in masterbation. But can not carry out sexual acts. And He's disappointed in Himself for allowing me to get into a relationship with Him that may end up being completly non sexual. He says i deserve to have a relationship that is going to be fulfilling to me sexually.... He also says i'm an awesome slave. i decided the moment it was offered that i would not be bailing on this relationship. He's agreed to enter counseling to see if it is a psychological issue. i'm still trying to convince Him to have a complete medical check up.......  i guess the biggest challenge for us is going to be he apparently doesn't have any idea or experience with anything other than penetrative sex....So, in my journal today i tried to list things i enjoy more than that...We'll see where things go...
It's just been a lot for me to think about. And frankly, a part of me is just grateful that He was honest with me because i had been personalizing this and thinking He wasn't touching me because i'm repulsive looking.
Kali


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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 11:42:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have to wonder kali...

Was it fair for him to get you invested into the relationship before revealing his secret? Shouldn't honesty about sexuality and the ability to engage in sex or not be one of those issues discussed BEFORE getting into a relationship?
Was it fair for him to let you sit and wonder whether or not the problem was due to your own attractiveness ( I would think that would be a sore point, given what you posted on another thread), thereby feeding your own insecurity before coming clean with it?
From what you have told us on other threads, he has been a caring and kind and loving individual...but how much easier is it to appear even more so when you are not being like all other guys and pushing a bit for sexual involvement? But when that push is not due to some noble core on your part but rather due to a medical condition that you keep hidden? And then reveal it when you also give the person you are revealing it to the opportunity to leave? While telling them that they are an awesome slave?

I'm sorry but it seems a bit wrong to me.

~puts on the flame suit~

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 11:55:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hello new to the forums -First post
       This thread really grabbed me I've been at a crossroads with this it's been a real struggle to keep everything in perspective .
        What's happened to my Master well it's beyond his control and my loyality faith and trust are constantly being put to the test it seem's.
My love and honor hasn't changed cause the situation has I still wear the collar with pride in hopes things will improve .
        It's so great to read all the support in this area. A sad topic but thanks to the op for sharing .              
                       Ginger             

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 12:10:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd like to think relationships are not wholly about sex.

That said, there's no reason he can't orally satisfy you, right, or use toys.  There's no reason why the two of you can't work out a poly relationship structure so you can get the needs you have met without him taking offense or being jealous.

Life sometimes deals a crappy hand.  It's how you choose to handle that that truly shows your strength of character.

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RE: would You stay? - 2/23/2008 4:43:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		um.  If we are taking my definition of sex (which is broad) then no. 
If you suddenly became severaly disabled, I'd hang for a bit, but in the end I'd move on.  I am not married, you see?  sickness and health till death has not been sworn.  I can go when I get bored, become exhausted or constantly angry, neglected or needed too much.  Sexual contact is important.  I will not live my life without it for anyone except perhaps myself.

Had I been married?  committed in that sense (whichever word you use)  well, I would be bound by my word now wouldn't I?

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