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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 4:37:28 PM

RedMagic1

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Too late Ron. Now we all know that you are, well, nice. Bwahahahah.

Softness already told me. So you've been busted for a while.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 4:38:09 PM

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It wasn't. Others try to stir drama where it is not.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 4:52:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

If 'la fuente de mi serenidad es él' then maybe you can find comfort in your service to your Sir.

So you've made some piss poor choices. But you can stop making them. You can choose to ignore this person. You can choose to find support and comfort in the people in your life willing to give it like friends, family, and your Sir.

June has some of the "best eyes" on CM...I hope this helps the op get through her time of tribulation.

I myself have found comfort in this many times. ;)

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 7:04:32 PM

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To the OP~

I have been drawn in by chat and phone talks, too, and I have set myself some pretty stringent guidelines when getting to know a Dom:

If you start to talk about "real life" and he keeps bringing the conversation back to sex and/or BDSM, discontinue the contact. he is not interested in you.

If he claims you are "his slave" and you haven't even set eyes on one another, laugh and tell him you belong to someone, you aren't desperate, and you have the time to research your options as to another Dom.

If, when you discontinue contact, he vilifies you and calls you all sorts of names, I have three words for you:

CONSIDER THE SOURCE!

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 7:05:57 PM

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The same works for dominas talking to subs......amazing!

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 7:22:45 PM

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He needs to figure out what the hell he wants-and quit waffling to save his ego.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 8:24:33 PM

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um ok what moron came up with this. beat the dog stupid thingy omg slap that maggott any how simple idealistic approch is like this. if you break it you may never be able to fix it so tread lightly on this

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 8:28:57 PM

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/2/2008 8:41:42 PM

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Well, you are now on your 4th page of responses so, i'm not sure what i can add, but i will include my thoughts, any way and hope that they might be of some use.

1) If you really want to be with this man and, he's not really satisfied with you the way you are now, then, yes, he would need to reshape you to his liking. Or, that is, he would have to try to reshape you. There's no guarantee that you would ever become exactly what he wants, no matter how much you would like that or how much he would try to make it happen.

2) So far, it sounds as though his techniques have centered on manipulation and intimidation and, that they don't seem to have had any positive effect on you. In fact, it didn't sound like you really had much of anything positive to say about him. Maybe he has some other techniques he could try on you that might be more successful. Maybe not. For me, manipulation and intimidation have never worked, except in causing me to walk away and never look back. But, that's me.

3) Rather than find someone who wants to change you or revise you to his liking, maybe looking for someone who would want you the way you are and who could bring out the qualities that you already have would be a better way to go about it. Just because one man doesn't see you as an obedient and pleasurable slave doesn't mean that another man wouldn't, without having to break you first. Just a thought.

Hoping it all works out well for you,
joy
Owned servant of Master David

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ORIGINAL: missturbation
In short He claims i need breaking so He can build me up into an obedient pleasurable slave. Hes broken me alright but i dont think its in a good way at all! Ive given up, He wins. I told Him this and asked Him if He was now happy, he says no!! Apparently my attitude still stinks!
Now though He has my head spinning and im questioning whether i really do need breaking and fixing in some way shape or form?

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/3/2008 12:24:30 PM

missturbation

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Secondly, what the heck is Dom B doing during all of this? Sitting back and watching you get walked all over? Doing a fine job of taking care of his property.....??

Thinking kitten.
Sir at this moment has no idea about this guy. I have not mentioned him yet as we were only talking. Had it of gone further i would then have spoken to Sir about him. My relationship is one of where we see who we like and dont necessarily tell or need to tell each other anyway.

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Read it once and throw it fucking out. It's really bad advice...You are broken...Ron is right. There is something wrong with your decision making process. Repeating.. “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!” ...Doesn't make it so...You are a seemingly pretty groovy chick...Figure out what is wrong.. Fix it and then blow me.

Domiguy
I'd blow you any day

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You break my heart, misst. You sound exactly as I did prior to leaving my last dominant. I am an advocate of building up, not breaking. And I believe building something up can be achieved without breaking it, first.

owned girlie
Sometimes its just nice to know im not alone and others have been there and got past it.
Thank you xx

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Yep...you definitly need me to bust your head a couple times till you get back on track

irishmist
yup yup and yup lol

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I really do try not to be judgemental, but it baffles me that there are two pages of answers to this. This is not even a real problem. The OP even said she never met this person. One reply even said that there was nothing wrong with her, but with him...i beg to differ. i don't know about "wrong", but there is something unhealthy with being this heart broken and upset over someone you never even met and who is probably showing you completely fake pictures of these supposed slaves. WHO CARES??? Get out of your box. If you want to feel badly because someone you never met does not think you are good enough you probably just convinced a whole bunch of people with this post. Now you can feel really terrible.

housedv8
Yep i let someone i had never met fuck me over twice. Yep it hurt and still does. Yes i came to cm to rant a little, vent a little, hear some encouraging words and some get a grip ones too. Does that make me a bad person? Maybe, maybe not. Does it make me not good enough to serve? Nope i think not.

Thank you to all who posted

Also thank you to those who privately mailed me too. I will get round to replying soon, pub drama and hard work lol allowing. xx

Edited to show decorum

< Message edited by missturbation -- 3/3/2008 12:35:02 PM >

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/3/2008 2:59:37 PM

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No, it doesn't make you a "bad person", misst. Hope all gets squared away.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/3/2008 8:21:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Now though He has my head spinning and im questioning whether i really do need breaking and fixing in some way shape or form?

He makes your head spin in a bad way, and question yourself. Forgive me, but if he had any of your best interests at heart, he would help you think CLEARLY and reflect on if you are happy with who you are.

He's a waste of your time, the only thing that needs to be fixed is his interuption of your peace of mind.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/3/2008 8:29:12 PM

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He makes your head spin in a bad way, and question yourself. Forgive me, but if he had any of your best interests at heart, he would help you think CLEARLY and reflect on if you are happy with who you are.

I totally agree with that.

While a Master may push your limits at times, it is generally to encourage you to grow and become more of who you are, to develop yourself in a positive manner. Using tactics that confuse and demean are not ones I would agree with (unless that is what the sub wants).

In this case I believe you are better off without him definatly. 'Block' and 'Delete' are wonderful tools to help get over online heartbreaks and problems.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/3/2008 9:59:27 PM

SubbieOnWheels

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Think what it means to "break" a horse. It means to change it from a spirited, free being to a dull thing that can be led around and bridled. Is that what you want? Do you want to be changed from what you are, what you - and more importantly, your Sir - have been quite happy with? Changed into who knows what? For once you allow this man to "break" you, you will have no say in what you become. Do you really want that - to lose yourself?

I know that many slaves cede total power to their Masters, but they don't give over their very individuality. And that's what it seems this man is demanding of you.

Be kind to yourself - to your self - and walk away.

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RE: Do i really need to be broken and then fixed??? - 3/4/2008 12:16:25 AM

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misst, it sound like this prospective dom loves to play games with your mind. It seems also that you have participated in this game of his. Its something that has intrigued me in the past as i myself had exposed myself and feel stimulation into how mind games can develop. The uncertainty of what will happen next or where are and what is required can be pretty stimulating for a submissive that does like to explore or let the D play with there mind and make or try and make them feel inadequate or maybe cultivate the idea in them of becoming something that is challenging for them.

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