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ORIGINAL: Skully7000

as a master do you feel you keep your cards close or lay it all out there.

if you lay it all out there do you feel that it takes away from your dominance? or enhances it?

not sure how to actually form my question or what i'm thinking about to give those a better idea of what i'm getting at but I'll leave it as is and let You run with it!
Cheers
Skully

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ORIGINAL: Skully7000

as a master do you feel you keep your cards close or lay it all out there.

if you lay it all out there do you feel that it takes away from your dominance? or enhances it?

not sure how to actually form my question or what i'm thinking about to give those a better idea of what i'm getting at but I'll leave it as is and let You run with it!
Cheers
Skully

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I'm not sure what you mean, OP, so I'll give you an example from my last weekend, and you can say whether it pertains.

I'm in a new relationship, and my sub told me anal sex was one of her favorite things.  Now, I received a strapon at the age of 24, but had made it to the age of 39 as a "anal-thruster" virgin.  It's never been a big fantasy of mine, nor any partner I've had, so I never did it.

I told her that I had never done what she was asking, and it was her responsibility to guide me through and ensure we both had a great experience.  She accepted that.  Later on, we got physical, and I was in charge.  I introduced anal at a time that surprised (and pleased) her.  During the actual event, I stayed still and she backed into me.  Physically, she controlled the entire situation -- following my orders, so I controlled the sitch mentally.  Result: fine for a first time.  I'll improve with practice.

The story is a sexual one, but it indicates how I deal with pretty much everything in life.  The question is not whether to reveal my cards, but : What information should I provide this person to get the maximum out of the situation?

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Why did you use a strapon as your profile says your male?
BadOne

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ORIGINAL: Skully7000

alright I have an example: a dom I know has any of his long term play partners fill out an interests Sheet. this covers a vast array of interests and classifies them(similar to the CM profiles) as curious, level of experience and hardlimites ect.  now he requires this of Subs he will be playing with on a regular basis. but then he will turn around and say: but I don't fill it out i'm the dom. he says it in a joking way and i'm not faulting him for it but thats how he chooses to play his cards.

and yes Steel we are playing poker...Twue doms have already got there packs in the mail I'm sure yours are on there way... don't worry though they are the ninja cards with the razor sharp edges so we can all have fun throwing them into our subs:)

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ORIGINAL: Lumus

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ORIGINAL: Skully7000

alright I have an example: a dom I know has any of his long term play partners fill out an interests Sheet. this covers a vast array of interests and classifies them(similar to the CM profiles) as curious, level of experience and hardlimites ect.  now he requires this of Subs he will be playing with on a regular basis. but then he will turn around and say: but I don't fill it out i'm the dom. he says it in a joking way and i'm not faulting him for it but thats how he chooses to play his cards.

and yes Steel we are playing poker...Twue doms have already got there packs in the mail I'm sure yours are on there way... don't worry though they are the ninja cards with the razor sharp edges so we can all have fun throwing them into our subs:)

I don't know many subs or slaves who would offer a list of their skills and limits without receiving [or wanting to receive] some similar information in return.

Flip the situation for a second.  Someone calls you on the phone and asks for your social security number and all of your credit card numbers.  Would you just hand them over?  Would you ask, "Umm...why?"?  Would you perhaps hang up the phone...?

If you treat a sub to your aforementioned joke, chances are they will perceive you as one.

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If by 'laying out your cards' you mean being frank and forthright, then most people will probably answer in the affirmative...well, except for CelticLord, who enjoys ephemeral and "honesty through tangent acknowledgement"-al commentary.

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ORIGINAL: Skully7000

I do get what you are saying and agree. the difference in the case is that the trust has already been earned/established in the relationship in order to make it a "regular play partner" so while I agree with your point it doesn't apply here.
and without Hijacking my own thread: it starts involving the concept of Subs/slaves doing Homework for their Dom. I know many  subs/slaves that do homeowork, but very few doms that do.

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

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If by 'laying out your cards' you mean being frank and forthright, then most people will probably answer in the affirmative...well, except for CelticLord, who enjoys ephemeral and "honesty through tangent acknowledgement"-al commentary.

The other option was just too obvious:

You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when youre sittin at the table.
Therell be time enough for countin when the dealins done.