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RE: Asking permission - 3/3/2008 10:39:08 PM

SubbieOnWheels

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
I think there is failure in understanding this concept. It's not about busy work or a submissive who necessarily wants to ask permission to go pee. It's about a dominant exercising his authority in the manner he wishes and submissive yielding to it. Yes, not all submissives would like it and not all dominants do it. But some do and enjoy it.

And therein lies the crux of the whole thing. Each of us - D-type and s-type - is different. The trick is finding the right "lid" for your particular "pot."

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RE: Asking permission - 3/4/2008 6:38:48 AM

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What is it that makes some subs need permission?

it isn't anywhere close to being a "need", for this slave.

it is what Master wants and because pleasing Him is paramount, she does it.

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RE: Asking permission - 3/4/2008 9:37:39 AM

Daddyslilpookie

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This slave isn't allowed to talk to anybody on the internet let alone another Dom. I am however to ask permissiom before going anywhere or seeing anyone, but going pee that is a little extreme for us. My Master would find it extremely annoying if I asked him little things like that. That is just how my Daddy is everyone is different. You have to do what works for you. Think outside the box that is just my input.

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RE: Asking permission - 3/4/2008 2:49:49 PM

Tapestry

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ORIGINAL: SubbieOnWheels

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied
I think there is failure in understanding this concept. It's not about busy work or a submissive who necessarily wants to ask permission to go pee. It's about a dominant exercising his authority in the manner he wishes and submissive yielding to it. Yes, not all submissives would like it and not all dominants do it. But some do and enjoy it.

And therein lies the crux of the whole thing. Each of us - D-type and s-type - is different. The trick is finding the right "lid" for your particular "pot."

Good point - I do certain things that please Master, which might not please a different M-type. Finding the right lid for my pot

was very important, but also, being willing to allow Master to reshape my pot to fit His lid is also important.

As for the original OP, I must ask permission to spend money, other than grocery shopping. Manicures and pedicures are almost always allowed, but I still ask first. Hair style, color, etc are His to decide, as is what clothing and jewelry I wear. Then there are things like what He wishes me to pack in His lunch, what He wants for dinner (although I can offer choices based on what is available in the freezer/pantry). For U/us, bathroom use and other personal hygiene are not things to ask permission for. He really prefers that I handle such things on my own.

There are many more things that I can't specifically recall. In general how money is spent, how I present myself through behavior and appearance in the world (since I am an extension of Him), and anything else that affects Him and has some impact on Him.

Things I specifically do not ask permission for are things pertaining to O/our son. I certainly value input from Master, and will often try to follow His suggestions, but the bottom line is that I am respsonsible for this child in every way imaginable, and I know him better than anyone else on this planet knows him. He has been a part of me since his conception, and he and I have lived through a LOT before Master entered our lives. I did carefuly choose a Master who would be a good fit with my son, and they get along incredibly well - better than I could have ever hoped for. But at the end of the day, I'm the one that has the final say in issues pertaining to the child.

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RE: Asking permission - 3/5/2008 11:41:28 AM

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I was sent a mail on cm offering me advice but he said please dont respond unless you ask for permission from your Sir. I asked through his slave, and she said, "wow you have to ask permission for that" it got us talking about what you have to ask permission for. She sees me as the font of all knowledge (which I am not) and wants me to list things in that sort of vain that you ask permission for, i was just wondering if anyone could help me out so i dont loose my crown :D

Im allowed to talk to subs on this site.......Doms....i need permission...and after a few bad experiences i can see why....their are lots of sub thiefs around ...Doms that dont want to steal u but just use u for a bit behind ur Doms back....after talking to a few people thinking they just wanted to be online friends i find out they want to meet....and they dont want to talk to my Daddy...so now he reads my emails and decides if i can carry on a conversation with a Dom....I dont mind...it makes it easier for me my Daddy can weed out all the players.

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RE: Asking permission - 3/5/2008 12:02:31 PM

colouredin

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Yeah but surely you have to LET yourself be stolen?

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RE: Asking permission - 3/5/2008 6:34:21 PM

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I'm not aware of anything at this point in time for which I'm required to seek his permission... though I do consult him quite often to see if he approves before I make a decision.

I admit that I do worry about doing that too much. Seeking his approval on every little thing... even major things... would feel like I'm trying to shove responsibility onto him. It is up to him just how much responsibility that he is willing to accept at any given time. It's not my place to make him take more... just because I might want him to.

While I'm perfectly capable of making decisions on my own, sometimes I'd simply rather not and sometimes I'd very much like to feel that yummy submissive feeling I get when deferring to him. But making him take charge of something that he has no interest in controlling at the moment kinda defeats the idea that I'm submitting to him, ya know?

It's been particularly hard recently as I've been struggling with deciding about my housing. As my current lease is up, I've been seeking more suitable accommodations and have had a hard time making a final decision. Firm has been wonderfully supportive and has given me invaluable advice, but I confess that I have fantasized about him simply telling me, "I've decided where you are going to live, pet."

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