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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 4:08:30 PM

MARAA

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I can see during the right healthy circumstances, and with positive enforcement instead of negative, Im sure it would work. But I couldnt have namecalling,ridicule or humiliating,after a childhood with constant bombardement for beeing fat-I wasnt- it would simply damage my soul. It would be like be cast back to childhood and the relationship would crash right there. I wonder if any that have experienced huge bullying in this area would get anything positive out from it?
Also it must be healthy, and I do not want someone to try get me into societys mall of perfection or thinness. I would think it would be enough to work from MY body. Not someone else.

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 4:10:57 PM

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i couldn't agree more with what Maraa says.. or put my own thoughts any better.. thank you!

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 4:25:27 PM

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I wouldn't mind my weight and exercise being monitored I very much want my partner to be in control of that, even though the one I have now won't do that and honestly it's cause it'd be more work than it's worth. However I like my food to much to allow someone else to dictate to me what will and will not be eaten. For short scenes it may be fun but not for a regular thing.

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This looks like a very diverse and intelligent online community, so I thought I would leave a message with regard to the specific fetish I have, in case there were other like-minded doms or subs, esp. gay male. After a number of very intensive experiences with dominant trainers, initially unsought but then subsequently sought out through personal ads, I have a deep turn-on to what I discover is being called "sadorexia" within certain circles: having my food controlled, my diet restricted, my weight obsessively and demandingly monitored by a dominant top trainer. For ten years I have posted on various online boards but have yet to contact anyone with a similar interest or set of experiences. So I thought I would post here and see if there is anyone experienced or interested in same.

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 4:31:05 PM

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That's great but for me, I find when the person goes away or the control stops I stop too. I have yet to find the motivation in me to keep me going if they stop.

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I think it's hot. I get off on using control to help people become the best they can be. But everyone knows I'm not a true Dom.

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 5:16:03 PM

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You can be unhealthy on the inside and not look it on the outside, and that needs to be watched too just as well as not being healthy on the outside.

Interesting thread. I don't overwhelmingly dictate my girl's food intake; nor does she demand it. However, I have often chided her in the past in one way or another - mainly due to two factors, the illnesses she's had that suppress her desire to eat; and her body type [she is quite petite]. I have no concern over her consumption as long as it does not cause her to become unhealthy, so I suppose it can't be deemed a specfic fetish. Since we do have a D/g dynamic, I would agree it falls under how a Daddy looks after his girl.

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 5:26:08 PM

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I can see during the right healthy circumstances, and with positive enforcement instead of negative, Im sure it would work. But I couldnt have namecalling,ridicule or humiliating,after a childhood with constant bombardement for beeing fat-I wasnt- it would simply damage my soul.

Wow... what an incredibly different spin on it. In our house, there is no name calling, humiliation, or, for that matter, positive reinforcment other than I tend to drool more when she's more on the slimmer side. In our house, there is simply me, telling her what she may eat and how she will exercise that day. Then I take the measurements and numbers, write em down, put em in excel and run my various charts and graphs so I can see progress. If necessary, I make adjustements to the diet and exercise plan and we do the same the next day.

Carol obeys me. On what possible basis would I ridicule her? If I want her to be slimmer, more toned, blonder, or anything else, I just make her that way. One of the interesting things that happens in a TPE situation is that, by definition, if I don't like something, it's my fault.

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/13/2009 10:11:50 PM

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A couple of men I've dated have asked for help with diet/exercise, but it wasn't a D/s control thing, more that having someone they were accountable to helped motivate them better. I've also helped a couple of friends/workout buddies that way. I prefer to stay toward the heavier end of the range I look good in, since I lose weight scarily quickly if it's hot, I get sick, or I get stressed out. I enjoy several physically active hobbies, and compete in a form of gymnastics, so I'm pretty fit. My Master sometimes helps me with my stretches, since I have a better range of motion with his help, and it's fun!

In the past, I've turned down a couple of guys who wanted to date me, but only if I were willing to get down to 100 pounds (I'd be in the hospital with an IV in my arm and a feeding tube down my nose) or up to over 170 (I'd have to give up my fun active hobbies/lifestyle, and even so, I doubt I'd be able to put on that much weight in any reasonable timeframe). I pretty much told them to find someone who was already in the weight range/build they desired. I'm not willing to compromise my health in either way.

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RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia - 8/15/2009 7:23:45 AM

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Most of the sub girls I have worked with have really insecure feelings about their bodies. In my opinion venturing into humiliation & name calling with these types of females would be counter productive. (Some get off on being called a fat piggy slut, but I don'nt venture there unless it is a deep desire of theirs) Normally my training is "result" based with positive reinforcement for progress. My goal is to help my girl get where she would like to go but has character issues that twart here efforts or she is basically lazy and needs a push.

I do like many of the OP's experiences and will incorporate some of them.

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